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I’m a Rutgers grad, and majored in Psychology and English while
there. I’m not doing much with the English side, but I love working
in the psych field, and am currently interviewing for different
Psy.D programs. I’m really excited about beginning that stage of my
life; it’s the only path that has really ever made any real sense
to me. In the meantime though, I’m just trying to enjoy what I’m
doing and take advantage of any chances to grow as a person.
Work takes up a lot of my time, and I really like my job, but
apparently there’s a whole other section where I’m supposed talk
about that, so I’ll get to it later. Other than that, I do a lot of
exercise stuff (not in gyms when I can avoid it), along with cardio
based yoga. I would really like to begin practicing martial arts,
and would be interested in hearing about others’ experience with
them. I love exploring new places whenever I can. I definitely
gravitate more towards nature stuff I guess, but I’m open to other
things too. I really just like a peaceful atmosphere and meeting
with good people.
I like talking to people, but I’m pretty quiet a lot of the time
too. I can be comfortable with either, and like to be around others
who feel the same. I really like listening to other people’s
stories, and being heard in return. I admire anyone who can be open
and self-aware. I try my best to do that too, though it is a work
in progress (I guess that is kind of true for everyone
I haven’t used this site in a really long while, mostly due to this
past year being one of the busiest of my life, but also because I
needed to take a bit of an extended break from dating to gain some
perspective on things. I’m finally going to jump back in now, and
explore that social side of myself that I’ve been neglecting. I’m
open as to what that could mean, whether it be a date, friendship,
a nice conversation, or whatever. I really just want to have new
experiences and connect with positive people.
I do want to be upfront and say that there is a good chance I will
be moving away to grad school within the next year. I don't want
that to stop me from meeting and connecting with people, but I
realize that its a pretty major factor if you're someone who is
looking for a long term relationship or something.
What I’m doing with my life
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Like I mentioned before, my long-term plans include completing a
Psy.D program, and becoming a therapist (specifically, working with
children/adolescents and their families). I’m definitely interested
in hearing from anyone who is into that kind of stuff too. For now
though, I work as a mental health specialist at school for children
with severe behavioral problems and mental illnesses. I've seen
really beautiful things happen there and really terrible things,
and I’m glad I can be there either way. I feel very lucky to been
in a job that has helped me grow so much as future clinician and a
I also work part-time in an inpatient unit at the same hospital.
Not as much to say about that, but I learn from it.
Though it’s more of a volunteer thing than a job thing, I also do a
lot of work on a couple different counseling and crisis hotlines.
That’s been a huge part of my life for years now, and has really
influenced who I am and my direction in life.
I think that even the worst job or experience is worth it if you
get good stories out of it, and I’m lucky that my work has given me
a ton of funny and/or utterly bizarre stories that may or may not
end with someone throwing their bodily fluids at me. I really like
hearing other people’s too, and would love to trade some.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I don’t get to read nearly as much as I used to, but my favorite is
Bringing Out the Dead by Joe Connolly. The rest is mostly psych
stuff. I’ve also really gained an appreciation of graphic novels
lately, and would love to have someone to talk to about it.
-I am pretty selective about what I invest my time in movie wise. I
tend towards anything with a great story, but style means a lot
too. I’ll resist making a long list, but some examples of more well
known films I frequently come back to are Taxi Driver, Fight Club,
The Cabinet of Dr. Caligari, Oldboy, and the most recent Batman
I’m really into horror movies too. Personal preference is the more
subtle, atmospheric ones over a lot of violence. I'm actually
really into studying and learning about the genre and its history,
but I never have anyone to talk about it with. I'd love to change
-I go through a lot of phases with music, but I always come back to
Husker Du, The Replacements, The Beatles, Jawbreaker, Elliot Smith,
The Knockouts, and some others. I really enjoy classical and piano
music too, though I don’t know much about it.
-Don't watch too much TV, but can get into certain shows. Breaking
Bad, The Shield, The Wire, Misfits, Community, and the Twilight
Zone. I also enjoy professional wrestling, but only when its done
well. I can throw down a coherent justification for its
classification of an art form if you make me.
I'm always willing to get and give recommendations for any of these
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I'm really working on concentrating on just being in the present,
and being a person that I would like to be. It's pretty much a full
time job in itself.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I find that I often feel a lot more comfortable in intense, serious
situations than I do in more relaxed ones. It's a useful quality a
lot of the time, but isn't something I feel satisfied with. I'm
still getting in touch with why this is, but I'm working on
You should message me if
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Just as a note, I tend not to reply to one worded messages. Not
because I think I’m entitled to something profound, but just
because I don’t usually know how to respond to them.
Like I mentioned 20 times throughout this thing, it takes me
forever to reply to things, and I'm really forgetful. That's more
about me being scatterbrained then anything about you. I feel bad
about it though, and will try to go back and answer some of the
*Also, because it apparently annoys some people, my phone keeps me
logged into this site, which is why I appear to be “online” all the
time. Chances are I’m not actually looking it, and didn’t see your
message right away.
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