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62 San Rafael, CA Woman


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I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 55–70
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 10:19pm
5′ 3″ (1.60m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Judaism, but not too serious about it
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Has kids, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently), Latin (Okay), French (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Just the other day while sipping my latte in a local cafe, I overheard a man say “I'd like to find a heart, mind, soul connection with a good balance of time alone and together." Sounds terrific to me. How about you?

So here I am looking for a partner in love—and to love—a man who wants to play and explore with me, travel to places here and there, introduce me to his friends and kids (if he has any), be foolish and smart, and sometimes just hang out with me.

I’m curious about most everything—people’s stories, politics, the news of the day—youthful, sensual, colorful, offbeat, somewhat brave n' bold, an evolved soul, so I've been told. Anyway . . . I try to be emotionally present and to tune in to nuances in nature, language, the rhythms of the body, the heart.

After spending 25+ years in corporate America, I now work as a self-employed editor/writer for various public policy organizations, focusing on issues related to postsecondary education and the U.S. workforce, or what’s left of it.;) No “job” has been as joyful, and challenging, though, as raising my three sons (now adults), mostly solo.

Among other pleasures, I enjoy film, reading/writing fiction (published poet), exploring the Bay Area’s peaks and valleys, political satire, CAL Performances, Berkeley Rep. I love New York always—not just in June—jazz, Broadway shows, a Gershwin tune. I’m drawn to the north coast when the rain is hard, the ocean, wild, crossing the International Date Line (not to be confused with international dating), discovering distant lands, cultures, treasures.

Strike a familiar chord? If so, I'd like to hear from you. . . .
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
This question calls to mind the song lyrics that go something like this: "What are you doing the rest of your life? North and South and East and West of your life . . ." I especially like the Chris Botti version--sultry, dreamy.

International travel is a priority for me, especially to far-flung, exotic spots, sometimes whose names I can't pronounce. In the past few years, I've traveled to Peru/Machu Picchu, Costa Rica, Thailand, China, and northern India. I just returned from a trip to Prague and Budapest, stopping at the quaint villages, medieval castles, and Roman ruins along the way. My travel wish list is long: from Australia to Zimbabwe. Want to join me?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Writing (nonfiction and fiction), creative problem solving, listening, observing, offering support when asked, loving, intuiting, incurable romanticizing, procrastinating, going deep rather than "small talking." I'm an INFJ on the Myers-Briggs personality scale if that means anything to you.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My light shines bright.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Too many to list here. I rarely watch tv, except some shows on hbo and msnbc. I mostly read poetry (and write it, too), short stories, and literary fiction. I read and write nonfiction daily in my work.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
New question:
"The six things I would rather not do without" (not necessarily in priority order):

My family of creation vs. family of origin
Worldwide peace ("Imagine"!)
A roof over my head or a sturdy tent
the ACA
Happiness, rather than the pursuit thereof

And some "creature comforts" (not necessarily in priority order) such as:
Poetry, literary fiction, Netflix, and theaters that show artsy/indie flicks
Erotic haiku
Feminist ideology flashcards :)
Access to the Internet and social media (Facebook, Twitter--to spread the good word around the world)
Paper, pens, pencils, & post-its
Music (from A capella to Zydeco) and the lovely sound of silence
Schollenberger Park in Petaluma, where the shorebirds hang out, and my frequent walks there
The ability and wherewithal to travel to remote and exotic lands

Just noticed I'm supposed to list six things here. Well, I guess that says something about my ability to follow instructions. :)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Lately I've been preoccupied with the "meaning of life," and here's my conclusion:
The meaning of life is life. I think I am; therefore I think I am.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
As Lady Gaga once said, among other things, "I'm obsessively opposed to the typical."
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm willing to admit that I haven't revealed anything "private" on my profile, except this:
If I had met you sooner, I could have loved you longer....
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
. . . you have a love of language, lively mind, offbeat sense of humor, willingness to cross bridges (figuratively, too), and desire to follow your own soul’s compass, and no one else’s. You tend to be introspective, with lots of “there” there. You love to travel, to learn about other cultures, to get to know people whose lives, attitudes, looks are unlike yours. You are still awed by the many sounds, shades, and colors of it all . . . and want to share those pleasures with another. And, like me, you are kind. You are emotionally generous.

If you'd rather read Raymond Carver's okcupid profile, here's the version edited by Gordon Lish: