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My self-summary
NOTE: currently not looking for anyone for anything. profile active for other reasons. thanks (12/19/13)

i'm an empty essay ... fill me out! no, wait, that's what OKC said, not me. er, um, that's not right. i'm far from empty, although i like the idea that i am an essay. because you know (shhh, it's politically incorrect to say this) some people are just titles, or concepts, or ... ok, that was the end of my attempt at metaphor. (bear with me, i'm attempting this again in spite of past experience and present reservations); so goofing around seems as good a start as any.
What I’m doing with my life
goofing around. no, that's not true. i'm doing lots of stuff, some fun, some work, always toward "the better" for myself and other living creatures on this poor beset planet. always growing and tending those creatures of whatever species, adventuring, nosing around, and creating photographic art.
I’m really good at
both asking *and* answering questions, being curious, fearless (except when fear is appropriate), making things beautiful, helping things work better, change, dedication, photography (even without the actual technical skills, seeing as i'm kind of a luddite), investigating, articulating, blahblahblah ...

(hey, how come there isn't a "i'm not really good at" section?)
The first things people usually notice about me
my size (short and sweet), smile (bright and embracing).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
oh this one always gets me - let's just say "most of them".
The six things I could never do without
skin, and touching it
talking to/with animals, and touching them touching me
(isn't that a song?)
black tea
give & take
I spend a lot of time thinking about
every thing. never a dull moment inside this big head of mine.
(my hat size surpasses all the men in my family.)

how my highest percentiled matches are most often a decade or two younger than i. (i like making up words from other words. descriptive linguistics are the best!)

how terribly much i would love to offer my photographic services to so many people on this site.

oh and what i would add to each of those okc questions - in general though often the same thing: "it depends! and would take too much time to detail my reasonings here! and people might think me ocd for doing so! but then again, i might be thought of as shallow for not doing so on *any* of them! what's a girl to do?!"
On a typical Friday night I am
wondering what day of the week it is.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
that's for me to know and you to not know. yet. maybe never. it depends. actually i don't believe in secrets, and i'm not a shame-based person. so eventually ... oh, ok, here's one: i have a note to myself on my bedroom wall that reads "NO SKITTLES. PERIOD. Do NOT taste the rainbow!"
You should message me if
you would like to go out (or in) somewhere to talk, eat, walk, play, and see if we would make relatively good friends. the rest may or may not follow. it's that chemistry thang.

you are open-minded/hearted. i'm not ... average ... i lived in san francisco for 25 years for good reason. in general that means i'm very progressive, experienced, adventurous, curious, interesting, and open-minded/hearted myself.

i've been in both monogamous and open/poly relationships - and still have a close friend/family-ship with my most recent ex, along with a friend who i'm also lovers with sometimes. yes it can be complicated, tricky. but i just happen to be someone who can love and/or be attracted to more than one person at a time. doesn't mean i'm fickle, a cheat, a liar, undependable, unfaithful etc. - far from as a matter of fact.

oh, and although i checked "girls who like girls", because this site doesn't allow for expanding on that i'd like to clarify that i include FTM guys in the "queer" category re: who i'm interested in right now. (just didn't want to mislead "bio-born" men by checking "guys & girls who like bi girls".) i've been missing some of the female parts of the equations (but no i don't assume FTM's consider themselves to maintain femaleness ..... OY this is hard to articulate! let's talk :)

btw, i don't know about you, but sometimes i become overwhelmed by this process of looking for connections - excited overwhelmed or anxious overwhelmed, either way. and then i might not reply to messages. it makes me feel awful, because i think it's just ... "right" ... to do so, even if to say "thanks but ... ". so please forgive me, i'm only human.

p.s. if you rated me "highly", drop a note! i'm friendly & kind at the very least :)