Let's start with kids. I have two of them and they live with me full-time. There was a time where I foolishly believed this would be an admirable thing, but as I have found out more women than not seem to not like that I am an involved dad. I, in my simple thought process, figured being a good dad would be something a woman with kids would want. Hell, it should be something a woman with no kids who wants them should want too. Knowing you are going to be left to raise kids on your own should be somewhat of a comfort. I'm sure there are a couple of you thinking, "What's this idiot talking about?" What I have found is there is this "Me" thing and many women feel a man with kids won't have time for them. I will go out on a limb and say that if a man has used his kids as a reason not to spend time with you, then he only wanted sex from you and not a relationship. Some of you might want to argue that, but think about this. If you ladies can be full-time moms and manage a life, then why can't dads. You make the kids part of a relationship. I know the norm is to keep them out of it, but if you do that you may be already dictating the outcome. I can't understand why anyone would date someone they didn't trust around their kids in the first place. I wouldn't! I will say this. If you have kids and we hit it off, I will treat them as good as mine. If you don't have kids and we hit it off. I'm gonna live forever so having more is well within my ability.
Since many search for men like buying cars with the list of options you want, I would say I am like an old Volvo. Not the most attractive thing on the market, but you'll be safe as all hell with me. If you rely on pics to find the love of your life, you're not likely to pick me. However, spend a day around me and none of that will matter. I used to like giving this example. I love playing softball, and when people see me walk onto the field, they don't think much. But let the game start and by the end of it I will have everyone's respect. I'm like that in every aspect of my life too, and I can't think of any part of my life that isn't in place. I am subtle in my ways, but I am definitely a dominant force when it's time to take care of business. BTW, I crushed four homeruns last week...I know, shameless bragging!
People judge, there's no getting by that. I have heard every excuse there is as to why I'm not a match for someone. That's okay though because I don't have the time to waste on anyone who isn't serious about having something better than they have ever experienced before. Most guys seem to live life with their heads securely lodged between their butt cheeks, but I'll be damned if they are the ones getting the chances out there. And screwing up no less just as they have done in the past. I consider those guys the BMW's of the world. They may look nice but there's a reason why they get free maintenance if you catch my drift. I may not meet the list of accessories some of you put on your profile, but I don't cheat, I don't pick getting drunk with the boys over spending time with my girl, Mom doesn't control my relationships, I don't need porn to make me want intimacy, and it's not likely I would ever choose gluing my ass to the couch instead of doing something with you.
This is me, not flashy but reliable. No drug, alcohol, abuse, physical, medical, mental, or employment issues whatsoever. I drive a hybrid, use coupons and plan ahead. I'm a full-time dad with two teenagers. BTW, I don't use my kids as a reason to get out of things. I've had a successful career, but I'm not married to my job. I'm not one of those guys that think I'm a great catch because I look good or drive a cool car. I do a lot of things people don't agree with like buying gas for a stranger who is stranded or missing a concert to work for a co-workers who has nothing to good to say about me so they can, take a day off for his kids birthday. When my marriage ended nearly seven years ago, I had this idea that my old fashioned ways and unbreakable integrity would lead me to something great. I haven't needed to find myself or reinvent myself. I don't think relationships should be work because if you do things right, then love happens naturally and you appreciate rather than tolerate. I've been at this long enough to know who can capture my affections. It's not always the prettiest lady or the one with the best body. Sometimes it's just the one who says the right thing. I don't write everyone I find attractive, just the ones whose lives I think I can enhance.