Let me just tell you straight away, you don't have to read all of my profile, if it seems like too much. Just skim it. I like to write, and so maybe I went a bit overboard. Really, all you need is the outline, at first, and then, if you think you like me, and you're getting interested, you can go back and read the whole thing. Anyway, on to the "Self Summary": I was raised in the Midwest and on the East Coast, and I tend to carry a combination of New York vibe and Chicago down-to-earth-ness about me (at least, I think so). Overall, I would describe myself as being kind, patient, sensual, and creative. I love to go to concerts, and to go out to eat, and to go to the beach in the summertime. I love to cook at home (I tend to do this mainly when there is someone to do it for), I love to talk about anything & everything and consider myself to be a good listener, and I spend a lot of time showing up for the people in my life. I'm warm, affectionate, and empathetic, although my occasionally twisted sense of humor goes over some peoples' heads (and, occasionally, even gets me into hot water). I'm nice to waiters, and I tend to notice and be kind to people in distress. I have incredibly great friends in my life, both male and female, who are very important to me, and I'm living a very nicely-balanced life. All I need now is someone special to share it all with...maybe you?
What I’m doing with my life
First of all, I'm enjoying my life more than I ever have before, at any point in my life. I would say that I am (and my life is) a curious mix of the pragmatic and the artistic. I'm an attorney (I have my own practice), but I'm also a musician, and I need both sides of my life in order to be complete. If you met me, you wouldn't guess that I'm a lawyer, but you might guess that I'm a musician...it's one of the advantages of being in charge of my own life: I can wear whatever I want, most of the time. I look great in a suit & tie (if I do say so myself), and can go there whenever I need to, but, really, I'm a blue jeans & T-shirt guy most of the time. I work out regularly, and I work on myself in lots of ways that are meant to keep me positive and healthy in my outlook on life, and I show up for people. I spend evenings with friends, often, and I'm rarely so busy that I won't pick up the phone, when someone calls just to chat. I live one day at a time, and I feel quite blessed to have the life I have.
I’m really good at
Listening; offering perspective; legal research; literary
criticism; writing; photography; cooking; driving; body-boarding in
the ocean (Zuma, baby!!!); kissing (and one or two other things
that you'll have to discover for yourself!). I would also say
playing the guitar, except I'll probably never be as good at that
as I wish I were.
The first things people usually notice about me
Probably my eyes, because they're very very blue.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: The Martian; Gone Girl; Petty (Warren Zanes's new biography of Tom Petty); If the Buddha Dated; The Inner Game of Music; Chronicles, Vol. I, by Bob Dylan; The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo (all three books); time-honored favorites: The Magus, by John Fowles; A Prayer for Owen Meany, by John Irving; The Women's Room, by Marylin French; Brideshead Revisited, by Evelyn Waugh; The Catcher in the Rye, by J.D. Salinger; Lolita, by Vladimir Nabokov; The Electric Kool-Aid Acid Test; The Right Stuff; The Bonfire of the Vanities; I Am Charlotte Simmons (all by Tom Wolfe); Catch-22, by Joseph Heller; Sometimes a Great Notion, by Ken Kesey; Burning the Days, by James Salter; The Tao Te Ching (in an ongoing way, I'm reading the Tao Te Ching in three different translations simultaneously, in order to help get the concepts across the translation-barrier from Chinese to English...it's easy, because each page is a separate "verse," and you only read one a day); classics of literature: Homer; Virgil; Beowulf; Chaucer; Dante; Edmund Spenser; William Shakespeare; John Milton; Lord Byron (I majored in English literature, special emphasis on medieval and Renaissance epic poetry...and had a ball doing it); but the list is really too long to actually write out...I've been an avid reader since I was a little kid...Oh, and I subscribe to The New Yorker.
Movies: The Intern; Gravity; The Martian; Captain Phillips; Interstellar; Michael Clayton; Unfaithful; The Devil Wears Prada; Prime; Shawshank Redemption; The Girl With the Dragon Tattoo (all three Swedish films, and the American version of the first one); The Social Network; Mulholland Dr.; Beautiful Girls; My Cousin Vinnie; Heat; Training Day; Mission Impossible (I, II, and III...IV not so much); Alien; Aliens; The Godfather (I & II); Days of Heaven; The Shining; All That Jazz; The Deer Hunter; Apocalypse Now; Sophie's Choice; Kramer vs. Kramer; Tootsie; Traffic; Before the Devil Knows You're Dead; Love, Actually; The Graduate; Straw Dogs (the original, not the remake); The Getaway; A Stir of Echoes; Lust, Caution; Rachel Getting Married; Notes on a Scandal; anything and everything by Stanley Kubrick; anything and everything by Terrence Malick; most films by David Fincher; most films by Ridley Scott, and by Tony Scott; anything by Michael Mann; and the list goes on and on...I used to be a cinematographer, remember.
Shows: The Walking Dead; Fear the Walking Dead; Game of Thrones; House of Cards; Mr. Robot; Better Call Saul; Breaking Bad.
Music: Ah, now here is where the list is really too long, but I'll try: Morning Becomes Eclectic, on N.P.R.; Favorite genres: classic rock; contemporary rock; R&B; soul; "Americana"; bluegrass. Favorite artists: The Beatles; The Stones; Jethro Tull; Tom Petty and the Heartbreakers; Talking Heads; Bowie; CSN&Y (or, for that matter, CS&N); Cream; Sean & Sara Watkins (both in and out of the band Nickel Creek); Gillian Welch; David Rawlings; Robert Earl Keen; Fiona Apple; Feist; Dawes; Jackson Browne; Dylan; Joni Mitchell; Neil Young; Stevie Wonder; Dusty Springfield; Elvis Costello; Squeeze; The Pretenders; Brian Eno; Warren Zevon; Oingo Boingo; CCR; Natalie Merchant; Amy Winehouse; A Fine Frenzy; The Clash; The Punch Brothers; Old Crow Medicine Show; Doc Watson; The Band; Leon Russell; Frank Zappa; Aimee Mann; Garbage; Joan Armatrading; Delbert McClinton; Blake Mills; Jimmy Cliff; Desmond Dekker; Michael Jackson; I mean, it's really too overwhelming...let's talk?
Food: Indian; Japanese; Thai; Italian; French; good old fashioned burgers/fries/chocolate shakes; pizza (well, I guess that's Italian, technically). I love to eat out at restaurants. Favorites: Mozza (both the Osteria, and the Pizzaria); Little Dom's; Jinpachi (maybe the best sushi I've ever had); Akbar; Electric Karma; Anarbagh; Chan Darae; The Alcove; La Mill (in Silverlake); Umami Burger; and my all-time favorite stand-by hangout: The 101 Coffee Shop (on Franklin, in Hollyweird, in the lobby of the Best Western Hotel, at Argyle Street...best burger/fries/shake combo in town, and the people-watching is amazing, especially late at night!).
The six things I could never do without
In no particular order:
1) Family and friends (OK, these aren't "things," but, I think a
broader interpretation of the word was called for)
2) Music (and my guitars)
4) Smart women (again, most definitely not "things")
6) The ocean
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Music; food; sex; career (not necessarily in that order, and
depending upon the time of day). Am I doing the right thing? Am I
really a good person, or am I a fraud? What's next? How can I help
my friends with the things that challenge them? What's a guy gotta
do to meet someone nice on OK Cupid (or anywhere else, for that
matter)? Is there rhyme and reason to the way things happen (I
think so), or is it all just random chance (sometimes it seems like
it might be)? My one and only New Years resolution: not to tolerate
anyone in my life who's full of shit. And (of course), the eternal
question: how do we know that when we close the refrigerator door
the light really goes out? (After all, we eat the only witnesses!)
On a typical Friday night I am
Either off to a late dinner with friends, or else home, curled up on my couch, with a pizza and a DVD. Unless I'm with you, in which case, we are possibly: out having dinner, out at a concert, out at the movies, having dinner in (either cooked by me, or ordered-in), or curled up on the couch watching a movie (or NOT watching the movie, if you know what I mean).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
After years of living in L.A., I still say "east" when I mean
"west," and vice versa, when giving directions, because, for most
of my life, east was the direction in which the ocean lay...oddly
enough, though, I don't mix up north and south....
You should message me if
You like what you've read (seen?) here, you're willing to actually
step up to the plate and connect (and, potentially, enter into a
long term relationship), and you're attractive, smart, interesting,
funny, open-minded, left-of-center, and, oh yeah: it wouldn't hurt
if you like to kiss for hours...