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37 M Helsinki, Finland

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Last Online
Yesterday – 10:43am
6′ 1″ (1.85m)
Body Type
Strictly vegan
Not at all
Atheism, and somewhat serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
Likes cats
English (Fluently), Finnish (Fluently), Swedish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Largely liberal, leaning left, sometimes silly, relatively rational, generally geeky.
What I’m doing with my life
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Day-to-day, I work in a pretty relaxed sysadmin job at my alma mater, with some lectures on the side on occasion. I dabble in self and world improvement in the Less Wrong and transhumanist circles. I work out, swim and/or cycle a bit to stay in basic shape. Currently also rekindling some amateur literary ambitions, tuning up my draft of a fantasy novel and a couple of short scifi stories.

As for personal life, I'm happily and openly married and raising a five-year old kid. For socializing, I like your usual one-on-ones, board and card gaming (mostly the geeky kind) in good company, and occasional small get-togethers.
I’m really good at
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I'm good with computers, a requirement of the job. I'm also good at making light of the darker, dumber and sillier things in the world through humor of debatable quality. And swimming.
The first things people usually notice about me
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The beard, I suppose, though it has gotten steadily less imposing. Or the long hair, from behind. Or perchance the overall trend to dress black.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Some of my favourite authors are Greg Egan (esp. his short stories, plus Permutation City, Diaspora, Quarantine), Vernor Vinge (Fire Upon the Deep, True Names and Other Dangers), Neil Gaiman (Sandman) and Iain M. Banks (Culture series). The excellent fan fiction work Harry Potter and the Methods of Rationality by Eliezer Yudkowsky bears mention as well. I do tend to read various other fan fiction works these days too, having gotten into the scene through HPMOR.

For nonfiction, one rises above the rest: Douglas Hofstadter's Gödel, Escher, Bach: an Eternal Golden Braid.

I usually consume my moving pictures in serial format, though the occasional movie is also fine. Let's go with Malcolm in the Middle, Game of Thrones, Dexter and Doctor Who to name a few. There's a lot of good anime too, like Madoka (though I also watch some mediocre ones ;). I like a decent plot with a healthy dose of twists, but can also enjoy a good audiovisual experience. I have a special love for SF, but am not exclusive.

I'm not very picky about music, though don't really actively listen to it much at the moment either. Dreamtale's World Changed Forever, which I recently received as a gift, was pretty good though.

Foodwise I'm a vegan, and will happily eat pretty much anything such, unless it's one of those purposefully rotten dishes that defy comprehension. To name a couple of examples, I usually like pasta foods and sushi (no, it doesn't contain fish by definition; merely usually).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Sanity, intimacy, contact, purpose, entertainment/escapism, the net.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I used to have Life, the Universe and Everything here, but well, what can I say, I've got those all figured out. Nowadays, relationship stuff, self-hacking to increase positivity, wondering what I want to do when I grow up.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Home on the computer, or watching something with the wife before popping into the sauna. Might also be at a cuddle party, those seem to concentrate on Fridays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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As one may have gathered, I'm polyamorous, though not very promiscuous (not to judge that either, just not my thing). I do require an emotional connection for sexual relations to be appealing.

I'm not a very private person; in a communicative context, I'll probably admit to just about anything if asked or situationally relevant.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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I've basically scared most people away by this point so if you're still feeling like dropping me a note, chances are good I'd find you interesting as well.

Dating-wise I am mostly into the longer term, but not all things have to be long to be enriching. You having another partner (or a couple, at least if there's still room in the schedule ;) would actually be a plus for balance, though certainly not required.

I am actually also on the lookout for relatable people to make friends with, so if you think we might hit it off with some common interests, do tell regardless of your level of romantic curiosity, or lack thereof.