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35 M Oakland, CA

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5′ 9″ (1.75m)
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Working on Ph.D program
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Likes cats
English (Fluently), French (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)

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My self-summary
I like to write, read and drink coffee and I spend most of my days doing all three at once. I am from rural Colorado where things move a little slower, where people have a sauntering way of walking and a drawly way of talking. I too am slow and patient - makes team sports hard (except ski team where you can go fast and keep still), but it makes for a nice easy walking pace.
I've lived in Oakland for several years now, with a little 2 year stint in Mexico City in between, and a few years in Paris before that, so now I have both city and mountains in my blood and my dreams of the future alternate between New York City and a small town in Montana where everyone goes to the high school football games.
In the meantime I keep myself busy writing my dissertation and distracting myself from writing - with swimming pools, movies, music.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm currently in grad school (sociology) and my work life is one one of writing and teaching.
Work aside I am a dedicated uncle-friend-son-brother and have a serious relationship with my bicycle.
I’m really good at
Drinking coffee, shooting the breeze, swimming, bicycling, skiing, thrift-store shopping, making pancakes (I have a delicious wild alaskan sour dough yeast collected by a minder in the 19th century, so they - yeast and miner - deserve the credit)
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
movies are my savior, my drug. so many good ones. paris texas, pasolini, polanski, new wave, old jack nicholson movies (five easy pieces), casavettes, herzog, those are some.

music, i developed a little obsessive record collecting disorder for a few years so i have a little mini library i browse through at home. some of my favorite sections are jazz (especially bluesy jazz like cannonball adderley, yusef lateef, sidney bechet), folk-americana-stuff (wilco, palace brothers, smog), british indie rock (mogwai, stone roses, smiths, cure)

i read a lot for my work, theory, history, politics, religion. i am finding my way back into fiction after a little break, i esp like old stuff, dostoevski, stendhal, jane austen.

coffee and cheese are two of my biggest passions in life.
The six things I could never do without
coffee, cheese, chocolate, my bicycle, the swimming pool, friendly banter
I spend a lot of time thinking about
how i can stop spending so much of my time thinking
On a typical Friday night I am
reading and writing, watching a movie, going to a show, drinking whiskey
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I buy jeans on ebay. The same ones. Same brand, model, cut and size - different shades. I have 8 pairs now - they stopped making them so I had to stock up.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 20–40
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating