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30 Chatsworth, CA Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Apr 8
5′ 6″ (1.68m)
Body type
Buddhism, and laughing about it
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Other (Okay), Spanish (Poorly), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I like contrasts.

I am deviant, but good-hearted.

Moved here from Sri Lanka when I was 7. Never quite settled in.

INFP. Friends say this describes me pretty well:

These things are important to me: gender and racial equality; figuring out how to bring compassion, understanding and perspective to more people; exposing systemic abuse; unraveling the need for and adverse effects of social stratification in all its forms.
What I’m doing with my life
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Learning, experiencing, waiting.

I work an office job as a Tech Writer, but don't plan on doing that forever.

Occasionally, I'll do a creative project w/ friends:

Kindness, open-heartedness and honesty are important to me. I believe in social consciousness, awareness and active inquisitiveness about oppression in all its forms. Figuring out the means to overcome it, or at least lessen its impact in the sphere of one's influence, is a life-long goal for me. The world can be overwhelming, but I know there are like-minded people out there.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I can write well but sometimes it's excruciating.

I'm good at understanding, analyzing and relating to various different things, and the skills that derive from that.

Making people laugh. My humor style tends toward the self-deprecating and outlandish.

Procrastination. I once turned in a final paper 6 years late (and got an A).

Telling stories.

I'm NOT good at: taking care of the day-to-day things.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Lean, proportionate build. Dusky skin. Sleepy eyes. Oh my.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Books: George R. R. Martin for A Song of Ice and Fire. Kentarou Miura for the manga Berserk. Robert Heinlein for A Stranger in a Strange Land. Haruki Murakami for The Wind-Up Bird Chronicle (for which I wrote the six-year-late paper). James Clavell for Shogun.

Currently reading (very slowly) the Wheel of Time series.

Poems: Rumi. Pablo Neruda. Charles Bukowski. James Elroy Flecker.

Movies: Léon. Lost in Translation. Crouching Tiger Hidden Dragon. Amélie. I ♥ Huckabees. Fight Club. The Last Samurai. Kurosawa. Tarantino. Miyazaki. Others, can't remember now.

Shows: Avatar: The Last Airbender, Firefly, Lost, Community, Archer, The Big Bang Theory, Shameless, The Walking Dead, The Office, Parks & Rec, Downton Abbey, BSG, House of Cards.

Music: I like a bit of everything, but mainly into industrial or epic/inspiring music like Two Steps From Hell:

Food: Anything spicy. Anything extravagant. Street food. I enjoy a variety. Thai, Japanese, Sichuan, Indian, Tex-Mex, Sri Lankan.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Society - the challenges we face
Interaction - between individuals, between groups
Deviance - to titillate, explore and expose
Awareness - and the nature of
Technology - what is and what could be

Sometimes I'm like this.

Sometimes I'm like this.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Relaxing at home usually. Occasionally out.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Not private, but I'm into kink. Ask if you're curious.
You should message me if
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You'd like to connect. If you're a kind and compassionate person.

I'm always up for chatting and sharing stories with like-minded people. Anything and everything, as long as you're open-minded and eager to both learn and teach.

“If the muse comes to your bedside, don’t tell her you’ll fuck her later.” -Allen Ginsberg