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58 F New York, NY

I’m looking for

  • Straight guys only
  • Ages 40–65
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 9:38am
5′ 5″ (1.65m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Has a kid
Likes dogs and likes cats
English, French (Okay), German (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), Italian (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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Vibrant, smart, and a city buff. Am a professor at a large university, active in groups involved with New York City streets, parks, and public art and buildings. My fantastic son is starting his career as a violist and strings teacher. I'm a lucky gal. In shape, too, very much so. I've got verve: do you?

I seek steady, electrical companionship of some sort, and regular contact and conversation with the right person. That doesn't mean joined at the hip, but something grounded in mutual trust, respect, and erotic charge.
What I’m doing with my life
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Revising a book manuscript, reading, running, walking, pondering, civic cultural advocating, and occasionally statue-climbing.

These days I'm also pulling lots of weeds and tending to my batch of back yard garden kale and tomato plants. Mosquitos love me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Keeping up my end of the conversation; public speaking; speaking my mind--but in a nice way! Staying fit; kissing; keeping the bathroom clean.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Seems to be the hair.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Art: *All* of it. Intrigued even when it's not to my taste. But if you asked for my favorite, I'd have to say Poussin, okay?

Books: Prefer biographies and humanities-oriented scholarly non-fiction. On my desk: a history of the National Gallery of Art, a book on architecture, the interior environment, and urban crisis. (That was a while ago, but I haven't gotten to them yet.) Now listening to Ovid's Metamorphosis via Librivox; also listening to "Bad Monkey"--amusing, but it will get bumped for "The Most Dangerous Book in the World," once the latter becomes available at my e-library.

Movies--Highbrow old stuff. I wanted to see "The Great Beauty, but missed it. Saw "The Lunchbox" on an airplane recently, and found it quite interesting: a kind of OKC story Mumbai style.

Music: Stravinsky, Prokofiev, Shostakovich, David Lang, Steve Reich, Dvorak, Barber, Britten, Elgar, and other usual suspects. Presently on a Ralph Vaughn Williams jag. I like Nico Muhly and Carter, too. And Springsteen's *Human Touch* and "Midnight Moonlight."

-New York City Ballet (Balanchine/Robbins only, pretty much. No Peter Martins!!!)
-American Ballet Theater

Hooked on podcasts (from to MacBreak Weekly, Leonard Lopate, and my hero, Dan Savage). I listen to them while running uphill in Prospect Park.

TV: only what I can watch with an antenna. Am not chomping at the bit to watch anything without Jon Hamm in it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Love and affection.
My son.
New York City.
Reading matter.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- Cities and what makes them look the way that they do.

- Sex and relationships among the single, the married, and the separated, in middle age (maybe in the Middle Ages, too). How profiles and images relate to all of these negotiations.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
At MoMA or the Met.

Walking up Court and down Smith to stand in line at Trader Joe's.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I'm 61. So sue me.
You should message me if
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you're interested in a woman who is lithe, spirited, articulate, enthusiastic, and intermittently droll. You're pretty damn smart and slightly laid back in demeanor. You appreciate irony and have a bit of an edge. Though not necessarily.