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29 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
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5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Okay), Japanese (Okay), Korean (Poorly), Chinese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I'm optimistic. I live in a world that is in a process of formation--even in the fiery destruction and chaos of the multitudes it rebounds endlessly with surprise. We ride it or we are crushed by it and in the end we realize we are moved by the same force in all of its brilliance.

I would really love to find someone who is hungry to analyze and push the potential of life, of self discovery and formation, and of interaction.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Staying healthy and fit, growing food and understanding life, looking for the people worth finding, studying, cooking, drawing/painting, building things, traveling to places I don't understand, etc.

-- Just left a career making party games and board games and started a new company making spice racks. Going to school full time. Possibly illustrating a children's book.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
making people feel like life matters. painting and drawing. baking sourdough. gardening. traveling. gymnastics. kung fu. reading minds. systematizing. aggrandizement. speaking honestly and keeping my word. fitting in. not fitting in. capturing light and water and turning them into life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I read dense philosophical books full of magic. I listen to music that cuts through me and shatters my rigid mind. I eat what my body needs (even if that means I have to grow it first).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Playing soccer and then back to the dungeon. @_@
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I don't believe in free will* and I can't imagine death.
You should message me if
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You want to go mushroom hunting.
You think you can show me something I've never seen before.
Your interested in exploring kink/BDSM (I'm newish to it, but have done my research!)

You can deal with the fact that I have other important people in my life (particularly my lovely partner/girlfriend) whom I care deeply about.