*Using OkCupid with the purpose of finding someone to be in a relationship with. In fact, your ultimate goal is to get off OkCupid if things go well with this lady because you value your relationships offline more than online.
* In order to reach objective above, you understand that we must meet in person. You don't rely on hiding behind texting or messages on here to get to know the other person. You understand that in order to get a girlfriend..you must leave the virtual world and meet in the real world.
* Because you realize you must meet in the real world, you are f'cking amazing at initiating conversation, following up on your words/plans, avoiding dating games/immature/disrespectful behavior, call when you say you will call and actually keep plans.
* You also realize that communication is absolutely key in getting a girlfriend which means you let the girl know if it isn't a match because you know she can handle it or if you are really feeling her and are excited to get to know each other because she likes to hear that too.
* And finally, you are not using this website as a way to waste your day away, to boost your self esteem by getting 1 million girls to like you and you talk to all of them but have no plans to meet any of them, you are married/in a current relationship or open relationship and this is your option for a sex friend to add to the mix.
And to all my fellow daters, I suggest we all live by this rule: http://markmanson.net/fuck-yes
Hoping to find a cool cat that:
- likes to have fun;
-has an interest in what's going on in the world, art, music, and social justice;
-is a bit quirky with some edge to them;
-likes to dance, cook, perhaps go for a bike ride; and tends to make traveling a priority (and I don't mean a trip to Tijuana, Rosarito or Ensenada, Bahamas, or some comfortable 5 star resort. I've traveled to off the beaten path locales that a lot of people have never heard of. Would be nice to meet someone who A) has done the same thing or B) is open to do this!).
When you hang out with me what you get is the following: a woman that is a bit quirky, has a great sense of humor, someone who likes to debate and discuss what is happening in the world, a laid back attitude, a pretty decent dance partner, someone who can and likes to cook and a music aficionado.
While my family lives in the area, I just moved to LA after living in DC for 8 years. Glad to be on the left coast again and look forward to exploring the city with someone.