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mstoppie

25 M New Brunswick, NJ

My Details

Last Online
Today – 8:12am
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Sign
Aquarius, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Other
Income
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids
Pets
Likes dogs
Speaks
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
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I’m a Rutgers grad, and majored in Psychology and English while there. I’m not doing much with the English side, but I love working in the psych field, and will eventually be applying to different Psy.D programs. I've still got a lot of work to do for that, but I’m really excited about beginning that stage of my life; it’s the only path where I don’t feel any doubts about what I’m doing. I’m still making preparations for that though, so I’m just trying to enjoy what I’m doing and grow as a person in the meantime.

Work takes up a lot of my time, and I really like my job, but apparently there’s a whole other section where I’m supposed talk about that, so I’ll get to it later. Other than that, I do a lot of exercise stuff (not in gyms when I can avoid it). I love exploring new places whenever I can. I definitely gravitate more towards nature stuff I guess, but I’m open to other things too. I really just like a peaceful atmosphere and meeting with good people.

I like talking to people, but I’m pretty quiet a lot of the time too. I can be comfortable with either, and like to be around others who feel the same. I really like listening to other people’s stories, and being heard in return. I admire anyone who can be open and self-aware. I try my best to do that too, though it is a work in progress (I guess that is kind of true for everyone though).

I'm in a bit of a transitional period now, as I am looking at grad schools, and hoping to move into one a little more than a year from now. I don't want that to stop me from connecting or getting close with anyone though. I’m really open as to what that could mean, whether it be dating, friendship, or just conversation. I wouldn't turn down something long term if it felt right, but I do want to be up front that I don't know where I'll be in the semi-near future, so that would be a pretty big factor.
What I’m doing with my life
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Like I mentioned before, my long-term plans include completing a Psy.D program, and becoming a therapist. I’m definitely interested in hearing from anyone who is into that kind of stuff too. For now though, I work as a mental health specialist at school for children with severe behavioral problems and mental illnesses. I've seen really beautiful things happen there and really terrible things, and I’m glad I can be there either way. I feel very lucky to been in a job that has helped me grow so much as future clinician and a human being.

I also work part-time in an inpatient unit at the same hospital. Not as much to say about that, but I learn from it.

Though it’s more of a volunteer thing than a job thing, I also do a lot of work on a couple different counseling and crisis hotlines. That’s been a huge part of my life for years now, and has really influenced who I am and my direction in life.

I think that even the worst job or experience is worth it if you get good stories out of it, and I’m lucky that my work has given me a ton of funny and/or utterly bizarre stories that may or may not end with someone throwing their bodily fluids at me. I really like hearing other people’s too, and would love to trade some.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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-I don’t get to read nearly as much as I used to, but my favorite is Bringing Out the Dead by Joe Connolly. The rest is mostly psych stuff. I’ve also really gained an appreciation of graphic novels lately.

-I am pretty selective about what I invest my time in movie wise. I tend towards anything with a great story, but style means a lot too. I’ll resist making a long list, but some that I come back to are Taxi Driver, Fight Club, The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari, Pulp Fiction, Oldboy, American Beauty, and the most recent Batman films.

I’m really into horror movies too. Personal preference is the more subtle, atmospheric ones over a lot of violence. I'm actually really into studying and learning about the genre and its history, but I never have anyone to talk about it with. I'd love to change that though!

-I go through a lot of phases with music, but I always come back to The Beatles, The Replacements, Husker Du, Elliot Smith, Danzig-era Misfits, The Pixies, Zeppelin, I really enjoy classical and piano music too, though I don’t know much about it.

-Don't watch too much TV, but can get into certain shows. Breaking Bad, The Shield, The Wire, Deadwood, Community, and the Twilight Zone.

I'm always willing to get and give recommendations for any of these things!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm really working on concentrating on just being in the present, and being a person that I would like to be. It's pretty much a full time job in itself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I find that I often feel a lot more comfortable in intense, serious situations than I do in more relaxed ones. It's a useful quality a lot of the time, but isn't something I feel satisfied with. I'm still getting in touch with why this is, but I'm working on changing it.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 20–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You want to know more about me or want me to know about you.

Just as a note, I tend not to reply to one worded messages. Not because I think I’m entitled to something profound, but just because I don’t usually know how to respond to them.

Like I mentioned 20 times throughout this thing, it takes me forever to reply to things, and I'm really forgetful. That's more about me being scatterbrained then anything about you. I feel bad about it though, and I’m trying to get better at it.