"...I think that I am a reflection, like the moon on water. When you see me, and I try to be a good man, you see yourself..."
Wed Aug 19 16:11:50 EDT 2015
I am unboxable. Save yourself the exasperation and don't try.
I'm looking for Friends
I'm in relationships with several women. I live with a partner (I met her on OKC) and she knows my comings and goings, and she's not going anywhere, so I'm probably going to be disappointing if you are seeking a primary relationship. I am open to casually dating. The good news is that I am not looking to trick you into jumping into bed either. I'm not a player looking for a hookup. Just the facts.
I like to flirt. I have been a relationship anarchist (RA -- https://thethinkingasexual.wordpress.com/2013/05/07/relationship-anarchy-basics/ ) in open relationships/polyamorous relationships my whole life. For over 10 years I moderated an on-line poly support and education group in Hampton Roads.
I'm responsible about the relationships I start and how I conduct myself in them. I'm not interested in biting off more than I can chew, nor in 'having' as many women as I could 'trick' into my bed. Those are games for shallow, insecure people. There is nothing I want except the opportunity to connect with people in some meaningful way that leaves us both better off for the shared time. So perhaps something else will happen, but I'm not looking for (or expecting) any more than a couple of good (intimate) friendships with open-minded women (or couples) who enjoy face to face interaction. I enjoy the unabridged, unexpurgated, masks dropped & defenses down communication which happens with compatible companions and intimate friends. I'm interested in friends who are far enough along in their journeys that they can walk their own path, and realize what is important to them and why.
You and I are on the same wavelength IF you are wise and absorb your wisdom from your experiences, no matter good or bad; You're happy and understand where your happiness comes from; and you likes yourself even when you wished you had had done something differently.
Perhaps that rubs you the wrong way, but it IS the most honest thing I could say: Some peoples' key's fit your locks, and that's all.
I think it is important to understand that when you are involved with ANYONE, knowing them will change you a bit. If you are afraid of that or resist it, it will not be as much fun as it will if you can be open to it. So being open to new things and ways of being is very important for all of us: If we only sought out what we already knew we would miss much.
When I end up in serious relationships, they've started as good friendships. If we're meant to meet -- we will. I have faith and I don't believe there is any way we can screw that up, but let's not put the cart before the horse. I think people force life sometimes. I'm interested in following the energies where they lead, not where they don't.
I'm a creative introvert. I am passionately opinionated, and love a good discussion. I enjoy photography, all types. I have been taking pictures since I was 9 years old. I prefer photographing people in artistic settings. The human figure is is wonderfully calming.
I also make music, sound effects, and narrations for commercials and videos. Sometimes the most fun I have is making spoof commercials ;-)
I meditate, sometimes while I am doing housework, sometimes just sitting. I'm Taoist and Zen Buddhist. I also practice energy work and Tantra. I'm mindful. I see the connections, the bigger picture, the small details. I notice. At the same time, I can forget all and see it new, like never before. I'm a TCK, and it's shaped who I am and how I act. I went to graduate school for psychology. I love coffee. I care about world affairs. I read. I write sometimes, even music. I am a veteran: Go Navy Beat Army.