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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 40–69
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Oct 4
5' 7" (1.70m)
Body Type
Other and laughing about it
Has kids and doesn’t want more
Has cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
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Happy Day to you! I am an Innkeeper and keep wild hours. I am looking to enjoy the last of this hot Portland summer. I haven't been on here for years. I thought that I would give it another try. Straight up, I am happy to make new friends. If a relationship is supposed to happen, it will develop slowly, and naturally over time.

I am an incorrigible night owl and rabid restaurant worker. I work in a famous Portland Restaurant. I love the way restaurant people are real. We see a huge cross section of life. So, we have a deep understanding of people. That is simply the truth, from having had so much exposure to social behaviors. We also "shoot from the hip", use truncated and efficient speech, and swear a lot. If you are a restaurant person, you get this and you aren't offended by it. Of course, I can and do have deep conversations, but efficient communication has its place too.

I love to travel and am off and running as often as I can. Asia is my newest destination. I spent a month in Thailand recently.
South America and NOLA are two of my favorite jaunts. If you are into jazz, happy with your life, liberal politically, educated and into communicating, we may well have a nice time meeting up for coffee or sumpin'. I am always happy to make a new friend.
What I’m doing with my life
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Moving on to the next phase ...always. Working on a fictional memoir novel, running my Airbnb, working a lot to keep the mortgage paid, spending time with friends and family, striving to keep up with the house, my "alternate life" in South America, and throw in an indie movie whenever possible.

What I am not doing is looking to be the rescuer for a newly single or newly widowed man with children. I get a lot of that kind of request from men and, honestly, it is just not where I am at. I have been single a long time, it has great benefits and its downsides. I am mostly past the heartache of divorce. I understand the position that these newly heartbroken men are in, but I need someone who has moved on and is happy with their life. I need an emotionally mature and responsible man who takes care of his own life.

I am happy everyday. My life is full. There aren't enough hours in a day to see all of my friends and family and get the rest of the work of life completed. I just seem to have problems finding the right dude. But, he is out there somewhere. A lot of us seem to have this same struggle.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Going to Ecuador. Years back I attempted to adopt my niece from Ecuador (niece to my former husband). I spent the next many years going to Ecuador a couple of times per year to care for my niece/daughter in all ways I could in an impossible situation. I started a small importing business to fund the trips and her care. It is now a decade later and she is an adult now. I love her dearly and will continue to be in her life and go to Ecuador a lot.

Interestingly enough, when I was younger, I mostly dated older men. Now that I am older, I mostly date younger men. Not that I am ruling out men my age range. It would probably be smarter of me to date men my age. It just doesn't seem to be what has happened of late. Although I am in my fifties, I have no intent to "act my age". Life is short. I am grabbing the brass rings, baby.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My alternating shyness and vivaciousness. I am an introvert at heart, but quite public under the right circumstances. I am happy single and like a fair amount of time alone. But, it would be great to find the next right lover for me, or maybe even the next love of my life.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Jazz Greats. I worked in a famous jazz club for 15 years and it "rubbed off on me". I am often out listening to Nancy King and the like. We have a treasure of musicians in this beautiful city. I love Jimmy Mak's, but I don't make it there often. I am so busy running the Inn and working.

I have spent a lot of time in Latin America and I do enjoy a lot of Latin Jazz. I also listen to classical and other genres. But, mostly contemporary or older jazz greats and a lot of Latin music is what will be heard flowing out of the windows in my home.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Friends and Family
Enjoying Cooking and the Sharing of Good Meals with Good Friends Writing
Sufficient Sleep
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to get the next construction project completed in my home. How to get enough sleep in order to keep all of my guests happy. How can I find more time and energy to work on my house and also spend time with friends and family?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Exhausted from working a grueling day shift at the restaurant. I am not a day person. I am naturally awake at night and I usually only work eves. Fridays are for relaxation and refueling. Maybe there is another incorrigible restaurant worker out there looking for someone to chill with on a lazy Friday evening.
You should message me if
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You can't live without jazz or other forms of creative and expressive arts. You can't live without travel. You have an interesting life. You have answered Ok Cupid questions and we have a very low enemy score. Most men who write to me have high enemy scores or answer no questions. I thought that this site was supposed to be about finding someone compatible. Most men just seem to be cruising. That is not hot.

You have at least one degree or achievements thereabouts. I am not ruling out artsy types or men who don't have degrees. I just have my reasons for wanting a motivated man. I am not saying that I am A-mode, but I am not attracted to non-motivated men. Being bilingual helps ; there is just something hot about a bilingual mind. You manage your own successful life. You want to make a new friend, no expectations.....and just see where life naturally takes us.

Intelligence is hot.
Strong communicators are hot.
"Get shit done" kinda men are hot.
Honesty is hot.