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  • Ages 36–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 3:29pm
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Working on Space camp
Has kids and doesn’t want more
Has dogs
My self-summary
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African born Irishman who was dragged to the US as a small child and raised on the grounds of a massive 'mental institution' [ where my father killed time as a psychiatrist] on the east coast presently living in Portland [ after 10 years in SF] and working for a non-profit mental health agency. Love what I do but don't want to be consumed by it. Write poerty [ which I think is quite good however much my 'friends' stare blankly at me after reading it], love the crack pot drama of politics, a shameless liberal loud mouth. Also cotten to whip smart women with strong opinions about pretty much everything but no interest in manufactured drama. Music is my anti dote to the general stupidty of media culture and I have a strong affection for Tom Waits, weepy Jesus country and the long range of all that exists between these two poles.
And......what else? Felony free, playful as an otter, kind as a priest who has recently left the order to pursue ordinary and extra-ordinary pleasures. Also, I am......flummoxed [sp] by what do to with all these bales of hundred dollar bills laying about my flat.
What I’m doing with my life
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Revising it
I’m really good at
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Extemporaneous speeches, usually let loose on balconies. I have a dark and booming voice and so do not require a bullhorn. Listening [ and no, I am not making this up this time] . Rescuing infants from burning buildings. I think that covers it. For now.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My aura.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Lets just go for authors; Samuel Beckett, Philp Roth, Cormac McCarthy, Denis Johnson, Ian McEwan, Mark Strand, John Ashbery, The Rilke. Love foreign films as they are les full of bullshit. Music.....Waits, Sun Kil Moon, Iris De Ment, , Damien Jurado, Lucinda Williams, Tom Verlaine, Eno/Byrnes Bush of Ghosts, REM [ yep] Husker Du, Zepperela, Bill the Fizzell, 5 percent of Brian Jonestown Massacre, King Sunny Ade.....Handkes 7th Continet, The Piano Teacher, Cache; Melancholia, some of Orzons stuff......and, very much, Pina Bausch, the dead German choreographer who is brilliant beyond description........
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
finding the lost ear ring the following day
the luck of speaking out
the complex surprise
the rigors of kindness
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How my preference for complex women remains something I well need to discuss with my hypnotist. Then again she too is complex, leading to all kinds of messy discussions, hence resolving nothing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Consulting with my bail bondsman, or....bonds woman. Drinking, with great vigor, with my friends of a half blind date who is so inclined. Staring blankly at my puppy as she shreds another hardcover book.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I could be deported before then next sun rises.
Then again I wouldn't mind being forced to go back to Ireland. Zambia not so much.
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