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47 Quincy, MA Woman


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 37–62
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 24
5′ 2″ (1.57m)
Body type
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Art / Music / Writing
Likes cats

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Show me your face -
I crave flowers and gardens
open your lips -
I crave the taste of honey
~ Rumi

THAT is what i'm looking for. do you want that kind of Passion & Affection? will you let it in? work to keep it?

tl;dr version: Cultured! Very liberal! playful, passionate, Ready to partner. sks Same in a maybe quirky, definitely unbearded, slenderish guy. any kids 13+

i'm a little wacky, but more straight than most wacky folks. i have my grouchy moments - but work to be kind. i Choose to "overlook" many negatives, and try not to be holier-than-thou. over many years of contemplation & research I've formulated strong opinions, and i don't use pussyfoot-around language. there's a bundle of contradictions, and i'm flawed by any measure. But - day after day, few folks are as collaborative, flexible about the little stuff, and empathetic.

i get a lot of broad smiles from folks, and a good share of puzzled looks. i choose to walk on the sunny side of the street, but sometimes get really down about humanity. i can say the 3 most beautiful words: 'you were right.'

my organization will help bring about the New UtopiaTM.

about interests:
i Love culture. it's my #1 fun. i hang out with others into culture (audience is fine) - we have great conversations - my #1 sexy. i'm in love with aesthetics & beauty, but the most important things to me are Far below the surface. i seek someone also swimming in the depths. i get along best with the politically Aware & Very Liberal - but not libertarian, conspiritorial, or Deeply cynical/negative.

about looks /attraction:
i have chemistry w/ sometimes quirky, always fairly slender men (runner/tennis build, not football/stocky), w/out a hairy face. ie: leonard cohen, barack obama, anderson cooper, lance armstrong.

deep, evolving people Yes, can have basic 'chemistry' orientations - but - are most concerned with Insides. if you're hung up on intimate hair removal or barbi style, we're not a match.

about kids:
mine (1) is an adult. i'd prefer to date someone w/out kids <13.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
i'm Escaping the cage of a design business and soaring into the air of an art career - without a net.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
bringing out the best in people.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
if i'm 'on' - my ineffable magnetism. if i'm off - i'm flying under the radar.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
sushi, green tea mochi, coconut ice cream, dark chocolate, ethnic foods
it's a wonderful life, defending your life, i <3 huckabees
WERS, indie rock, WUMB, great dance music - funk, some disco, many world musics
netflix instead of tv
too many books. lifetime faves - the little prince, many from sinclear lewis, edith wharton.... a recent great - supersad true love story
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
are the 6 Secrets to Happily: Science, Sex, Psychology, Culture, Exploration, and Games.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
how to help move the world forward .00000000000001% faster than it would already go; how to communicate from a place of compassion
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
working on the project of a lifetime, or, taking a much needed break to go look at art or to commune with friend/s ...

but one way or another, always evolving. -
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
i am a big softie who can tear up at advertisements, the news...
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
if you ARE the droid i'm looking for - interests (culture!) - politics (liberal!!) - looks (rather slender! non-furry!)


i'm looking for intellectual compatibility & someone who's also seeking a life partner. not couples, hookups, etc. This also means i'm only looking for someone who is comfortable with the term 'life partner' and also is hoping to find a true relationship and not only willing but joyfully wanting to make time for it - time defined as in a dating relationship if it is 'working' and once it 'gets going', you see each other a couple times a week most weeks and you communicate in other ways at least a couple more times a week - because you WANT TO talk to and see that person, not because you are under duress.

i Am open to people 'outside the edges' of my wishlist, but not the opposite of what i'm looking for. i try hard to reply at least with a nice decline, except for opposites.

OPPOSITES include: current/recent military/police; STOCKY/heavy build/football player body structure, permanent facial hair; no cultural interests; >1.5 hours' drive from boston; <36; anti vaxxer; trans or lifestyle S/M; more than 1 child <14, any children <12; conservative or libertarian ('fiscal conservatism' is equally bad).

i am strongly anti racist, feminist, egalitarian, as are All my friends and anyone i date.