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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 34-65
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Nov 24
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Mostly non-monogamous
6' 0" (1.83m)
Body Type
Average build
Not at all
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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Communication, connection and commitment are important to me.

I know how to take care of myself (maturity) but I neither look nor act like a typical male American. I’m in a polyamorus relationship with a woman that I love dearly. We date separately but prefer that our friends eventually be social with each other and both of us. I can bend my gender a little from time to time though I identify as a cis-male. At various times I might be described as: Kinky-switch, bisexual, musical, educational, open, studious, entrepreneurial, geeky, silly, funny and hopefully intelligent. That last part is very important in a friendship. I am drawn toward people who are motivated by knowledge and I adore a good conversationalist.
On most days I'm able to live in the present. I accept the past but don't dwell there. I look forward to the future but don't fret about it.

I am atypical. I am fun.
I am not fearful. I am not for everybody.

I'm open.
Open to new ideas.
Open to innovative thought
Open to answering any questions.
Open to a myriad of experiences.

I've had at least a half-a-myriad of experiences.

What does spirituality mean? For me it’s faith in something beyond the physical. Sometimes the word metaphysical just doesn’t cover it, though. It’s something that I think about. It’s something that I participate in. It’s something that I experience. It’s not always something that I want to talk about casually. I need my friends to respect that about me.

I like to dance. I'm not a great dancer. Yet, I have an awesome sense of rhythm.
What I’m doing with my life
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I teach and play music. I'm involved in the continuing effort of a new music school in Portland (year 4 ). One of the most exciting projects I've ever been involved in. It's going great!

I'm working with various professionals. I'm not always paying them in currency. I love to work on the barter system when possible. I work and play "outside the box".

Community outreach and involvement are important in my life. Music education and social change (sex-positive issues in particular) are my passions. What is sex positivity? It might not be what you think. Ask me.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Teaching, listening, learning, watching, participating, performing and creating.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Maybe the huge uni-horn coming out of my forehead?
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Fav Books: Illusions (Richard Bach), Another Roadside Attraction (Tom Robbins), Just Kids (Patti Smith), This is your Brain on Music (Daniel J. Levitin), Contact (Carl Sagan), The Ethical Slut (Easton and Hardy).

Fav Movies: A Room with a View, Oh Brother Where Art Thou, Generations, Dr. Caligari, Blade Runner, L.A. Story, The Meaning of Life.

Fav Food: Yes! Pdx restaurants are a never ending source of exploration and palate teasing fun.

Fav Shows:
TVish stuff: Dr. Who, Sherlock, Sens8, Soap, Trek stuff, Cosmos, Family Guy
Theater: Twelfth Night, JCS, Inviting Desire.

Fav Music: Jazz, Blues, Alt rock, Alt. country, funky-stuff-ta-boogie-2, classical, acoustic treats, thoughtful music, fun music, innovative music, classic music, et.
Examples: Coltrane, Robben Ford, Wilco, Shakey Graves, Funkadelic, Giuliani, Indigo Girls, Stevie Wonder, Bon Iver, Tool, James Low, Nancy King, Zappa, AC/DC, B.B., Miles, Ella, Frank, Duke…

Fav clubs: Cafe Artichoke, Jimmy Mak's, White Eagle, Wilf's, The Aladdin.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Music, sex and cookies
Cookies, music and sex
There must be a lotta better things in this world but I ain't run across none yet.
If I could have 3 wishes
I know just what I'd do
Get a new stereo, buy up Nabisco and make sweet love to you!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
harmony, rhythm, dynamics, melody.

I believe in love, genuine and true.

My desire for deep and meaningful relationships.

How do you tuna fish?
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I know the secret to the universe.
You should message me if
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You enjoy growing.
You understand ethical non-monogamy.
You want to understand ethical non-monogamy.
You enjoy music.