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60 M Hampton, NJ

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  • Ages 38–60
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  • Who are single
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Today – 5:35am
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Atheism, but not too serious about it
Taurus, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
English, French (Okay)

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My self-summary
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Musconetcong is the beautiful river that runs by my house. All of the other names I picked were taken!

Mini-Bio: I'm a native New Yorker, born and raised in Brooklyn, briefly interned in Rockaway (Queens) and then on to Stuyvesant High School in Manhattan. I was trained as a musician, with a BM (piano - U of New Mexico) and an MM (music history - U of Wisconsin), although I worked in the field of MIS (programmer/analyst, system analyst) until April, 2006. Since then,
I've become a certified music teacher. I teach for a public school district comprised of students with severe autism and cognitive, mulitple and behavioral disorders. I also teach after school group piano to 4th through 6th grade and private piano lessons.

Personality: If you asked those who know me best (and like me) they might describe me as: personable, warm, approachable, friendly, good-natured, audacious, witty, loyal, honest, forgiving, non-conforming, opinionated, idealistic, unrealistic, somewhat naive, vulnerable, ethical, empathetic, down-to-earth, creative and bright.
They might also say (or instead) "he's a piece of work"!

Values: I'm a passionate and progressive humanist with an old-fashioned (anachronistic?)upbringing. Raised without religion, I've never found any reason to look for it. Somehow, in the chaos that was my growing up, a tremendous amount of tolerance, decency, equality and justice filtered through to me and my siblings.

Hobbies: I'm an avid gardener. I just bought a house with a property that has been neglected for decades. It's beyond a challenge! Traveling on a budget, particularly to beautiful, off-the-beaten path, exotic destinations is a passion. It's really about reaching a place before the New York Times gets there! I love nature and the outdoors in general: hiking, camping, backpacking, cycling, swimming, kayaking, walking, looking and listening. I love my friends, who tease me, advise me and put up with me. Watching movies and eating are two of my favorite pastimes. Daydreaming is another. When I can concentrate, I love to read. I collect fine crafts from around the world, mostly concentrating on picking up pieces when I visit their origins.

You: Cute/handsome/sexy/hot/goofy/nerdy. Some combination of these or maybe even some trait that hasn't come to mind yet. Bright, with a great sense of humor (it can be unique), warm, loyal, honest, ethical, kind, very capable of intimacy (physical, emotional, intellectual), can make good/great conversation. I guess I'm looking for genuine goodness in a person, which is also special and unique. Please don't fit into any scene because I'll just be confused. Be yourself. Be authentic. (Yes, that's become a hackneyed term, but I MEAN it.) Bring your flaws to keep mine company.

Thanks for reading my profile, I know it's somewhat long!
What I’m doing with my life
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I recently went back to school to be certified to teach music in the public schools. I did this after more than two decades in the computer field as a programmer/systems/analyst.

I'm currently the music teacher for a county-wide school district
that serves special needs students - e.g. severely autistic,
severely cognitively impaired, multiple disabilities and behavioral
problems. The county has (or had, when the economy was better) one class for elementary, middle and high school for each of these categories. The classes are held throughout the county, so I'm a traveling teacher. The teachers, staff and kids are great!
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
wasting too much time on the internet!
The first things people usually notice about me
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My smile or that I look like some celebrity - usually one I don't know.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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In absolutely no order: 100 Years of Solitude (Garcia-Marquez), The Tin Drum (Gunther Grass), Lolita (Nabokov), The World According to Garp (John Irving), The Painted Bird (Jerzy Kosinski), The Trial and Metamorphosis (Kafka), The Brothers Karamazov (Dostoevski), Mildred Pierce and The Postman Always Rings Twice (Cain), The Plumed Serpent and Lady Chatterley's Lover (D.H. Lawrence), Rubyfruit Jungle (Rita Mae Brown). I'm going to stop before this gets too long!

Currently, it's Blue Velvet (David Lynch). Just saw Lord of the Flies for the first time since childhood. It's beautiful.

American Beauty (Sam Mendes), Fargo (Coen brothers), Mexican Bus Ride (Bunuel), A Touch of Evil (Orson Welles), Women on the Verge of a Nervous Breakdown (Almadovar - the wackiest film EVER), Pink Flamingos and Serial Mom (John Waters), Young Frankenstein (Mel Brooks), The Women (George Cukor), Black Orpheus (Marcel Camus), The Shining (Stanley Kubrick), The Color Purple (Spielberg). This can go on forever. I'm just free-associating at this point.

Once again, in absolutely no order: The chamber music of Beethoven, Schubert, Brahms, Debussy etc..., the piano concertos of Mozart and Brahms, etc..., the piano music of Bach, Haydn, Mozart, Beethoven, Schubert, Chopin, Schuman, Liszt, Brahms, Debussy, Ravel, Satie, Mompou, Bartok, Schoenberg etc..., virtually all Motown hits, Aretha, Tina, Janis Joplin, Wilson Pickett, Billie Holiday, Ella, Joni Mitchell, the Beatles, disco greats, hip-hop greats.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
free time
my 'garden' (now that I have one)
my piano
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
What I need to do (especially if I don't want to do it), the ugliness of disparity in our country and the world (I really DO think about this a lot), why are so many people so easily manipulated by stupid lies, supper...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
thoroughly burnt out!!! I just got a Roku, so I
can catch up on years of missed TV and movies.
Right now, it's Tracy Ullman's State of the Union.
Before that, it was the series Strangers with Candy
(Amy Sedaris and Steven Colbert).
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Sometimes I color my hair. Maybe I'll be more revealing tomorrow.
You should message me if
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You're interested in me or you THINK you're interested in me and you're willing to e-mail, talk and meet. Sorry, buy I'm SO TIRED
of endless e-mails with guys who don't sign off with their name, never offer a phone number or even privately send a clear picture of themselves... I am willing to put lots of thought
and time into this process, but I really don't want to waste time
in cyber-sex-space.