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Pill to erase bad memories

A drug which appears to erase painful memories has been developed by scientists.

The astonishing treatment could help sufferers of post-traumatic stress disorder and those whose lives are plagued by hurtful recurrent memories.

But British experts said the breakthrough raises disturbing ethical questions about what makes us human.

They also warned it could have damaging psychological consequences, preventing those who take it from learning from their mistakes.

Dr Daniel Sokol, a lecturer in medical ethics at St George's, University of London, said: 'Removing bad memories is not like removing a wart or a mole. It will change our personal identity since who we are is linked to our memories.

'It may perhaps be beneficial in some cases, but before eradicating memories, we must reflect on the knock-on effects that this will have on individuals, society and our sense of humanity.'

Dutch researchers claim to have erased bad memories by using 'beta-blocker' drugs, which are usually prescribed to patients with heart disease.

Experiments on animals had already shown that the drugs - beta-adrenergic receptor blockers - can interfere with how the brain makes and remakes memories of frightening events.

In the latest study, Dr Merel Kindt of Amsterdam University tested the drugs on 60 men and women.

His team created fearful memories in volunteers by showing them pictures of spiders while giving them gentle electric shocks.

The volunteers were urged to 'actively remember' the images, creating a strong negative association between spiders and discomfort.

The following day the volunteers were split into two groups. One was given the beta blocker and the other a placebo pill before both were shown the same spider pictures.

The researchers recorded the level of fear in the volunteers by playing sudden noises and measuring how strongly they blinked.

A strong startle response showed they were in a fearful state, while a mild response showed they were calm.

The group given the beta blocker had a much weaker fear response than those given the dummy pill, the researchers report in the journal Nature Neuroscience.

A day later - once the drug was out of their systems - their fear response was tested again.

Once more, those given the beta blocker the previous day showed fewer signs of spider phobia, suggesting the memory was completely erased.

Beta blockers appear to work because each time someone recalls a powerful emotional memory the memory is 'remade' by the brain.


The drug interferes with this re-creation of the stressful memory - and prevents the brain renewing it.

In theory, it could eradicate memories of traumatic events that happened years ago. It might also help patients overcome phobias, obsessions, eating disorders and even sexual hang-ups.

Dr Kindt said: 'Traditionally, therapists seek to teach people with such disorders strategies to build new associations and block bad memories but the problem is the memories remain and people often relapse.'

It could be several years before doctors prescribe the drugs for patients with post-traumatic stress disorder.

The scientists say more tests are needed to confirm the drug's memory- erasing properties. Dr Kindt said: 'The next steps are to look at how long the drug's effects on memory last, and testing the treatment in people who actually are suffering from some kind of disorder or phobia.'

But British experts warned the drug raises some difficult questions.

Professor John Harris, an expert in biological ethics at the University of Manchester, said: 'It is obviously up to the individual whether or not she wishes to risk the possible effects, including psychological discontinuity, of erasing unpleasant memories.

'An interesting complexity is the possibility that victims, say of violence, might wish to erase the painful memory and with it their ability to give evidence against assailants.

'Similarly criminals and witnesses to crime may, under the guise of erasing a painful memory, render themselves unable to give evidence.'

Paul Farmer, chief executive of the mental-health charity Mind, said he was concerned about the 'fundamentally pharmacological' approach to problems such as phobias and anxiety.

He told Channel 4 News that the unintended consequences 'could include the eradication of positive memories'.

Professor Neil Burgess of the Institute of Cognitive Neuroscience told the programme that wide-scale use of the drug was a long way off.

'All they've shown so far is that the increased ability to startle someone if they are feeling a bit anxious is reduced,' he said.

The ability to remove memories has been the stuff of science fiction for decades.

In the film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, which starred Kate Winslet and Jim Carrey, a couple used a technique to erase memories of each other when their relationship turned sour.

Pill to erase bad memories

A drug which appears to erase painful memories has beendeveloped by scientists.

The astonishing treatment could help sufferers of post-traumaticstress disorder and those whose lives are plagued by hurtfulrecurrent memories.

But British experts said the breakthrough raises disturbingethical questions about what makes us human.

They also warned it could have damaging psychologicalconsequences, preventing those who take it from learning from theirmistakes.

Dr Daniel Sokol, a lecturer in medical ethics at St George's,University of London, said: 'Removing bad memories is not likeremoving a wart or a mole. It will change our personal identitysince who we are is linked to our memories.

'It may perhaps be beneficial in some cases, but beforeeradicating memories, we must reflect on the knock-on effects thatthis will have on individuals, society and our sense ofhumanity.'

Dutch researchers claim to have erased bad memories by using'beta-blocker' drugs, which are usually prescribed to patients withheart disease.

Experiments on animals had already shown that the drugs -beta-adrenergic receptor blockers - can interfere with how thebrain makes and remakes memories of frightening events.

In the latest study, Dr Merel Kindt of Amsterdam Universitytested the drugs on 60 men and women.

His team created fearful memories in volunteers by showing thempictures of spiders while giving them gentle electric shocks.

The volunteers were urged to 'actively remember' the images,creating a strong negative association between spiders anddiscomfort.

The following day the volunteers were split into two groups. Onewas given the beta blocker and the other a placebo pill before bothwere shown the same spider pictures.

The researchers recorded the level of fear in the volunteers byplaying sudden noises and measuring how strongly they blinked.

A strong startle response showed they were in a fearful state,while a mild response showed they were calm.

The group given the beta blocker had a much weaker fear responsethan those given the dummy pill, the researchers report in thejournal Nature Neuroscience.

A day later - once the drug was out of their systems - theirfear response was tested again.

Once more, those given the beta blocker the previous day showedfewer signs of spider phobia, suggesting the memory was completelyerased.

Beta blockers appear to work because each time someone recalls apowerful emotional memory the memory is 'remade' by the brain.


The drug interferes with this re-creation of the stressful memory -and prevents the brain renewing it.

In theory, it could eradicate memories of traumatic events thathappened years ago. It might also help patients overcome phobias,obsessions, eating disorders and even sexual hang-ups.

Dr Kindt said: 'Traditionally, therapists seek to teach peoplewith such disorders strategies to build new associations and blockbad memories but the problem is the memories remain and peopleoften relapse.'

It could be several years before doctors prescribe the drugs forpatients with post-traumatic stress disorder.

The scientists say more tests are needed to confirm the drug'smemory- erasing properties. Dr Kindt said: 'The next steps are tolook at how long the drug's effects on memory last, and testing thetreatment in people who actually are suffering from some kind ofdisorder or phobia.'

But British experts warned the drug raises some difficultquestions.

Professor John Harris, an expert in biological ethics at theUniversity of Manchester, said: 'It is obviously up to theindividual whether or not she wishes to risk the possible effects,including psychological discontinuity, of erasing unpleasantmemories.

'An interesting complexity is the possibility that victims, sayof violence, might wish to erase the painful memory and with ittheir ability to give evidence against assailants.

'Similarly criminals and witnesses to crime may, under the guiseof erasing a painful memory, render themselves unable to giveevidence.'

Paul Farmer, chief executive of the mental-health charity Mind,said he was concerned about the 'fundamentally pharmacological'approach to problems such as phobias and anxiety.

He told Channel 4 News that the unintended consequences 'couldinclude the eradication of positive memories'.

Professor Neil Burgess of the Institute of CognitiveNeuroscience told the programme that wide-scale use of the drug wasa long way off.

'All they've shown so far is that the increased ability tostartle someone if they are feeling a bit anxious is reduced,' hesaid.

The ability to remove memories has been the stuff of sciencefiction for decades.

In the film Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, which starredKate Winslet and Jim Carrey, a couple used a technique to erasememories of each other when their relationship turned sour.

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My Next Dilemma

A friend wanted to renew our friendship -- by recently, I mean two months ago. Prior to that, that friend and I didn't talk to each other for around three months. During that three-month period, that friend talked maliciously about me, slandered my image, and even made it a habit to mock me behind my back.

When that friend approached me, I couldn't turn her down. I accepted her offer. However, I asked her a key question: "Did you ever slander me when we stopped talking to each other?" Her answer was that she didn't.

In late September, I discovered that she lied. I confronted her, and she apologized. I guess my main objection was that she lied. She gave me her word that she said nothing about me after that. She lied -- again.

Earlier last week, I found out about something else she said when we weren't talking to each other last summer, thus furthering her lie. I confronted her, and she asked for forgiveness.

Of course, I hesitated to write about this, but I need an objective opinion on this matter. Am I overreacting? Should I let the past go? Am I right in being angry at her for lying to me that she had never backstabbed me?

A friend wanted to renew our friendship -- by recently, I meantwo months ago. Prior to that, that friend and I didn't talk toeach other for around three months. During that three-month period,that friend talked maliciously about me, slandered my image, andeven made it a habit to mock me behind my back.

When that friend approached me, I couldn't turn her down. Iaccepted her offer. However, I asked her a key question: "Did youever slander me when we stopped talking to each other?" Her answerwas that she didn't.

In late September, I discovered that she lied. I confronted her,and she apologized. I guess my main objection was that she lied.She gave me her word that she said nothing about me after that. Shelied -- again.

Earlier last week, I found out about something else she saidwhen we weren't talking to each other last summer, thus furtheringher lie. I confronted her, and she asked for forgiveness.

Of course, I hesitated to write about this, but I need anobjective opinion on this matter. Am I overreacting? Should I letthe past go? Am I right in being angry at her for lying to me thatshe had never backstabbed me?

My Next Dilemma

People of Wal-Mart

This site made me laugh all night.

Desprate Much, Rush?

Rush Was Punked: “Obama Thesis” Hoax

by Claudine Zap

It must have seemed so perfect. An obscure blogger unearths some pages of President Obama's college thesis. The report supposedly comes from big-time journalist Joe Klein of Time magazine. And the thesis has some real gems: like Obama's disdain for the Constitution.

The whole thing was nothing more than a satirical post on a humor blog. But Rush Limbaugh, who quoted from the supposed thesis on his radio show, sure wasn't laughing. Here's how it went down.

An unknown blogger picked up on a made-up post meant as a joke, which claimed that Joe Klein had gotten his hands on 10 pages of student Obama's college thesis. Rush Limbaugh jumped on it, which immediately sparked Web searches on "obama thesis."

Supposedly titled "Aristocracy Revisited," the excerpt revealed the president had "doubts" about the "so-called founders." Juicy. Except not true. Limbaugh discovered halfway through his show that he'd been had, but defended himself by saying basically the thesis felt true. Listen in to Rush's mea sorta culpa.

Joe Klein finally jumped in, and called the report "nonsense" on his Swampland blog, and the blogger who thought the hoax was real also apologized.

Let's hope someone kept their sense of humor in all this. Still, for a humble post to go from humor blog to major media outlet sure seems impressive. Someone ought to write their thesis on it. For real.

Rush Was Punked:“Obama Thesis” Hoax

by Claudine Zap

It must have seemed so perfect. An obscure blogger unearths somepages of President Obama's college thesis. The report supposedlycomes from big-time journalist Joe Klein of Time magazine. And thethesis has some real gems: like Obama's disdain for theConstitution.

The whole thing was nothing more than a satirical post on ahumor blog. But Rush Limbaugh, who quoted from the supposed thesison his radio show, sure wasn't laughing. Here's how it wentdown.

An unknown blogger picked up on a made-up post meant as a joke,which claimed that Joe Klein had gotten his hands on 10 pages ofstudent Obama's college thesis. Rush Limbaugh jumped on it, whichimmediately sparked Web searches on "obama thesis."

Supposedly titled "Aristocracy Revisited," the excerpt revealedthe president had "doubts" about the "so-called founders." Juicy.Except not true. Limbaugh discovered halfway through his show thathe'd been had, but defended himself by saying basically the thesisfelt true. Listen in to Rush'smea sorta culpa.

Joe Klein finally jumped in, and called the report "nonsense" onhis Swampland blog, and the blogger who thought the hoax was realalso apologized.

Let's hope someone kept their sense of humor in all this. Still,for a humble post to go from humor blog to major media outlet sureseems impressive. Someone ought to write their thesis on it. Forreal.

Desprate Much, Rush?

Yawn

Ever felt so tired but couldn't actually sleep? I hate that feeling.

Ever felt so tired but couldn't actually sleep? I hate thatfeeling.

Yawn

Buzzing undies make shopper faint

Buzzing undies make shopper faint

OKCupid IMs

Don't you find it incredibly annoying when someone on this site sends you an IM but has absolutely nothing to discuss or talk about? They would just greet you, ask how you are, and remain quiet throughout the rest of the conversation.

Don't you find it incredibly annoying when someone on this sitesends you an IM but has absolutely nothing to discuss or talkabout? They would just greet you, ask how you are, and remain quietthroughout the rest of the conversation.

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My LSAT Score

I have finally received my LSAT score this morning. Seemingly, I did better than I expected. I scored 167. That's a near-perfect score.

Next step: Start searching for a good law school.

I have finally received my LSAT score this morning. Seemingly, Idid better than I expected. I scored 167. That's a near-perfectscore.

Next step: Start searching for a good law school.

My LSAT Score

Question About OKCupid

How in the world do I track my own journal comments on other journals?

How in the world do I track my own journal comments on otherjournals?

Question About OKCupid