Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please don't IM me. Thanks.
This updated profile has none of the pastoral glamour of earlier
iterations, but reality changes. I'm an anarchist who never thought
she'd make it past thirty, let alone with a family. i think fashion
and the film industry are stupid, so that probably cuts out most of
LA. I dream of retiring to an orchard with (a second) herd of goats
and perfecting my (damn good already) chevre. and if that doesn't
scare you, we might could be friends. i'm looking for company right
now, of many stripes. I usually want to sleep with my friends, but
When I recharge, it's usually something meditative. Sewing, working
with plants, and akasuri scrubs rank highly.
Although I was originally skeptical of online dating, I find it
impossible to walk into a bar/club/social scene and gauge whether
someone is competently polyamorous
. So I've accepted that
the internet actually is a reasonably good way to meet lovers who
have integrity. Also, polyspeeddating.com. How fun!
I am dirty under the nails, satirical, and a handful
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am a tree maven. I'm raising two kids who will grow up to be
revolutionaries or tyrants, but definitely not cogs. I am
untangling my web of privileges so that I can become a better ally
in this world.
I'm planning for grad school, but focused right now on recreating
my business and my life in a new city.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
honesty. good communication is the foundation of my existence.
making beautiful dinner in 25 minutes.
sewing and quilting, when i have the time.
dropping it all and enjoying the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why don't you ask threnodist
, or my husband corvus_corvidae
My dry sense of humor.
That I'm very opinionated but appreciate when you are too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
i read lots of natural history. thank *property taxes* for the
library! Occasionally i steal fantasy from my partner. when I left
boston in 2003, i gave away all my books and vowed not to hoard
them. we will probably get along if you love books.
i've never owned a tv or game system and am still impressed by
tetris on my phone. you may find my pop culture knowledge woefully
i groove to shitty technopop. my favorite pandora station is based
on beirut. you might say i enjoy a strange mix of immortal
technique and the be good tanyas.
i cook anything that michael pollan would eat, and eat anything
organic/pastured/wild. i can't imagine life without cheese, bacon
or salad. maybe i'm a luddite loca-omnivore? i do not eat "flavor
enhanced, agriculturally derived food products". seriously.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a warm bed
potlucks, at my house and yours
a bit of the woods and shore
and, good lovers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
~neuroscience. i had minor trauma in a car accident long ago and
have been fascinated ever since by brain plasticity and
~the uncivilized world, and why it is disappearing.
~how hard it is to stop being a stupid, white girl after several
decades standing on that metaphorical pedestal.
~what it would be like to have a mortal enemy. (superhero-style. i
already want to destroy capitalism and vice versa.)
~why people associate monogamy with simplicity and/or no drama. I
really adore my husband's lover and ask her to come early for
dinner with us. I find that having a community is the most
fulfilling and sane way to be in relationships. there are plenty of
crazy, codependent monogamous folks out there. /gets off soap box/
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
i assume this question implies what i do for fun.
if i happen to get a friday night free, i'm a sucker for a hot tub,
a good museum exhibit, your favorite board game, good wine, and
warm soft sheets. picnics, dinner parties, canoeing, meteor
watching (a few times a year!) and other adventures are hard to
i moved to LA in June 2014 after 11 years in Oakland, so I spend
more time online and travelling back to keep connected.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
best birthday present ever: a threesome at the lusty lady.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
~you say something more than "sucky". Really, this has happened. I
have precisely zero time to waste on comments that would get people
slapped at bars. If you have something witty to share, or an honest
common interest, then by all means drop a line. sadly, i think the
dudes who send those comments never read this far...
~ you are fun, radical, or know more about plants than i do. by
radical, i mean anti-capitalist libertarian. or, a librarian.
~ you appreciate beauty, whether you pulled it out of a dumpster or
built it or paid way too much to an artisan for it.
~you have kids and would like a kid-friendly friend.
Who are you looking for?
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