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  • Ages 20–99
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My details

Last online
Today – 12:53pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
When drinking
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Libra, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Sales / Marketing
Open relationship
Doesn’t want kids
Has dogs and has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
activist-artist-queer-southern-poly-feminist-frequently in one helluva pair of cowboy boots-femme.

i'm a trashy rural queer stuck under big city lights. my bones ache for home and for community and i can't seem to have it all at once. i am co-curating a performance art show and exhibition about queer southerners. you can learn more about it here:

i surround myself with radical queers, genuine folx, and those who have somethin' to say.

looking to meet raucous queers, gender warriors, fierce femmes, and generally any queer of the pervy persuasion.

i am too much, white trash, and c-l-assy
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
creating beauty and fucking shit up, always.

i spent 10 years in queer non-profits and just made a leap to social media marketing for a food company. i feel like i am slowly getting my life back after major NPIC burnout.

seeking/building femme community and mentorship. livin' as wholly as i can by the radical, babely principles of the femme sharks.

co-curating an art show on queer southern migration.

living in a house of glitter and charm. occasionally we host skillshares and community gatherings.

burlesque-ing it up from time to time both solo and in duets/groups.

embarking on some serious self-growth and personal work (oh hay saturn return).

i have one fine and charming primary boifriend, Electro_Boi whom i adore. we are in an open relationship that is supportive of new dates and sweethearts.

photographing queer experience and magic.

running and thriving on my optimal speed of rowdy.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
shoe shopping, getting what i want (it's true), multi-tasking, color coordinating, queer youth organizing, meeting people where they're at, laughing at myself, dating advice, my former boss says i give "good phone"... oh baby. folx have said i have a way of making them feel at home.

i have the best butch-dar of anyone i know. and a really big femme embrace.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
smile, red hair, face metal, my 80s rocker hooker style. and most likely my curves. and if i'm tired or drinking, folks will pick up on my accent and exclaim excitedly, "where are you from?! you sound southern!"

ya don't say...
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
some favorite literature-type things include "exile and pride: disability, queerness, and liberation," the graphic novel "blankets," and poems by southern writer jo mcdougall. in love with vivian maier's photographs, who by the way, i am convinced was a homo. anybody with me on this?

as for movies, i love kids movies because i'm never disappointed and i always laugh. i love mad men, joan halloway-harris- what a woman! big fan of nashville, scandal, game of thrones, and friday night lights. i'm also pathetically addicted to all things teenage and vampire.

for food, i prefer the cruelty-free kind. but lately i've been trying just about anything if it looks good.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
femme community and solidarity
the feeling i get when i look at an old school bulldagger
intentional, hard, and loving conversations
family of choice and blood
arkansas flatland
big gender outfits
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
butch tops, kink, the south, gender, critical theory, anti-racism, power dynamics, femme mentorship and herstory, allyship, language choices, fat politics, butch tops, the politics of polyamory, vacillating between seriously and not so seriously considering starting a support group called "power bottoms unite," my banging shoe collection, butch tops, rural, queer youth activism, ... did i say butch tops?

plotting my queer country revolution...because rural folks speak to my soul better than anyone i know. my lifelong desire is to build radical queer rural community that loves and supports each other in ways that small town and country people always do, but with a ferocity and loyalty only queers can ever really understand. i want best femme friends who bake together and then leave the pies cooling while we go fight for revolution in our cowboy boots and lace aprons. i want genderqueer and trans liberation through skillshares and potlucks in grassy fields. i want queer youth support and activism, where youth demand visibility and justice in their small town schools and communities.

i want, so much.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
as of late i've swung to the domestic side of life, so sometimes i spend time in, writing letters, playing scrabble, watching netflix. other times i'm out with my femme posse causin' trouble and lookin' good. i like dates in remote and quirky locations. my friend Pizza Cupcake says i am a "destination fucker."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i hold two pageant titles.
i'm tired of making the first move.
a lot of people read me as a top (i'm not). i'm bossy and i will tell you what i like.
i have a penchant for the butch of center. silver foxes, long-haired butches/LHBs, service tops, country boys, smart boys, and those who love having femme energy in their lives.
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You should message me if
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you have a big gender and a big attitude
you bring down patriarchy with ferocity and style
you like to talk about poly, kink, and justice
you love curvy grrls
you are a butch/genderqueer/MoC Top and want to ask a hot high femme out on a date
butch/femme is deconstructive, radical, and totally badass to you
you want to send cute postcards to each other