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38 Hamtramck, MI Man


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  • Ages 23–50
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Yesterday – 9:40pm
White, Other
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
A little extra
Mostly anything
Sagittarius, and it’s fun to think about
Dropped out of space camp
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), Spanish (Okay), C++ (Fluently), French (Poorly), LISP (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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I develop software for chronic healthcare management. Which is good. I like to write software and creating something that improves the quality of life of a large population segment is gratifying.

I work from home as the home office is in Utah (so if I've messaged you out there, that means I'm visiting). That means my whole sense of time is off by two hours or so.

I'm a sometimes musician, an avid reader. I really like green tea. Whiskey, classic cocktails, baseball and New Orleans(where I visit often also).
What I’m doing with my life
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Helping people take care of themselves with awesome software. Working from home, trying to find a new rhythm around that.
Occasionally sketching a few new tracks.

The last month's projects have included a new leather armor set, under padding for it, a new cape, and some embroidery. A motley for my four year old nephew to wear. Arduino and raspberry pi tweaking, reading too much (either too much or not enough, it's compulsive I swear).
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Music, listening, long conversations, cooking, interjecting random thoughts into otherwise focused directed conversations. Finding lateral relationships between things and making new and unnecessary analogies to explain just about anything you already understand.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Ready smile, loud voice, unique laugh (who am I kidding, it's a cackle, you'll know it when you hear it), stylish glasses? Did you see the profile pic? We all know it's tiny freckle on my left eyelid.

Well, maybe not the first thing, but if you know me a bit you'll notice that I try to shift it up regularly
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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A) Kerouac, Brave New World, Tom Robbins novels, Chuck Palahniuk, the plays of Anton Chekov, Hemmingway, Neil Gaiman, Orson Scott Card, Robert Heinlein, Ursula K LeGuin, Robert Jordan, Hemingway, Larry Wall, David Sedaris, George R.R. Martin, Gore Vidal, Al Franken. I have to admit that I love books on my iPod too, they're perfect for so many times. I mostly listen to books I've read, but not always (shame on me).

B) "Pi", "Shadow of the Vampire", "Casablanca", Akira Kurosawa, Kim Ki Duk, Kevin Smith, Ingmar Bergman, "Hero", Sergio Leone, Kirk Douglas, Mel Brooks, "Primer", "Princess Bride", Monty Python, "CQ", Jackie Chan, "Quills", Christopher Guest, Bogey, Johnny Depp, John Candy, "BadAss", "History Boys", "Army of Darkness", "Hero", "House of Flying Daggers"

TV - Well, I have cable these days. I can't say for sure the last time it wasn't tuned to the Tiger Games.

C) Carl Craig, Derrick May, Ectomorph, Miles Davis, Gustav Mahler, Beta Band, Wilco, Belle and Sebastian, John Tejada, Ectomorph, Jeff Mills, Rolling Stones, Velvet Underground, Joy Division, Roxy Music, UR, Rolling Stones, Lou Reed, Prince, KMFDM. I've been recently into early industrial and goth and synth pop stuff a lot too. This list never ends the folks on the list are nearly always in rotation, see me on any given week for more details. Really loving some great Detroit music like Revoir and Phantasmagoria lately.

D) Love to cook and love to eat, but my favorite things are probably pizza, Lebanese, and classic french in no particular order.

E) Comedians, Lewis Black, Sarah Silverman, Robin Williams, Bill Hicks, Dennis Leary (yes that's right for you comedy snobs, I like them both),

F) Artists and Art: Mark Rothko, Diego Rivera, "Guernica", Andy Warhol, Michael Basquiat, I absolutely hate and despise Kincaid. Other than that I realize that this isn't the most educated list, but hey we can't be experts at everything, I make an effort ;). Bolotowsky and Mondrian
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Let's take a metaphysical approach shall we? A sense of purpose (what do i intend to do today, tomorrow, forever) A sense of direction (for some, this is just a distraction) A sense of belonging (you're only a misfit if you choose the wrong friends) A sense of self (to thine own self be true) Stimulation of mind and more (music, literature, cinema, engaging conversations) Definition (something has to be real, even if it just your perception)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Things I've read. I read frequently. International news, US politics, tech news, white papers on tech, programming theory, literature, literary critique, music theory, music critique, ancient history, US history. Oh yeah, lots of comic books and bad pulp fiction. So I parse these things and find lateral associations.

Music I've heard or played. See music tastes above to get some idea there, but music seems to run in my head constantly anymore. Lately I've been working on learning to better play the tunes of Irish harpist Turlough O'Carolan and his contemporaries, as well as old traditional Irish dance songs on my wonderful Andelucia classical guitar, that I absolutely adore. Also, I've been working on a bit of a fusion (no, not Spyro Gyro and Weather Report) of a number of my musical influences into a live improv performance including electronic sequences. Sooner or later I'll have some samples up, writing and practice way over recording I'm afraid.

Things I'm writing. Well, that's a bit off track, more like things I'm thinking of writing, I do write sometimes, and I used to write a lot more, but I still have various ideas and right now I've got it in my head to work on one act plays for short films.

The state of the world. This ties back into the reading thing. Yes, I'm a liberal (it's not a dirty word) and probably even a socialist. I believe that America was generally founded on solid principles (slavery being a very big exception), but much like any other principles they have been manipulated since the very beginning by the weak to make them believe they are stronger. I believe that the idea of globalisation is inherently good, but that the current method is almost entirely wrong. Global warming has no easy solutions, but the right solutions could lead to a stronger global economy from which both G8 and developing countries could reap the benefits. I believe that while religion is not my solution it is not inherently evil. The initial reasons for religion were to create sense of community and establish social rules for interaction between tribes or cities. Somewhere this was lost to the same kind of people and thinking that has lead many countries and empires founded on noble principles and ideas to ultimately fail at fulfilling them over the long run. Obviously there's more, but that's a taste.

What I'm having for dinner. Seriously, I love to cook and I love good food, a high point of every day I cook is the simple creation that is taking raw ingredients and making something cohesive (and hopefully delicious ;).
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Typical Friday? i try to avoid that. I like to go out to shows, touring acts local acts. I love to go dancing; I prefer techno and house etc, Other nights I'll have my friends over, I'll make dinner, we'll drink, and well do what friends do, watch the ball game, movies, whatever. I mean, really, it's cliche. We all switch it up.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I read an incredible amount of really crappy fantasy and sci-fi, and can watch just about any TV show if it's sci-fi or fantasy themed. Also, the more intelligent and interesting you are, the more likely I am to get paralyzed somewhere in the first dozen or so emails about what to say next. Oddly, I don't do this in person, IM or phone. I wonder if there's a phobia of email?

Once I see someone as beautiful it's an image burned into me. Any terrible thing that happens after that feels like graffiti on a masterpiece.

Maybe this isn't private, but if you don't have a single picture of yourself alone I tend to judge you as someone who isn't just an extrovert, but someone who fears to be left with her own thoughts
You should message me if
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You like to try to be crafty or artsy. Want to play some guitar music or sequence some tunes on my over-sized collection of synthesizers. You want to ruin a good walk with clubs or discs. You like to have lunch. See above about working from home. Lunch out is a great improvement in my day. Or a visitor to enjoy a sandwich and a cup of lung ching. You want to talk about the Tigers (or watch them is awesome). You know something about the age of sail, the napoleonic wars or the 30 years wars. (those are my newest obsessions in history). I have only new friends marked. I'm not against dating, I just like to think that the distinction between having a date or making a new friend comes over getting to know each other and making that decision

Also I'm come to these conclusions over the massive fetishization that has developed among the most common spelling/grammar errors e.g. your, you're, two, too, to etc

"honestly, I understand the value of having these down in formal writing, and if you do have the benefit of education, but I've come to the conclusion that the fetish with these in particular is just the brittle edge of actual intellectual elitism and the fact is that having these down doesn't mean you understand the difference between affect and effect, especially when effect can be a verb, or manage to fail to understand that in general there's a huge difference in the meanings of exacerbate and provoke and I could go on, But it smacks of intellectual elitism (which I've been guilty of for a very long time and in many ways continue to be), but the fact is that once you're at one or two sigma, well, it's fine and well to consider these markers by which you can identify persons who are more likely to be able to follow your train of thought and save those conversations for those people. Otoh, there are more types of intelligence than just linguistics and I've met people through the years are probably easily past three sigma in EQ, or creative, very narrow fields etc who either don't have the grasp or suffer from common speech/reading disorders.

So, I do my best to be aware of these biases not use them as a general identifier of intellectual fitness.

After all let's face it, english grammar rules are about as arbitrary as going around judging people based on their memory of who were divisional championships in baseball through the years. Great method if you're looking for somebody to discuss baseball history, not so great if you want to have a comfortable conversation about the literary value of various Hugo award winners and how the values of the committee have seemed to change through the years."