Thu Feb 13 12:15:35 EST 2014
"...I think that I am a reflection, like the moon on water. When you see me, and I try to be a good man, you see yourself..."
I'm looking for Friends (and maybe, just maybe, more)...
But first, the hard part (for most of you, not for me):
I am not monogamous.... If you require monogamy I am not for you. The bottom line is that I'm not interested in being possessed or in possessing anyone else.
The good news is that I am not looking to jump into bed with you either. Just the facts.
Perhaps that rubs you the wrong way, but it IS the most honest thing I could say: Some peoples' key's fit your locks, and that's all. I'm in several open relationships with women partners who are also non-monogamous and date others. I also casually date.
I think it is important to understand that when you are involved with ANYONE, knowing them will change you a bit. If you are afraid of that or resist it, it will not be as much fun as it will if you can be open to it. So being open to new things and ways of being is very important for all of us: If we only sought out what we already knew we would miss much.
I identify as non-monogamous rather than polyamorous, and I have practiced this all my adult life. It isn't about sex either. Don’t get me wrong, sex is great. I miss cuddling and shared time more than sex though (cannot cuddle myself without injury); and I miss the unabridged, unexpurgated, masks dropped & defenses down communication which happens with a compatible companion.
I'm interested in a partner who is far enough along in her journey that she can walk her own path, and realizes what is important to her and why. She is wise and absorbs her wisdom from her experiences, no matter good or bad; she is happy and understands where her happiness comes from; and she likes herself even when she wishes she had done something differently.
She's my girl-mirror.
I don't have many male friends, and after years of wondering why I have finally figured out that most men are really bad at getting out of their comfort zones. They never escape the box they are in so they never learn how to fall flat on their faces in a bigger box. But the only way to grow is to do this. I crave other people who live this way, and women are good at it. Men, not so much.
I end up in serious relationships (it happens from time to time) that started as good friendships. So whatever comes, whether a great friendship, a relationship, someone to make out on the beach with, snuggle buddies, artistic collaborations, ANYTHING that "happens", we'll enjoy it very much. If we're meant to meet -- we will. I have faith and I don't believe there is any way we can screw that up, but let's not put the cart before the horse. I think people force life sometimes. I'm interested in following the energies where they lead, not where they don't.
I'm from a big family and I'm the oldest. If we become friends, you may come to be family. If you are uncomfortable with that, I'm probably not for you.
I'm mostly an introvert. Witty banter usually happens more in person than via email or texts with me. I'm not into sports (except maybe soccer) and I don't go to church. Liberal. I'm into art, and music, and movement, and touch, and healing. I meditate, sometimes while I am doing housework, sometimes just sitting. I'm Taoist and Zen Buddhist, and energy work and Tantra pervade my life. I see the connections, the bigger picture, the small details. I notice. At the same time, I can forget all and see it new, like never before. I become the awe.... There is no single identity that defines me, because I am The Flux, the state of change, the evolution toward something greater than myself. And I will try to bring as many people along with me as I can.... I grew up in Europe: I'm a TCK, and it's shaped who I am and how I act. I was born in NYC and I return often; I went to graduate school for psychology. I love coffee. I care about world affairs. I read. I write sometimes, even music. I am a veteran: Go Navy Beat Army.