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35 Birmingham, UK Woman


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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28-39
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Today – 3:04am
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
A little extra
Not at all
Other but it’s not important
Working on Post grad
Doesn’t have kids but might want them
English, Portuguese (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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The first thing you should know about me is that I'm not actually a drag queen as my profile picture suggests but I am a total geek (or know it all - depending on your perspective - which is probably based upon the who wants to shag who and how much directive). Not a WOW, or War Hammer geek though. Put your tongue back in your mouth and your 12 sided die away! I mean that I like real intellectual pursuits. I like understanding the cutting edge of topics and discussing philosophy at length, with people who have good vocabulary. I read New Scientist and am about 14 months away from completing a PhD researching Amazonian Shamanism in Britain.

I'm hoping to find someone with a spark of adventure and excitement. someone happy in their life but also who has drive to do bigger, better, more interesting and fun things. But it seems I keep striking up great conversation with great guys and just abandoning them as my life gets in the way and I forget to return to my profile. I do want to date - honestly - I just keep forgetting to.

To be fair I'm a bit put out at my personality report, don't believe it!! it's all lies I tells ye - it say's I'm:
Less Good-Natured
Less Sex-Driven
Less Into Exercise
Less Scientific
Less Wholesome
Less Friendly

I'm all of those things dammit. For a start I cycle 10 miles a day, and dance when I can. I'm a God damn Social Scientist, and we have to find just as much rationale for our theories and claims than anyone working in the STEM subject fields!!! So there!!!! (as you cross out wholesome, friendly and good-natured).
What I’m doing with my life
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Studying a PhD, part time.
Blogging and writing about academia.
Working as an Admin assistant despite almost daily reminders that I should be doing much more with my time.
Some community work.
Playing my guitar for no good reason other than I want to.
Attempting to understand consciousness, spirit and the question to which 42 is the answer.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Coming up with elaborate and ambitious projects, losing hours, thinking of books I'll never write, embarrassing myself over the potential of love, agonising over work only to find a type-o too late, being self critical, talking about my passions to the point I realise I sound like a lecturer, keeping to agreements.
The first things people usually notice about me
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That would definitely be the hair colour of the moment. It goes from deep Fuchsia to candyfloss pink and back in a two monthly cycle.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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BOOKS: Art/design, psychology, biographies, Douglas Adams, contemporary fiction,Terry Pratchett, DBC Pierre, Carlos Castaneda. Since taking up research my reading time is spent primarily on related non-fiction (shamanism, DMT, methogologies, philosophy of religion etc).

MOVIES: Eternal sunshine for the spotless mind, Batman, marvel comic adaptations, psychological thrillers, art house, most action, horror, good stoner comedies, The Extraordinary Adventures of Adèle Blanc-Sec (and a good few Luc Besson movies), definitely Christopher Nolan's work, Pi, Primer, Memento, The Prestige, anything with Christian Bale in (except Mary, Mother of Jesus), The Game, Donny Darko, Revolver, Spider, Inception, The imaginarium of Dr Parnassus, Mr Nobody, Cloud Atlas, Lynch, Gilliam, Cubrik, Cronenburg, Fincher. Ex machina is my most favourite watch recently. And Chappie.

MUSIC: Most tunes, in fact anything goes if I am in a good mood: trip-hop, dub step, hip-hop, breaks, metal, jungle, acoustic, reggae, dance hall, soul, blues, rock, alt-rock, Psy-trance etc. Love Incubus, Deftones, Beth Orton, PJ Harvey, Nina Simone, Turin Breaks, Tribe Called Quest, Distillers, Hendrix, Pink Floyd, Bob Dylan, Paul Simon, Gomez, UNKLE, Kate Bush, Dub FX, Muse, Zero 7, Surgeon and then some.

TV: Not much. Whedon stuff, Game of Mother Freaking Thrones!!! Peaky Blinders.

FOOD: My diet is a nightmare. I have type 2 diabetes and have to be ridiculously careful about everything. Essentially I have to eat super healthy. No sugar, no unrefined carbs, and a small amount of complex carbs. Yes it's sucky sometimes. All the time. No I don't expect you to have to eat like me.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Apart from the obvious survival necessities.
Good friends
Mascara (don't judge, I have albino eyelashes! )
My mind and the ability to communicate my thoughts.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to fit everything into just one lifetime. How many of you guys put that you are poly on your profile just to see if you can get away with it.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Sleeping off the week so I can put all my energy into the weekend.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I got diagnosed with diabetes and it destroyed me for a little while there. All good now though :) apart from the disabled pancreas, and the supremely annoying dietary requirements, and strict medication regime.
You should message me if
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it would divert a major catastrophy. Definitely.
You have a huge..... wait for it.... bookcase.