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monkielove

35 F Port Republic, VA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like girls
  • Ages 28–45
  • Located anywhere
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Gay
Ethnicity
Black, Native American, White
Height
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Religion
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Sign
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Mostly monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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touch/sex-positive writer and social chameleon seeks collaborators for subverting the establishment, bar stool philosophizing, creative endeavors, adventure, and general low-key mayhem.

my personality can probably best be described as what would happen if 1) a 13-year old boy who woke up one morning inside a busty woman's body, 2) a snarky and cynical old queen past his glory days, 3) your anti-government survivalist uncle, and 4) dorthy day all got together and had a baby. i recognize that reading peoples' profiles can be a lot like reading the ingredients on a box of processed food and trying to imagine what it tastes like; nevertheless i'll do my best.

i'm an introvert that plays the part of extrovert well. friendly and easy to talk to. unafraid of risk. literate. often mistaken for younger than i am. has fingers in many pies. largely incapable of small talk (i can muscle my way through it but for me it's only foreplay to get to the good stuff). constantly in a state of trying things on. craves authentic human connection and intellectual stimulation (and sometimes, pizza).

i'm sensitive to the cruelty and suffering in the world. awed by the beauty occasionally demonstrated by humans. searching into the future. haunted by ghosts of the past. highly emotionally developed, perceptive, and self-aware. a big soft, wet, gooey heart, but i won't show it right away. striving and wondering if i'll make it. am i a lion disguised as a mouse, or a mouse disguised as a lion? is enough ever enough?

i thrive on genuine communication about shit that matters; it is the air i breathe. my life is slipping through my fingers like sand, so is yours, and i don't have time to talk about the weather... i want to understand the world and myself better through understanding YOU. the older i get, the more apparent it becomes to me that conversation is my religion.
"when two people relate to each other authentically and humanly, god is the electricity that surges between them." -martin buber
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
i used to be very ambitious. lately, i feel that the most distinguished degrees are at best only buttresses to prop ourselves up and the most lucrative career in the world pales in comparison to the comfort and joy provided by a community of true friends. or as j.r.r. tolkien puts it: "if more of us valued food and cheer and song above hoarded gold, it would be a merrier world." so the best thing i have found i can do for myself is to thoroughly enjoy my life and imbue everyone i touch with the feeling of having been loved, embraced, and understood. that sounds like some major hippie shit but it's what's real.

likes: kung fu flicks, puppies, a good piece of garlic bread, puns(!), sunrises, backyard fires, stand-up comedy, warm mud between my toes, bubble baths, endorphins, sharing a laugh with strangers, morning sex, zombie movies, waffle cones, pink monster trucks.

dislikes: too-cool-for-school people, pickles, apathy, rules, "authority", evangelists, a punch in the face, callousness, endangered species poaching, class warfare, aggressive spiders, shitty drivers, shitty roommates, dog shit on the sidewalk.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
(nine out of ten friends agree: i'm kind of ridiculously awesome).

writing. choosing the slowest line in any retail establishment. steering a car with my knees. making others feel comfortable. wrestling dogs. saying it like it is. processing your shit. meeting people. sneezing several times in a row. tending to people who have been overlooked. kissing. communicating fully yet kindly. bringing you drinks (including water) at da' club. laughing at inappropriate times. dancing to phat beats. being good to others. not getting offended. dipping my hair into whatever i'm eating. being your wingman. finding the word you're looking for. cooking dope meals. composure under fire. finding the shoes i want cheaper online. handling my anger, and yours too. massage. being present. getting distracted. communicating with the insane. looking extra fly when i wanna. following recipes.

i'm really bad at:
math. dealing with bureaucracies. spelling "bureaucracy" (i have to look it up every damn time). juggling. being nice to men who continue to harass me after i've already told them once, politely, that i'm not interested. keeping plants alive. smiling on cue for the camera. being patient with automated phone systems. remembering names. remembering MLA formatting. remembering your birthday. giving a shit about pop culture.

my ABSOLUTE FAVORITE things to do are (in no particular order): meet new people and either make them laugh or figure out what we have in common/ make new friends; have wacky adventures; give women orgasms; care-take friends or strangers; people-watch and analyze; barstool philosophize (or smoke-a-joint philosophize) about freedom, love, politics, human evolution, etc; process friends' (or strangers') emotional stuff; learn; cuddle; write about heavy shit; dance; play fun social games like "cards against humanity" and "taboo" with a group of drunken acquaintances; lure ordinary citizens into conversations about deep sociological problems; flirt with disaster; corrupt young minds with the seeds of autonomy and independent thought; help people realize how amazing and beautiful they are.
The first things people usually notice about me
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well, let's be honest, i have big tits, so depending on what i'm wearing, those are probably in the top tier. my dreadlocks also get a lot of compliments.
i have also been described as a "badass" and a "do-gooder," as well as "bootylicious."

on a side note, a boy i once dated said i was "like a fucking unicorn," shaking his head in awe. i think what he was referring to was my intriguing mix of feminine and masculine qualities... i never had a dad and thus never learned the boy-girl dynamics game, so i am the type of lass who loves to sew, dress up purty, care-take others, and has a hearty feminine lust for sensual pleasures, and at the same time i will drink you under the table, throw a football around, chop cord wood, and back you up in a bar fight.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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i've been on a fiction kick, enjoying the hell outta some george saunders. other authors i've been enthralled with at different times of my life were stephen king (angry teenager), jeanette winterson (just came out as a lesbo), david sedaris (partying and sleeping around), and barbara kingsolver (embracing my womanhood, or something). as far as non-fiction, some of my recent favs were "the new jim crow", "sex at dawn", and "in the realm of hungry ghosts" to name a few. currently reading "on anarchy" by noam chomsky and "how to win friends and influence people" by dale carnegie. i hope to be a full-fledged social engineer by the time i'm fifty.

tv- some all-time favorites are THE WALKING DEAD, orange is the new black, sons of anarchy, true blood, heroes, the office, family guy, the daily show, lie to me, strangers with candy, parks and recreation, drawn together, archer... you get where i'm coming from.

movies- what can i say? i watch a lot but it's hard to thrill me.

music- i like almost everything (no heavy metal, christian, or contemporary country, thank you very much), but some fav artists have been bjork, ani difranco, massive attack, fiona apple, the roots, johnny cash, leonard cohen, the pixies, etta james, immortal technique, mos def, nina simone, imogen heap, philip glass, chopin, eric satie. i'm also guilty of loving mindless hip hop that i can shake my booty to (iggy azalea, i'm looking at you).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
alone time. music of all types. books. exercise. nature. my vixskin outlaw. healthy food. that's seven, but i'm a rebel, baby.

(runners up: the interwebs, a sense of humor, my homies).
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
jesus, can we all just be real for one minute and put "sex" here? is there any human under 50 who doesn't think about sex at least once a day? is there any purpose to having these beautiful bodies if we're not supposed to smoosh them together?

the collapsing dollar, the future of the united states, what i'm going to eat for lunch, the creative process, women, social justice, how i can best be of service, money, DIY stuff, what i should've said instead of what i actually said, police brutality, the world bankers, boobs, my next tattoos, human motivation, how drag queens do their makeup so much better than i do, the nature of reality, the nature of evil, how the media is trying to manipulate me to either buy shit or believe shit, science, god, sex, what i should be doing instead of this.

(or should that have read "sex-- what i should be doing instead of this"?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
drinking mojitos and writing, because i just moved here and have no friends. (sob!)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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1) i have little concept of personal privacy.

unless you're the nsa.
if you're the nsa, piss off!

2) i'm an *extremely* sexual person, hence "open relationships" (see below)... past LTRs haven't worked because my sex drive was much higher than my partners'. this *doesn't mean* i want to get it on with just anybody... this means i have an abundance of energy to share with the right person/ people. you've been warned.
You should message me if
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what i want:
1) friends!! you should message me if we're over 70% match to one another. here's what i've learned in my several years on okc: regardless of if there turns out to be sexual chemistry, if you meet in person someone who's over 85 or 90 percent match, you have an instant rapport and an awesome new friend. and who doesn't want more awesome friends?

2) sexy connections...?
i tend to be most attracted to sporty-chicks/tomboy femmes/women just slightly more on the feminine side of androgyny. that said, it is all about the person, and i have definitely met women i had no initial attraction to who i developed crushes on through a few good conversations (me = sapiosexual).
*note: i'm monogam-ish... i only do open relationships, because life is short and connecting with people is fun. but when i find someone i like i am (mostly) satisfied with them.
**note also: i am mostly gay (in that i have only had love relationships with women) but i do occasionally play with dudes. i refer to myself as a sexual omnivore...i certainly have a favorite food (yum!) but i'll eat just about anything if i get hungry enough.

if you're going to message me, please either a) be a fucking awesome weirdo, or b) BRING IT WIT DA REAL SHIT. ask me about the last book i read that changed my worldview, or let's talk about the meaning of life... anything but "hey girl," or "how was your weekend?" AIN'T NOBODY GOT TIME FOR THAT.

be forewarned... poor grammar and spelling are anathema to me! (hiss!!!) if you don't know the difference between their, they're and there, stay away!