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54 M Portland, OR

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Last Online
Yesterday – 11:39pm
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Cancer, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Art / Music / Writing
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids
Has dogs and likes cats

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My self-summary
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I'm atypical. I'm single.

I like to dance. I'm not a great dancer.

If you are here for "business" reasons, I'm not interested. Yes, I was a bit surprised, too. Is OK Cupid going the way of Craig's List?

You might notice these things about me. I am:
...Creative with a sense of humor that can lean toward irony.
… A perfect specimen of humanity who always has a positive attitude and never makes mistakes. (See?)

... A musician. I teach music for a living. I perform from time to time as well. I get to do what I love for a living. Yay!

... A guy who's enjoying his time on earth. I've dated a lot. I’ve had several beautiful relationships. This is what I’ve learned about me. I like commitment. I like knowing that my friend will be there for me tomorrow. Love is important.

... A free spirit. I prefer relationships that don't look like ownership. Monogamy is possible. I know many happy people in exclusive sexual relationships. Polyamory seems to make more sense for me. Monogamy or poly? It depends on the chemistry of the people involved doesn't it? I have had wonderful monogamous as well as poly relationships. Ideally I'd like to meet that special someone who's also as adventurous as I am. I have fun at places like Club Sesso (you might want to google that). I enjoy being open and honest. Will you foster that? Poly means open, not shallow or easy. Open-minded people, welcome! Bigots, jealous types and the narrow minded need not apply. Please pass me by, don't make me cry, don't make me blue. I consider myself to be sapiosexual.

… A good conduit. Communication is key. I want to build a relationship with openness and transparency and see where that takes us.
Summation: lying is stupid.

... A dog lover. I love and miss my beautiful four legged girl. She loved all people, even republicans.

… A non-drinker. I don't drink or do drugs. I don't care if you do. I work in bars and wineries quite often and go out for drinks with friends. I'll just order mine "virgin" (and wait for the jokes to fly).

… An art lover. Theatre, graphic art, performance art, visual art, multimedia and (duh) music. Do you like live music?

… A progressive. Left wing oriented. Also, I think that meeting people online is “organic” and natural. If “the universe” is supposed to bring us together then I’d imagine that the universe can navigate a website. Don’t you think?

… A cliché basher. I look at the glass this way, not half-full, not half-empty but as an overused metaphor. Here's a different slant. Life is a slug trail. Always moving, always creating more. The past is shiny if you look back at it but it does eventually fade. The next slime trail might be the best one ever!
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm involved in the continuing effort of a new music school in Portland (year 2). One of the most exciting projects I've ever been party to. It's going great! We already broke last year's enrollment record. There are challenges though, whew.

I'm working with various professionals. I'm not paying them in currency. I love to work on the barter system when possible.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Teaching, listening, watching, participating, performing and creating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a huge unicorn horn coming out of my forehead.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Fav Books: Illusions (Richard Bach), Another Roadside Attraction (Tom Robbins), Just Kids (Patti Smith), This is your Brain on Music (Daniel J. Levitin), Contact (Carl Sagan), The Ethical Slut (Easton and Hardy).

Fav Movies: A Room with a View, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Generations, Dr. Caligari, Blade Runner, L.A. Story, The Meaning of Life.

Fav Food: Yes! Pdx restaurants are a never ending source of exploration and palate teasing fun.

Fav Music: Jazz, Blues, Alt rock, Alt. country, funkystuff ta boogie 2, classical, acoustic treats, thoughtful music, fun music, innovative music, classic music, even the dreaded (uh-oh, yer getttin' old) "adult contemporary"... Examples: Coltrane, Robben Ford, Wilco, Funkadelic, Giuliani, Indigo Girls, John Mayer, Bon Iver, Moby, Tool, Zappa, AC/DC, Miles, Ella, Frank, Duke…

Fav clubs: Cafe Artichoke, Jimmy Mak's, Tommy O's, White Eagle, Club Sesso.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Everybody sing:

Music, Sex and cookies.
Cookies, music and sex.
There must be a lotta better things in this world
but I ain't run across none yet.

If I could have 3 wishes.
I know just what I'd do.
Get a new stereo, buy up Nabisco and make sweet love to you.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
harmony, rhythm, dynamics, melody.

I believe in love, genuine and true.

Monogamy or Poly?

How do you tuna fish?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I know the secret to the universe.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 34–65
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
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You are a perfect specimen of humanity who always has a positive attitude and never makes mistakes.