Find better matches with our advanced
matching system

—% Match
—% Enemy


53 Escondido, CA Man


Similar users

I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 35–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 4
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
Other but it’s not important
Post grad
Might want kids
English (Fluently), German (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I hate everything I have ever written in this section.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Too much. I'm trying to figure out how to focus on the things that are really good.

I teach. I play music. I build stuff.

I like growing things. Plants, mostly.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
adapting. Being patient. Looking at all sides of an issue. Being skeptical. Paying attention to detail. Getting lost in something difficult. Forgetting people's names, even though I remember details of conversations we had months or years ago. Singing extemporaneous songs about stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My hair. I think. I mean, I think they notice my hair. But maybe they notice that I think. Under all that hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like a lot of stuff. I like Graham Greene and Raymond Chandler, Arthur Ransome and C.S. Forrester. I also like nonfiction, when I'm in the mood for it. Paleolithic stuff. Also music stuff. And paleolithic music stuff. I used to read The New Yorker all the time. Now I read Harpers'.It doesn't pile up in my house as quickly.

Thinking, Fast and Slow is what I am now rereading. It's very important.

I watch movies on MUBI. One of my recent favorites was La Loi, with Gina Lollobrigida and the trabucco. The trabucco was sexier than Lollobrigida. I like old movies.

I grew up with a lot of classical music but I like other stuff, too, like Grizzly Bear. The Portland band Dirty Martini. Talking Heads was a previous favorite. Lhasa de Sela. On the side of "serious music," my taste runs from Palestrina through Beethoven and Brahms, to Martinu, Poulenc, and Rautavaara. Lately I've been working a lot on Villa-Lobos (I play oboe) and he's sorta taken over my brain. And since my brain has been taken over by Villa-Lobos, I've necessarily gotten more interested in Bach.

Postmodern Jukebox!!!!

I like food. Food is good. I especially like soups, and I'm pretty good at making them. I'm veggie-ish, but not real strict. I also love tea; Golden Monkey is a favorite.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Cheese. Tea. Places to plant things. Books. Two other things.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Ignorance, heuristics, the size of science. How it is more important than ever to realize what it means to be human and to embrace our humanity. So many people talk and act as if our goal should be to be more like computers and robots. No, we have computers and robots already, let's be human.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
the same person I was on Thursday night, only one day older.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I once had boxer shorts with little baseball players on them.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
you are bored, you are intrigued, or you found my wallet.