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37 M Oakland, CA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 22
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegan
Other, but not too serious about it
Pisces, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Politics / Government
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), French (Poorly)

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My self-summary
We only have one chance at this and we're all in it together. I want to enjoy my time on this planet and seek to empower others to do the same. I want to cook for my friends. I enjoy planning adventures to share with others. I seek to to be aware of the effect of my actions on my community and on the broader environment. With this awareness, I strive to make choices that are consistent with my desire to do good in the world.

I like planning bike tours and riding my bike for fun. A thirty or forty-mile ride in the hills is a great afternoon pleasure for me.

I spend about three days a week in Sacramento for work. I keep a small commuter apartment there. On weekends, I'm mostly around Oakland and Berkeley.

My partner and I are strictly poly. It has been working well for us for years now. When I say that I don't mean "we just sleep around".

One thing I'm doing at work is seeking better ways to provide opportunities to experience nature and wildlife in urban communities. People protect things that they care about. People care about things that they understand! My agency calls this "building a connected conservation constituency." I am blessed to work for an organization where I sometimes am called upon to read or quote Aldo Leopold as part of the job.

I love being outdoors. I love quiet, natural places but also am delighted by little respites of nature hidden among the cracks on the concrete jungle.

I seek to empower and support my friends and family through feminism, respect and admiration of others' sexuality, and an interest in what everyone adds to our world. I strive for happiness and to achieve dreams. I accept that sugar is improved by a pinch of salt.

I am frequently complimented on my abilities to plan trips and cook meals in the backcountry. I do pretty alright in my home kitchen as well. I like to bake. I nurture sourdough starter as part of my weekly routine. I can make tofu taste like just about anything.

I am strong yet gentle, quiet yet often the loudest person in the room, thrifty yet generous.
What I’m doing with my life
I spent most of my twenties running all over the country on adventures by car, by thumb, by bicycle, on foot, by boat, and by freight train. Now I'm trying to focus more on building a social network and a home. That doesn't necessarily mean settling down. That means collecting more people I love to go run the rivers, range the fields, and climb the mountains' crest.

My work is for wildlife refuges. I'm very happy to say that I have been able to get a career doing something that I can feel proud of and that does not cause me to constantly question whether my work aligns with my values. I am in a good place and looking to take full advantage of the part of my life where I have friends, income, a home, and good health.

I have been a park ranger since 1998 and I hope to continue working in the conservation field. As part of my current position, I design print publications and plan nature center exhibits.
I’m really good at
Coming up with a large project, breaking it down into its minute parts, and systematically working through the various steps to create a good product. I am a planner and a doer. To listen to me talk to myself you may think that I am a dreamer... but do watch my process and be not surprised if what I say would be cool today is reality in five years... I just sometimes have to work though the bugs.

On that sort of a schedule, it's a shame we can't live to be a thousand years old.

You will note that I like bicycling. One cool part of bicycling is taking bikes apart and putting them back together!
The first things people usually notice about me
It's probably the beard and glasses.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books that I think about even years after reading them include The Razor's Edge by W. Somerset Maugham, The Fools Progress by Edward Abbey, Homage to Catalonia by George Orwell, Narcissus and Goldmund by Herman Hesse, It Can't Happen Here by Sinclair Lewis, Skinny Legs and All by Tom Robbins, Ceremony by Leslie Marmon Silko, Dharma Bums by Jack Kerouac, any book written it seems by John McPhee or Salman Rushdie--whose word play is delightful. Solzhenitsyn. Oh yes, Solzhenitsyn.

I have read a lot of Oliver Sacks's work in the last year, too.

Humph. I could keep listing. I guess I pick books fairly well because I like much of what I read.

I haven't seen a good movie in a while. The late seventies Sean Connery and Michael Cain version of The Man Who Would Be King--Rudyard Kipling--was pretty good. That's my favorite movie, I think. I saw Milk in the Castro Theater--the movie about Harvey Milk. That was a really cool experience. Recently, i rediscovered the 1969 film, Putney Swope--not the greatest movie but a string of really excellent scenes. I like going to theater to see documentaries.

I listen to a wide range of music--I prefer music that has a message that I agree with and the I can sing to myself later on. I carry a lot of lyrics and music in my head. Most of what I carry are Irish or Scottish in origin. I really enjoy Mary Black. I like to sing Johnny Cash songs--they're easy. There's a Robert Burns poem--Song for Autumn--that is wonderful to music and sounds fine a capella. I have folksy steaks of Joni Mitchel, Woody Guthrie, Chet Atkins, and early Dar Williams. I also have a punker streak of Sleater-Kinney, Echobelly, and Portishead. A3. TMBG. Soul Coughing.

I really am totally in love with Nancy Griffith's voice and music.

I'm pretty easy with regard to food but I do not eat meat that I have not killed or did not see a friend kill and butcher. Mechanized meat is just a real problem in this world so I steer clear. Pun intended, but not fun. I like to cook eastern cuisine--Indian, Thai, Vietnamese inspired recipes. There are some great cookbooks out by Jeffery Alford/Naomi Duguid. Pick one up at a library--the recipes are great and so are the photos and stories. My favorite cook book is The Turmeric Trail by Ragavad Iyer--good, South Indian Cooking.
The six things I could never do without
Water and sky are very important to me. I like to be in a place where I can see and touch water and see the land against a varied sky. I like the wind when it is dramatic--either in its rage or in its stillness. I demand things to climb on--even when I was working on an island in Michigan I found a rock I could play around on. A good, comfortable pair of hiking boots will carry me a long ways--I can even bicycle in them if I have to. The right clothing for the occasion will round out my demands--my fingers are cold right now but I can remember when I was too warm a few months ago so I will not simply demand a warmer coat.

Lets recap: 1. Water 2. A varied sky 3. Wind for drama 4. Rocks or something to climb on 5. Good boots. 6. Appropriate clothing for the season.

Six things? Why six?

What else could I ask for? Feed me once in a while, give me a friend, and give me freedom to move about and I'm not sure I would again need to ask for much. Joyful, playful, rambunctious, romantic frolicking is important to me too.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Typography. Why don't companies hire somebody with some real design skill before they pay for a damned billboard? I'm not saying that I'm the guy, but really?

How does that thing work? How did they come up with that idea? What should I plant?
On a typical Friday night I am
Winding down from my work week. I believe in what I do for work, so I put a lot into it. That doesn't mean I cannot get away from it, but Friday nights are usually a quiet evening or a visit to a restaurant with one or two other friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a hidden concertina and I don't know how to play it. I want to learn but I don't know where to begin.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–42
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
If you've gotten this far, that bodes well for us. You are progressive, comfortable with polyamory or open relationships, and maybe just a bit excited about wild things. We'll hit it off.

I am married, but we did that as part of buying our home. I do not classify my partners as primary, secondary, et cetera. Every relationship is different. Polyamory doesn't need to be hierarchical. Are you hoping for a partner who will make you feel special? You may like me.

I am not interested in having secret lovers, but I don't expect you'd want to be that anyway. That should be clear, though.

GGG, sex positive, interested in adventures both indoors and out, romantic and otherwise? We may be a good match. Let's go!