What's left after all these silly checklists we make for which we
rule out potential suitors because they only met 19 of 20 criteria?
Do we really get a bigger kick out of rejecting people and bragging
about it than finding someone we simply enjoy being with?
Exercising power for the sake of exercising power doesn't bring
happiness in the end.
I'm creative, fun-loving, thoughtful, open-minded, romantic,
humorous, passionate when appropriate, calm when necessary. I find
wit and intelligence just as sexy as, well, those qualities that
land a woman on the cover of Maxim or Playboy. Keep your dogma away
from my karma, and we'll get along fine.
What I’m doing with my life
Journalism (I have a challenging job where I feel I can make a
difference). I am also a writer and performer in an annual show
satirizing Rhode Island events and politics I'd love to tell you
more about if you're game. I am also pet daddy to a fluffy white
cat and a Maltese/Shi-Tzu mix who ensure I am never alone in the
I prefer thinking about the possible.
I’m really good at
Writing, editing, volleyball, satire, bar trivia games, reading,
dancing (hey, give me time), putting together iPod and YouTube
playlists, relaxation when I can, working hard when I should, being
a team player, making people feel at ease. It would be exaggerating
considerably to say I'm good at it, but I do some karaoke, too.
The first things people usually notice about me
Smile, eyes, informal manner, politeness (that's how I was brought
up, and it stuck).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: "Ball Four," "102 Minutes," "The World According to Garp".
Also: "Rat Girl," Kristin Hersh (essential if you came of age in
the '80s Providence/Boston local music scene), and am currently
reading David Byrne's "How Music Works."
Movies: "Casablanca," "Pulp Fiction," "Blazing Saddles," "Animal
House," the Godfather films, "Bull Durham" (and as a baseball fan
and history buff, I invariably get caught up in "Eight Men Out"
while surfing cable).
Music: Velvet Underground, Pixies, Catherine Wheel, Patti Smith,
Love Spirals Downwards (and because I needed to stop whining about
alt rock had gone to hell in a handbasket since Kurt Cobain died,
Arcade Fire, Florence + the Machine, and Alabama Shakes).
Food: Chicken. Pizza. BBQ chicken pizza. Ribs. Ice cream
(especially fudge sundaes, and Schwetty Balls lived up to the
hype). And I am a whore for chocolate. I lurve Foster's Lager,
Samuel Adams Summer Ale and Narragansett. I will drink wine on
occasion, although I learned everything I know about wine from
seeing "Sideways" (Merlot does not send me into violent rage).
The six things I could never do without
My deck in summer, from which I can see out to Massachusetts and
watch fireworks on the Fourth, and my hammock.
Functional knees (gained a greater appreciation for them after
tearing an ACL 11 years ago).
A large, comfortable bed (it enables me to sleep well on nights I
otherwise have little reason to).
A long. lingering kiss and/or slow dance to put an exclamation
point on a successful date.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics, the future, my pets' needs, things I find beautiful,
people I want to know and understand better. I've discovered
through online dating that I have enough "game" to have met some
wonderful, intelligent, spirited women, even if we proved not quite
a romantic match for each other. But it's just a matter of time...
On a typical Friday night I am
Working often (but not always, and I might be up for some fun after
Watching TV (winter) on the couch with my pets gathered around me
or on my lap.
Out on my deck (summer) with my laptop writing, surfing music video
on YouTube, or some combination thereof.
At a local sports event.
At a party or small gathering with friends.
Driving home from a beach or park where I watched the sun set.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
And I occasionally overintellectualize things (I give you
permission to slap me if you catch me doing it).
You should message me if
...you have heart and warmth, and you'd like to meet someone smart,
funny and who enjoys a good time yet respects the laws of
self-preservation. And if you're also hoping to hop off the online
dating treadmill to a better place.