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33 F Oakland, CA

I’m looking for

  • Guys who like girls
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Nov 13, 2013
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Strictly other
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sagittarius, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has kids
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Please don't IM me. Thanks.

This updated profile has none of the pastoral glamour of earlier iterations, but reality changes. I'm currently juggling 2 small kids, a part-time business and primary household duties while my husband saves the world. if that doesn't scare you, we might could be friends. i'm not looking for lovers right now, as two small people are constantly pawing at me. just enjoy the photos.

When the house is quiet, i read, cook, meditate, and plot how to live in a world where everything i need is made or grown very close by. Also, i sleep. sleep is precious nowadays.

Although I was originally skeptical of online dating, I find it impossible to walk into a bar/club/social scene and gauge whether someone is competently polyamorous. So I've accepted that the internet actually is a reasonably good way to meet lovers who have integrity. Also, How fun!

I am galactic, satirical, and a handful
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I am self-employed as an arborist. My family is really important now, and they put up with me when I'm delirious, as often accompanies raising two toddlers.

I would love to go to grad school when the spuds are a bit older, but right now I'm focusing on community stuff. besides, when the earthquake hits, i'll be happier to have greywater than a masters'...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
pruning trees.
honesty. good communication is the foundation of my existence. Grownups interact by recognizing and stating their needs/positions and compromising to create resolution.
making beautiful dinner in 25 minutes.
sewing and quilting, when i have the time.
chillin' with kids.
dropping it all and enjoying the moment.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Why don't you ask threnodist, tooolgirl, or my husband corvus_corvidae?

My dry sense of humor.

That I'm very opinionated but appreciate when you are too.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
i read mostly natural history. thank *property taxes* for the temescal library! Occasionally i steal scifi/fantasy from my partner.

my screen time is limited to whatever webcomics and stupid youtube videos friends send me. we have a projector for movies, but really only use it every month or two for pirate showings. you may find my pop culture knowledge woefully lacking.

i groove to whatever my friends download on my laptop or shitty technopop. then, i discovered pandora; my favorite station is based on beirut. you might say i enjoy a strange mix of immortal technique and the be good tanyas.

i cook anything that michael pollan would eat, and eat anything organic. i can't imagine life without cheese, bacon or salad. maybe i'm a luddite loca-omnivore? i do not eat "flavor enhanced, agriculturally derived food products". seriously.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
a warm bed, containing co-sleeping kids and husband
ice cream, preferably with fruit and chocolate
potlucks, at my house and yours
a bit of the woods and shore
the library
and, good lovers
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
~the uncivilized world. and why it is disappearing.


~what it would be like to have a mortal enemy.

~why people associate monogamy with simplicity and/or no drama. I really adore my husband's lover and ask her to come early for dinner with us. I find that having a community is the most fulfilling and sane way to be in relationships. there are plenty of crazy, codependent monogamous folks out there. /gets off soap box/
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
i assume this question implies what i do for fun.

if i happen to get a friday night free, i'm a sucker for a hot tub, a good museum exhibit, your favorite board game, good wine, and warm soft sheets. picnics, dinner parties, canoeing, meteor watching (a few times a year!) and other adventures are hard to turn down.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
best birthday present ever: a threesome at the lusty lady.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
~you say something more than "sucky". Really, this has happened. I have precisely zero time to waste on comments that would get people slapped at bars. If you have something witty to share, or an honest common interest, then by all means drop a line. sadly, i think the dudes who send those comments never read this far...

~ you are fun, radical, or know more about plants than i do. by radical, i mean anti-capitalist libertarian. or, a librarian.

~ you appreciate beauty, whether you pulled it out of a dumpster or built it or paid way too much to an artisan for it.

~you have kids and would like a kid-friendly friend!