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50 M Hermitage, PA

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Capricorn, but it doesn’t matter
Dropped out of university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
I am a hetero-romantic Asexual, and very much attracted to the fairer sex.

In my case, I am someone who does not need or wish to act on sexual attraction. The attraction is there, but it is more of an aesthetic thing, an appreciation of physical beauty, but in a more academic sense. Instead we feel a desire to get to know someone, to get close to them in whatever way works best for us. Asexual people who experience attraction will often be attracted to a particular gender, and will identify as lesbian, gay, bi, or, in my case, straight.

Unlike celibacy, which people choose, asexuality is an intrinsic part of who I am as a person. Asexuality does not make our lives any worse or any better, we just face a different set of challenges than most sexual people.

Asexual people have the same emotional needs as anyone else, and like in the sexual community we vary widely in how we fulfill those needs. Some asexual people are happier on their own, others are happiest with a group of close friends. As for me, I have a desire to form more intimate romantic relationships, and wish to date and seek long-term partnerships. Asexual people are just as likely to date sexual people as we are to date each other.

Sexual or nonsexual, all relationships are made up of the same basic stuff: communication, closeness, fun, humor, excitement and trust all happen just as much in sexual relationships as in nonsexual ones. Unlike sexual people, asexual people are given few expectations about the way that our intimate relationships will work. Figuring out how to flirt, to be intimate, or to be monogamous in nonsexual relationships can be challenging, but free of sexual expectations we can form relationships in ways that are grounded in our individual needs and desires.

Hopefully that succinctly explains my situation.

I am also a classic ISFJ; the summary of that personality type is spot on.

I recently made the move to vegetarianism. I've struggled with it for a long time and finally made the decision to live up to my own ideals with regards to the treatment of animals.

I would love to find someone that I am compatible with and have shared interests who is looking more for a solid, loving, giving, respectful companion rather than a typical lover.

I am a big Stephen King fan; as a writer, I look to him as my mentor and my inspiration. James Patterson, John Grisham, Tom Clancy, Dean Koontz, Clive Cussler, Steve Martini, Anne McCaffrey, and John Sandford are just a few of my many other favorites. I read a little of everything, though mystery and imaginative stories are my favorites.

I am a writer, and have two novels about half completed, a third started and another one laid out and waiting for me to get to them. I also have several short stories and two novellas. While my goal was to become published by age 50, I'm writing at a slower pace than I'd like and it'll be more like 51 at this point. Sigh.

I’d be very pleased to share my stories with you; that IS what they are for, after all.

A brief excerpt: “All things change or pass away; even my love for Marian. I’d always thought that, of all the things that go away, my love for her would never be one of them; that it, of all things, was constant and immutable…and then it wasn't. Even it is gone, leaving nothing in its place. Surprisingly, that is okay…sometimes. Sometimes.”

I like a good story, regardless of genre, though I am most partial to those that fall outside the realm of my experience.

I watch a lot of Netflix, catching up on all the stuff that I missed while I was married. I recently completed “Buffy the Vampire Slayer” and loved it. I just finished "Bones" and "The Dresden Files." I finally got to see “Lost” and loved it—saw it twice in two years; the new “Battlestar Galactica”—the second best show that I’ve ever seen on TV; “Heroes”, which I liked but was spotty at best, just to name a few. I enjoy the CSI type shows very much as well. Currently loving "The Guild." Repeatedly.

I also am a big fan of shows from the BBC. Period pieces, classics, comedies, etc. Recently encountered and fell in love with "Sherlock." It's excellent. I am currently enjoying "Being Human."

I also am a Janeite, especially enjoyed "Pride and Prejudice," "Emma," "Sense and Sensibility," "Persuasion" and "Mansfield Park."

I may as well admit that I am a nerd. I love Sci-Fi, some fantasy, especially LOTR and Dragonriders of Pern...9th Pass in particular. I collect figures related to these genres and prefer to look at them as miniatures, lol. No, I do NOT play with them. They are for display only. I have played D&D, attend SF conventions (though not in some time) I've met Walter Koenig and Majel Barret Roddenberry and saw Gene speak in Cleveland in 1979. (AWESOME!) I've met Alan Dean Foster and got his autograph on a piece of my artwork related to one of his stories. I adore Firefly and Serenity, steampunk--which is in most instances a fancy name for Victorian era SF and fantasy--and much more. I love Japanese animation as well, especially "Macross/Robotech." (Yeah, I know--not the same thing.) I like The Walking Dead; I like the first season the best, although the last episodes of season 3 were pretty good, too. I am particulalrly fond of post-apocalyptic stories.

I feel that I am intelligent, and have a goofy sense of humor, running from dry to Monty Pythonesque.

I also like to travel. I was in the Navy for 5 years and have been to: Spain, France, Italy, Yugoslavia, Greece, Israel, Egypt and Tunisia in the Mediterranean. To Diego Garcia and Singapore in the Indian Ocean. I have been to St. Thomas and Nassau in the Caribbean. I've been to Rome, Pompeii, Paris, Pisa, Cannes, Marseilles, Toulon, Alexandria, Cairo, Giza, Dubrovnik, Tel Aviv, Barcelona and Athens to name a few.

My favorite place is any place that there is water—that was why I joined the Navy!

I love music, especially most music from the 80's, very little current music (And I use that term loosely) with the exceptions of Abney Park and FalloutBoy. I do like a little country, primarily Lady Antebellum, The Civil Wars, The Lost Trailers and a few others.

I love art, and, though I haven’t done any of it in some time, I draw, am a good photographer—Navy trained—recently got back into building models (Though I am not content to build them as is, they always have to be as original or heavily modified as possible), and my favorite art is the type that is extremely realistic—as close to life as possible. I love to cook, and am pretty good at it. People watching can definitely be entertaining and endlessly fascinating.

I do not watch or participate in sports of any kind, so any potential partner will not be a sports widow, lol.

Oh, and I’m really, really good with computers and am also very good with remodeling, home improvement and gardening. I LOVE water gardens!

If you and I are compatible, you should know that you will have my full attention. I have no contact of any kind with any of my family, so no drama or ties outside the relationship. Just me and you.

I believe people until they give me reason not to. As for the past, we all have one, and for a lot of us they can be pretty bad—myself included—but I am able to talk about it and be okay with it if the person I’m talking to is okay with it, too. I don’t expect people to share theirs if it makes them unhappy to do so. Moving forward is always best, but often hard to do.
What I’m doing with my life
Finally coming to understand and accept who I am as a human being. What a long, rough trip that has been.
I’m really good at
Procrastinating. If it were an Olympic event, I'd take the gold medal.


Being creative in many mediums.

Caring about others and being accepting of people's differences.
The first things people usually notice about me
That I am a good communicator and open/friendly to new people and experiences.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Favorite book: "The Stand"
Favorite movie: "The Green Mile"
Favorite TV show: "Babylon 5"
Favorite band: Currently Abney Park, recently re-discovered the Michael Stanley Band, Joe Walsh and Steely Dan!
Favorite food: Chinese
The six things I could never do without
My mind
My dogs
My vision
The beauty in the world
Diet Pepsi
I spend a lot of time thinking about
My stories.

Why humanity seems hell-bent on destruction, sigh.
On a typical Friday night I am
Alone and wishing that I had someone to hang out with.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I am empathetic, warm, and genuinely interested in helping and emotionally bonding with people, but I can easily become drained from overdoing for others and not take good enough care of myself. This is a bad habit of mine and one that I am always aware of and working on.

My need to understand myself and others creates strong, close relationships—when I wish to establish that type of relationship.

I am a very emotional person and feel things quite deeply, but usually keep it in check/under wraps. I am also very analytical, and always try not to react irrationally to things because I'm all too aware how irrational it truly is.

I have a tendency to suppress emotions I think are irrational/stupid/unreasonable.

I have some fear of embarrassing myself in public, so I tend to be reserved unless I’m with someone that I’m comfortable with and feel that I can act naturally.

I truly enjoy spending time with interesting, intelligent people, and love to have great conversations on many varied subjects.
I do have some loner tendencies—I was previously more of an observer than a participator—and will sometimes need time by myself to recharge. There is no one on the planet with whom I want to spend 24 hours a day, every day. (Well, there is one, but she's not available, so...)

I am definitely more resistant than I should be to put myself in situations where I know I will feel uncomfortable.

I set high standards for my own behavior, and can be horribly judgmental towards myself. (No one judges me as harshly for failing at something as I do myself.)

I'm a horrible procrastinator.

I hate to talk on the phone, but if I am comfortable with someone, I can literally talk for hours at a time.

I'm something of an English language elitist, and I am greatly annoyed with those who don't understand the difference between “your” and “you're;” “there,” “they’re,” and “their;” "its" and “it’s.” (Though I do admit to having difficulty with the last one up until recently.)

I try always to be honest. I will avoid saying things if I feel they will hurt other’s feelings, but I will speak up in those situations if pressed to do so. (Do these jeans make my butt look big? type situations, for example.)

I always try to be kind, and to show compassion to others.

I know that life is hard and that we all have our personal demons to fight, and try to take that in to account at all times.

I am a man with strong opinions/convictions—such as LGBT rights and equality issues—and have no problems with honest communication, but I will always honor your opinion and views if you do the same for me. You get back what you give out.

Those who strongly avoid confrontation of any type may not handle me well, as I do express myself, especially on social issues, with some vigor.

Once we establish a friendship, I will care about you wholeheartedly, and will always be there for you when you need me. I am optimistic and naive enough to expect that you will do the same.

Speaking of being naïve, I am an odd mix of cynicism and naiveté. I have no idea how that works, but it’s true.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 35–55
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating
You should message me if
You are a humble intellectual, a good conversationalist, or quirky…in a good way, lol.

You despise reality TV & all forms of celebrity worship.

You are a nerd, a geek or a dork. I find these types adorable. (I include myself in this group. Based on testing, I’m Tri-Lamb material.)

You like music, but not the crap on the radio, especially current pop. :P

You like to go for walks and love the water…any water.

You believe in equality and social justice.

You are bookish and love to learn new things.

You can speak the truth, but with tact, and look for the same in your partner and friends.

You find brainy people to be fraking sexy. I'm definitely a sapiosexual.

You know what Firefly is and love it.

YOU ARE A READER. Non-readers need not apply.

YOU HAVE HOBBIES AND INTERESTS. How can someone have no interests? I’ve come across several—scary. What do they do with themselves? Seriously? Anyone? Anyone?