A couple of years ago, I realized I was not happy with the life I had, that everything I had achieved was leaving me feeling empty, that being a big box consumer and buying myself new toys wasn't filling those voids and that I could no longer plod through life like an ox strapped to a yoke. Now I'm trying to rediscover life, try new things, find new passions, new people to share it all with. I've dedicated myself to getting into shape and I've discovered a taste for adventure, for pushing myself to try new experiences.
Not to say that my past life has been a waste or I've written it off. I'm fairly successful, have a circle of great friends, have achieved a lot...I just want something more, something new, a little more fulfillment. I'm interested in learning and experiencing more about the parts of life that have been a mystery so far, visiting art galleries and museums, new music, whatever, I'm open to suggestions.
I'm also in love with the outdoors, I love everything from an afternoon in the park or on the mountain to day hikes in the Laurentians to full pack hiking trips in the Adirondacks, although it's been years since I've done any serious hiking or camping.
A little more about me; I own two businesses, both of which are fairly well established, and I work a lot less than I did in the start up years. I work in a very social industry, and it involves a fair amount of partying, drinking and other recreational activities. Most of my social circle is from the same industry and younger than me, my older friends are in general married with children and living in the suburbs. I spend time with them when I can, but the suburbs are a great place to visit, I don't want to live there, I'm not part of the backyard BBQ crowd. At the same time, the partying by no means defines me as a person. Going out for dinner or drinks make up a large part of my social time, but given the alternative (and companionship) I will take a thought provoking conversation, a hike in the woods, or an afternoon at the market over an evening spent getting s***faced every time. I've been told this makes me sound like an alcoholic party animal. I'm not.
In relationships, I feel communication is vital. I am looking for a partner who thinks, who is interested in ideas and activities outside of the things I do, someone who will challenge me and offer up some provoking conversation, who is not afraid of debate and taking a stand, and who will motivate me to take an interest in...anything. I feel that sex is a huge part of a relationship. I'm in no way looking for casual sex, I don't hook up with someone unless I feel a connection with them. That being said, I also feel that such a connection may happen early on, or might take longer, however I want to ensure compatibility before I get too emotionally involved. Sexually, I am very open minded and seek the same. I feel that sex should be fun, eye- and mind-opening, and that the joy is in the journey, not in the destination. I feel it is important to communicate with my partner, and to push boundaries, try new things, learn my partner's body and mind. I tend to be aggressive (not violent) and take the lead. I don't believe that sex ends at orgasm, either. In short, if your preference in intimacy is a quick, traditional sexual encounter, then to roll over and go to sleep...look elsewhere.