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38 M San Francisco, CA

My Details

Last Online
Today – 5:20pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Catholicism, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay), German (Okay), Spanish (Okay), Afrikaans (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I'm the luckiest man (who cares about richest?) in Bedford Falls, making it after all in SF, having moved here in late 2008 after four years in Paris and other years all over the US (KS-MO-NC-VA-AL, and the story is long enough for coffee, not short enough for here). INFJ, if you're into that Jungian stuff.

If you're stout-hearted, have a good story with a few hurdles passed and have charisma to spare, there's a good chance we'd be a good match. High EQ goes a long way with me.
What I’m doing with my life
I've got a strong sense of mission and am looking to find friends and a partner to come along for the ride. On the micro-level, I'm a recovering advertising agency guy who is moving over to public health, but I'm taking time in 2014 to visit family/friends, get some nature time and do some volunteer work before grad school.
I’m really good at
Relationships of all types. Empathy. Communicating (but not over-communicating, not interested in analysis paralysis and have no appetite for word salads), reasoning. I also cook, speak 5 languages with varying expertise, garden and have an enviable useless fact vocabulary.'ll see.

I've still got my Midwestern values of honesty, common sense, integrity and fair play with a dash of Frank Capra community spirit. I've mixed with everyone from royalty to dirt-poor villagers in the back bush of Africa, and have slept on bare floors and in luxurious hotel suites. I've loved every second of it and like to think I adapted well throughout. The downside to this is that I find posturing for status of any kind ridiculous and have little patience for it. We were all born naked.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Current Listening: Wye Oak, The New Pornographers, Nils Frahm, Todd Terje, First Aid Kit

Current Screening: Coronation Street (addicted for years), Friday Night Lights, Band of Brothers

Current Reading: A friend's manuscript

Current Eating: Bacon Bacon's breakfast sandwich, homemade baked goods, espresso, and many, many cups of tea (PG Tips, one raw sugar, one small spoon condensed milk).
The six things I could never do without
1. Kindness, not to be mistaken for stupidity.

2. Sensitivity, not to be mistaken for weakness.

3. Love, which I have much to give. It's pretty much my first priority, and I'll never be good enough at giving it.

4. My outlook, which defies psychology, philosophy and sociology.

5. My two cats, Ed and Fred, who have gradually become the soul of my home, and reflect my ability to be open-minded after preferring dogs for so long. I aspire to have them share a larger countrified second home with a Rhodesian Ridgeback or two.

6. Coffee, which keeps the streets of San Francisco safe before lunchtime.
On a typical Friday night I am
...following my bliss.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I was born in Manhattan...Kansas.

And I have a hard time making the first move.
I’m looking for
  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 30–55
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if're ok with taking some time to see if we're a personality match and unafraid (or afraid but getting on with things anyway, which is what I do most of the time).