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37 Oakland, CA Man


I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 10:08pm
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Other, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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We only have one chance at this and we're all in it together. I want to enjoy my time on this planet and seek to empower others to do the same. I want to cook for my friends. I enjoy planning adventures to share with others. I seek to to be aware of the effect of my actions on my community and on the broader environment. With this awareness, I strive to make choices that are consistent with my desire to do good in the world.

I ride my bike everywhere.

In my work--both paid and volunteer--I am dedicated to protecting wildlife and wild places.
What I’m doing with my life
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I have been a park ranger since 1998 and I hope to continue working in the conservation field. As part of my current position, I design print publications and plan nature center exhibits.

The little bitty house I live in is ancient and it keeps me busy, too.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Going, doing, being, appreciating, supporting.
The first things people usually notice about me
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It's probably the beard and glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read so much. Do I really have to update this list again?

Books that I think about even years after reading them include The Razor's Edge by W. Somerset Maugham, The Fools Progress by Edward Abbey, Homage to Catalonia by George Orwell, Narcissus and Goldmund by Herman Hesse, It Can't Happen Here by Sinclair Lewis, Skinny Legs and All by Tom Robbins, Ceremony by Leslie Marmon Silko, Dharma Bums by Jack Kerouac, any book written it seems by John McPhee or Salman Rushdie--whose word play is delightful. Solzhenitsyn. Oh yes, Solzhenitsyn. I have read a lot of Oliver Sacks's work in the last year, too.

Though I don't own a television and don't watch much video, I like going to theater to see documentaries. I'm also into movies that show the world through a unique angle.

I listen to a wide range of music--I prefer music that has a message that I agree with and the I can sing to myself later on. I carry a lot of lyrics and music in my head. Most of what I carry are Irish or Scottish in origin. I really enjoy Mary Black. I like to sing Johnny Cash songs--they're easy. There's a Robert Burns poem--Song for Autumn--that is wonderful to music and sounds fine a capella. I have folksy steaks of Joni Mitchel, Woody Guthrie, Chet Atkins, and early Dar Williams. I also have a punker streak of Sleater-Kinney, Echobelly, and Portishead. A3. TMBG. Soul Coughing.

I really am totally in love with Nancy Griffith's voice and music.

I'm pretty easy with regard to food but I do not eat meat that I have not killed or did not see a friend kill and butcher. Mechanized meat is just a real problem in this world so I steer clear. Pun intended, but not fun. I like to cook eastern cuisine--Indian, Thai, Vietnamese inspired recipes. There are some great cookbooks out by Jeffery Alford/Naomi Duguid. Pick one up at a library--the recipes are great and so are the photos and stories. My favorite cook book is The Turmeric Trail by Ragavad Iyer--good, South Indian Cooking. I'm mostly vegan but I don't make a huge deal of it--we do, after all, have canine teeth.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my bike
a well-stocked kitchen (is that cheating?)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Walking down the street, I think Typography. Why don't companies hire somebody with some real design skill before they pay for a damned billboard? I'm not saying that I'm the guy, but really?

I look at that billboard and I think of the constant objectification of women and how messed up our world is.

That leads me--for the hundredth time in the day--to think of how my privileges--racial, economic, sexual--affect my life and the lives of my neighbors.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Winding down from my work week. I believe in what I do for work, so I put a lot into it. That doesn't mean I cannot get away from it, but Friday nights are usually a quiet evening or a visit to a restaurant with one or two other friends. Sometimes we go to the climbing gym on Fridays.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I have a hidden concertina and I don't know how to play it. I want to learn but I don't know where to begin.
You should message me if
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If you've gotten this far, that bodes well for us. You are progressive, comfortable with polyamory or open relationships, and maybe just a bit excited about wild things. We'll hit it off.

Polyamory doesn't need to be hierarchical. Are you hoping for a friend who will make you feel special? You may like me.

Are you interested in adventures both indoors and out, romantic and otherwise? We may be a good match. Let's go!