I'm an unconventional adventurer and world traveler, looking for friends who are as much fun and as loyal, brave, and kind as I am. I write prose, poetry, and songs, and love to experience books, art, and music of many kinds. I am interested in learning many kinds of alternative/sustainable lifestyles and technologies. I want to spend my time with people who strive to live lightly on Mother Earth. I am not religious but a free spirit, who lets her conscience be her guide in all things. I dream of living one day soon in an egalitarian, sustainable, self-sufficient, intentional community, somewhere near a tropical ocean...
I recently left a relationship with the father of my 3-year-old daughter, with whom I shared a home and traveled for 5 years. We loved one another dearly, and really tried to make a go of it, but it is fair to say that ours was a very difficult situation. We dealt with a lot of interference from outside sources which should never have played a part (namely immigration authorities in my home country, and that of my former partner). Between us, we simply didn't have the skills it would have taken to overcome the obstacles which were put in our path.
The two of us still love one another, but have agreed for now that we are not the right partners to meet each other's current needs. We both hold onto a hope that at some nebulous future time, we may finally realize a sacred union together. Because of this, in part, I am opening to the possibility of polyfidelity as a lifestyle, and am actively investigating the subject, in an effort to educate myself.
I will gladly share the details of my previous relationships with anyone whom I welcome into my life. I continue to seek deep connections with love. I crave the company of soul friends who want to share this amazing life and play on, as the eternal children we are meant to be.
I don't smoke or drink, because I don't enjoy the feelings that tobacco and alcohol give, but I have been known to enjoy other natural highs that Mother Nature has so graciously provided. Health is a turn-on, so I prefer not to keep company with substance addicts of any kind, including drunks and smokers.
I desire to be in a union during this lifetime, with at least one happy, vital, energetic being, who is optimistic, and loves living. I am looking for the same kind of loyalty and self-disclosure that I offer, and a brave soul, ready to share this grand adventure with me. A sharp mind and sensitive spirit are important, as well as self-confidence, not to be confused with arrogance or conceit.
I desire to truly know someone who looks into things deeply, someone who knows who he (or she) is, or who is busily discovering him/herself, and who is unafraid to share that self fully with me. Radical honesty, passion for living, and a deep love of self are all big draws for me! I want someone just as unique and marvelous as I am, who is not threatened by a woman who knows what she wants, and actively seeks it out.
Musicians, artists, writers , and artisans often intrigue me, since I am drawn to those who are in the magical process of creating. In the past, I have experienced incredible periods of growth and beauty as I spent time among those in the creative flow. I am ready to be in that space once again...
I have 3 kids, ages 20, 16, and 3, who are essential in my life. I identify as an attachment-style mom, and an unschooler, so I spend most of my time in the company of my youngest child, and much of my time in the company of all three kids. My kids are the best friends I could ever hope for. I am a full-time mama, and I love it!
Sex is a really big deal to me, and I broke up with my first long-term partner, in part, because it was merely a physical thing for him. My most recent partner was a more loving and connected sexual partner, which was wonderful, but the two of us were not well-matched, libido-wise, and I always felt unfulfilled by the low frequency of our lovemaking. I would be thrilled to have a lover who would gladly make love with me daily or every other day. I could even be satisfied with 2 or 3 times a week, but only having 3-4 sexual encounters a month is not ever going to be enough for me!
I have had plenty of (technically!) good sex in my life, and can appreciate it, but the being I seek will make an art out of cherishing me, body, mind, and spirit, at every opportunity, and gladly accept my worship of him/her, in reciprocal fashion. It is fair to say that sexuality is a dominant part of my spirituality, and I seek another who feels the same. I believe my true path in this life is a Tantric one, and I choose to manifest a new partner who will walk this sacred way with me in joy and wholeness ...
I have been quite fortunate in my life to have many wonderful friends, and have found that some of them were interested in being my lovers, when I only felt drawn toward friendship with them. I think it is important to note that so-called "chemistry" definitely plays a big part in determining the people to whom I feel attracted.
Please be forewarned, if we begin to converse, and especially if we seem to be hitting it off, that physical attraction is an essential part of the mix. If I feel there is something interesting going on between myself and someone I meet online, I will soon want to meet in person in order to find out if the interest extends into the physical realm...
While I do not like to think of myself as shallow, and overly concerned with the physical, I would be lying if I said looks make no difference to me. I tend to be attracted to tall, thin men (I have yet to be attracted to non-males in this lifetime, but I do not rule out the possibility.) who are youthful in appearance. I often like those with a bit of an androgynous look about them, and have even wondered at times if I might be compatible with a trans-sexual, or intersexed individual, though I have never had an opportunity to find out.
My latest partner was nearly my physical ideal, being over six feet tall, and weighing about 150 lbs. He also had very little body hair, was ever-so-slightly effeminate, and was naturally quite tan. Proportionately, he could have passed for a "Lord of the Rings" elf! I can find people of any skin color attractive, but practically speaking, those who do not wilt in full sunlight would be better suited to my lifestyle, which frequently finds me in tropical locales, roughing it.
Another factor which comes into play in the matter of attraction is less easily defined than one's measurements or stats, but is perhaps even more crucial. It is a unique combination of personal smell, voice, posture, facial expressions, style of communication, gestures, and so many other things which come together in just the right way to thrill me, and to entice me into intimacy. Many people whom I have admired in other ways have simply not had what it takes to turn me on. I think it is important not to settle for a love relationship with someone who is better suited to be only a friend. I am holding out for one that feels just right for me!
I prefer not to keep company with any dogmatic types, because life is just too short and precious to waste it like that. I am also not impressed by dominant males or macho men. If you describe or think of yourself as "conservative," "average," or "a regular Joe," or if conformity is one of your lifestyle choices, we will not have much of interest to talk about.
If knowing my chronological age is of importance to you before you take the time to know me as a being, then I don't have time for you. This is why I have listed my age as 99. Experience and maturity are relative qualities, and have little to do with how many years one has passed on this planet. I am open to knowing and loving beings of any age, and I expect this same openness from those with whom I spend time.
Having birthed 3 kids already, I am not interested in reproducing again during this lifetime. My youngest child only recently weaned from nursing, so I am now enjoying claiming my body back for my own exclusive use. Those individuals who are looking for a woman with whom to make babies should look elsewhere, because this woman's womb has done its duty, and is effectively retired from service! This being said, I could certainly see myself raising many more children, and have often thought of adoption as a good idea.
Some of my statements may come across as harsh, but I have wasted more time than I like so far, fending off advances from many of the wrong sorts of suitors! I prefer not to waste my own time, or anyone elses, trying to make matches which are unsuitable for one or both parties. I think it is best to be brutally honest and clear about what I don't want, right from the get-go. I hope everyone out there will do the same...
I was living in Mexico from January to August of 2011, and have recently come back to the US. My kids and I came in for a landing in late October to Lower Lake, California, and are now, just settling into Cobb Mountain, which is an amazing place. We are fortunate to live near the Harbin hot springs, where I spend lots of time. It would be wonderful to meet some people who live nearby. If my profile resonates with you, feel free to seek me out as a potential friend, lover, or mate. I send these words out with the intention of finding members of my growing tribe... So mote it be!