**if you live in the bay area, seattle or l.a., and are wondering why i'm checking out your profile, it's because i travel often between these areas and may be looking for someone cool to hang out with!**

touch/sex-positive writer and social chameleon seeks collaborators for subverting the establishment, bar stool philosophizing, creative endeavors, adventure, and general low-key mayhem.

regarding okc labeling-- "bisexuality" is for suckas! call me homoflexible, call me omnisexual-- the point is, that while i am most often attracted to female-bodied people presenting as take-no-shit femmes, there is a good chance that if you are a human being in a human body, i just might be attracted to you.

who am i today? makes mistakes but always cleans them up. possessor of an exterior that grows more "traditionally" feminine each week while my inner tomboy nestles in my core, alive and well and plotting motorcycle camping trips. easy to talk to, the default "psychotherapist" in my social circle. sweet and sincere to others; relentlessly driven and hard on myself. sometimes reclusive, sometimes outgoing; catch me on the right day and i'll rock your world. shines best one-on-one or in small groups as i find small talk tedious... let's talk about real shit.
shopping for friends and lovers online is a lot like standing in the aisle of a grocery store, reading the ingredients on a box and trying to imagine what it tastes like.

when i meet someone i like as a human being, i can be instantly fawning, inclusive, and gregarious. while some may find my enthusiasm for people and life irritating, i find that this attitude draws all the right people, while keeping the grumpy ones at bay. life is too short for stand-offishness, or other socially contrived bullshit.

this, and other things.

likes: kung fu flicks, puppies, a good piece of garlic bread, sunrises, fire pits, warm mud between my toes, bubble baths, endorphins, sharing a laugh with strangers, morning sex, zombie movies, waffle cones, pink monster trucks.

dislikes: too-cool-for-school people, pickles, apathy, rules, "authority", evangelists, a punch in the face, callousness, endangered species poaching, class warfare, aggressive spiders, shitty drivers, shitty roommates, dog shit on the sidewalk.

writing. choosing the slowest line in any retail establishment. steering a car with my knees. making others feel comfortable. wrestling dogs. saying it like it is. sneezing several times in a row. tending to people who have been overlooked. kissing. communicating fully yet kindly. laughing at inappropriate times. dancing to phat beats. being good to others. dipping my hair into whatever i'm eating. finding the word you're looking for. composure under fire. adventures! finding the shoes i want cheaper online. massage. being present. getting distracted. sex. communicating with the insane. looking extra fly when i wanna. taking long, hot baths on cold days. following recipes.

physically? my crazy awesome dreds, they get a lot of compliments.
words people often use to describe me: easy to talk to; badass; intimidating-at-first; good listener; unique; adventurous; bold; explorative; do-gooder; smart; articulate; stubborn/persevering; nice; so nice, so really, very nice; and "hot lesbian", not to mention "bootylicious" and "amazing rack." seriously, these things are said to my face. and sometimes my chest.

on a side note, a boy i once dated said i was "like a fucking unicorn," shaking his head in awe. i think what he was referring to was my intriguing mix of feminine and masculine qualities... i never had a dad and thus never learned the boy-girl dynamics game, so i am the type of lass who loves to sew, dress up purty, care-take others, and has a hearty feminine lust for sensual pleasures, and at the same time i will throw a football around, chop cord wood, and back you up in a bar fight. in addition, i was a late bloomer and had to develop a personality and other admirable qualities. these things together pack a sizable punch, and most people who meet me like me and enjoy my company.

current favorite mind-blowingly awesome book: the new jim crow. sex at dawn was also excellent. i'm more of a non-fiction reader these days, but i do enjoy the occasional novel, two or three times a year.

tv- i don't have one, but i occasionally watch shows online. some all-time favorites are THE WALKING DEAD, sons of anarchy, true blood, heroes, the office, family guy, the daily show, lie to me, strangers with candy, parks and recreation, drawn together, archer... you get where i'm coming from.

movies- what can i say? i watch a lot but it's hard to thrill me.

music- i like almost everything (no heavy metal, christian, or contemporary country, thank you very much), but some fav artists have been bjork, ani difranco, massive attack, fiona apple, erykah badu, the roots, johnny cash, the pixies, etta james, immortal technique, mos def, nina simone, imogen heap, phillip glass, chopin, eric satie. currently in high rotation on my jukebox are the xx and lykke li.

alone time. music of all types. books. exercise. nature. touch. healthy food. that's seven, but i'm a rebel, baby.

what are they thinking about? religion is destroying the world, what can i do to change that? what am i going to eat for lunch? money. how can i contribute to the advancement of society? hot, sweaty, athletic sex (the best kind). the past. the future? my hair (just being honest here, people). skills i want to learn. sociological observations. how can i develop myself into the best human i can be? social darwinism. community. capitalism? capitalism! (grrr!) homesteading stuff. destroying the establishment! grad school. various feminist ponderings. generalized disdain for people who bury their heads in the sand. my own and others' psychological motivations? boobies! essays i am writing or want to write. female orgasm. entrepreneurism. how to punch a shark in the eye or kick a bear in the balls should i ever be attacked by one.

druuuuunk.

or not.
sometimes i take baths and read books, or watch classic movies.

i have little concept of personal privacy.

unless you're the government.
if you're the government, piss off!

what i want:
1) friends!! you should message me if we're over an 80% match to one another. here's what i've learned in my several years on okc: regardless of if there turns out to be sexual chemistry, if you meet in person someone who's over 85 or 90 percent match, you have an instant rapport and an awesome new friend. and who doesn't want more awesome friends?
while i can (and often do) befriend almost anyone, i spend most of my time with people who demonstrate a high capacity for honest self-inquiry, are low on the judgmental spectrum, and possess good critical thinking skills. i'm particularly in the market for badass chick friends. extra points if you're a woman of color.

2) sexy connections...?
at this point, i'm kinda over casual sex. i did it all through my twenties-- i'm quite good at it (put THAT on a resume!)-- and it's goddamn BORING. the *connection* is where the juice is for me these days, so if you're looking for a quick fuck, move on... i'm at least a month long project.

note: i only do open relationships, but my version of "poly" can sometimes look more like "mono with make out buddies" because i am very picky when it comes to who i invest in.

be forewarned... poor grammar and spelling are anathema to me! (hiss!!!) if you don't know the difference between their, they're and there, stay away!