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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 28-68
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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Last online
Yesterday – 6:31am
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
5' 8" (1.73m)
Buddhism and laughing about it
Dropped out of Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Italian (Fluently), French (Somewhat), C++ (Somewhat)
My self-summary
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Optimism is kinda stupid but I can't help myself

"...I think that I am a reflection, like the moon on water. When you see me, and I try to be a good man, you see yourself..."
-- Kundun

Wed Aug 19 16:11:50 EDT 2015

I am unboxable. Save yourself the exasperation and don't try.

I'm looking for Friends

I'm in relationships with several women. I live with a partner (I met her on OKC) and she knows my comings and goings, and she's not going anywhere, so I'm probably going to be disappointing if you are seeking a primary relationship. I am open to casually dating. The good news is that I am not looking to trick you into jumping into bed either. I'm not a player looking for a hookup. Just the facts.

I like to flirt. I have been a relationship anarchist (RA -- ) in open relationships/polyamorous relationships my whole life. For over 10 years I moderated an on-line poly support and education group in Hampton Roads.

I'm responsible about the relationships I start and how I conduct myself in them. I'm not interested in biting off more than I can chew, nor in 'having' as many women as I could 'trick' into my bed. Those are games for shallow, insecure people. There is nothing I want except the opportunity to connect with people in some meaningful way that leaves us both better off for the shared time. So perhaps something else will happen, but I'm not looking for (or expecting) any more than a couple of good (intimate) friendships with open-minded women (or couples) who enjoy face to face interaction. I enjoy the unabridged, unexpurgated, masks dropped & defenses down communication which happens with compatible companions and intimate friends. I'm interested in friends who are far enough along in their journeys that they can walk their own path, and realize what is important to them and why.

You and I are on the same wavelength IF you are wise and absorb your wisdom from your experiences, no matter good or bad; You're happy and understand where your happiness comes from; and you likes yourself even when you wished you had had done something differently.

Perhaps that rubs you the wrong way, but it IS the most honest thing I could say: Some peoples' key's fit your locks, and that's all.

I think it is important to understand that when you are involved with ANYONE, knowing them will change you a bit. If you are afraid of that or resist it, it will not be as much fun as it will if you can be open to it. So being open to new things and ways of being is very important for all of us: If we only sought out what we already knew we would miss much.

When I end up in serious relationships, they've started as good friendships. If we're meant to meet -- we will. I have faith and I don't believe there is any way we can screw that up, but let's not put the cart before the horse. I think people force life sometimes. I'm interested in following the energies where they lead, not where they don't.

I'm a creative introvert. I am passionately opinionated, and love a good discussion. I enjoy photography, all types. I have been taking pictures since I was 9 years old. I prefer photographing people in artistic settings. The human figure is is wonderfully calming.

I also make music, sound effects, and narrations for commercials and videos. Sometimes the most fun I have is making spoof commercials ;-)

I meditate, sometimes while I am doing housework, sometimes just sitting. I'm Taoist and Zen Buddhist. I also practice energy work and Tantra. I'm mindful. I see the connections, the bigger picture, the small details. I notice. At the same time, I can forget all and see it new, like never before. I'm a TCK, and it's shaped who I am and how I act. I went to graduate school for psychology. I love coffee. I care about world affairs. I read. I write sometimes, even music. I am a veteran: Go Navy Beat Army.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a single parent, raising a child, and guiding a young adult who's starting college; the two of them are the primary focus of my life. I think this is the most important work I am doing. Family is very important to me, and entire weekends can be taken up with multi-state road trips visiting them.

This means that if you have kids the same ages as mine, and you live in my area, that I am interested in meeting you for kid playdates, too.

My children, my birth family, and my other life responsibilities like my job(s) are all factors in terms of the amount of free time I have available for other things, like meeting you for dinner.

I'm employed full-time in the creative and science/engineering fields.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Different things with different people. I'm just Really Good™
The first things people usually notice about me
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The Voice or the Eyes
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read interesting things on a variety of topics. I research things too. For pleasure lately I read Chogyam Trungpa Rinpoche; and Pema Chodron.

Lots of movies.

I almost never watch broadcast television -- trust me it's a relief and I am much happier since I stopped.

I have really broad musical tastes.

Riviera Radio from Monaco is a great place to leave your computer tuned in.

I'm love to cook and I am pretty good at it. I am a meat-eater who enjoys Vegetarian food, and American food, Italian food, Chinese food, Thai food, Afghani food, Greek food, Indian food, Middle Eastern food, and more. I'm diabetic so I experiment with foods that are diabetic-friendly.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I could never be limited to Six things

My Babies
Thinking Women
Qualcuno che parla l'Italiano
Alternate Viewpoints
A Pen and Notebook
A Camera
A Coffee with a shot of Espresso
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How, to some people you are opaque; To others you are transparent. It isn't something you do so much as something you are, in particular combinations with others.

With grateful thanks for Admiral Grace Murray Hopper: How '...the most dangerous phrase in the language is, "We've always done it this way."'
You should message me if
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PLEASE DO NOT MESSAGE ME IF YOU'RE GOING TO SAY "Ur lifestyle is against my beliefs," or anything similar to that. You need kinder beliefs. The ones you hold currently kinda suck.

...You need a real friend who has a low bullshit threshold.

...You're looking for an open-minded friend and enjoy discussions on a range of topics.

...You are interested in group meditation on the beach

I'm also looking for friends who might be willing to/could become more. If you need an exclusive relationship I AM NOT YOUR GUY.

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