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mySylph

103 F Sayulita, Mexico

I’m looking for

  • Everybody
  • Ages 18–100
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 8:27am
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
Asian, Native American, Hispanic / Latin, White
Height
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly other
Smokes
No
Drinks
Not at all
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Atheism, and laughing about it
Sign
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Education
Dropped out of university
Job
Other
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Offspring
Has kids
Pets
Likes dogs and likes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Spanish (Fluently)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is by no means an exhaustive description, but only skims the more salient points of my character, life, and beliefs. I have tried to touch, at least, on all the most important elements of who I am, and what I seek. If it resonates with you, feel free to ask questions for the sake of further clarity.
I'm an unconventional adventurer and world traveler, looking for friends who are as much fun and as loyal, brave, and kind as I am. I write prose, poetry, and songs, and love to experience books, art, and music of many kinds. I am interested in learning many kinds of alternative/sustainable lifestyles and technologies. I want to spend my time with people who strive to live lightly on Mother Earth. I am not religious but a free spirit, who lets her conscience be her guide in all things. I dream of living one day soon in an egalitarian, sustainable, self-sufficient, intentional community, somewhere near a tropical ocean...

In December of 2013, I left a relationship with the father of my 6-year-old daughter, with whom I'd shared a home and traveled off and on for 7 years. We loved one another dearly, and really tried to make a go of it, but it is fair to say that ours was a very difficult situation. We dealt with a lot of interference from outside sources which should never have played a part (namely immigration authorities in my home country, and that of my former partner). Between us, we simply didn't have the skills it would have taken to overcome the obstacles which were put in our path.

The two of us still love one another, but have agreed for now that we are not the right partners to meet each other's current needs. We are both open to the possibility that at some nebulous future time, we may still realize a sacred union together. I am not, however, willing to wait around, single and celibate, to see if this dream materializes! Because of this, in part, I am opening to the possibility of poly-fidelity as a lifestyle, and am actively investigating the subject, in an effort to educate myself.

I will gladly share the details of my previous relationships with anyone whom I welcome into my life. I continue to seek deep connections with love. I crave the company of soul friends who want to share this amazing life and play on, as the eternal children we are meant to be.

I don't smoke or drink, because I don't enjoy the feelings that tobacco and alcohol give, but I have been known to enjoy other natural highs that Mother Nature has so graciously provided.Health is a turn-on, so I prefer not to keep company with substance addicts of any kind, including drunks and smokers.

I desire to be in a union during this lifetime, with at least one happy, vital, energetic being, who is optimistic, and loves living. I seek the same kind of loyalty and self-disclosure that I offer, and a brave soul, ready to share this grand adventure with me.

A sharp mind and sensitive spirit are important, as well as self-confidence, not to be confused with arrogance or conceit. I desire to truly know someone who looks into things deeply, someone who knows who he (or she) is, or who is busily discovering him/herself, and who is unafraid to share that self fully with me. Radical honesty, passion for living, and a deep love of self are all big draws for me! I want someone just as unique and marvelous as I am, who is not threatened by a woman who knows what she wants, and actively seeks it out.

Musicians, artists, writers , and artisans often intrigue me, since I am drawn to those who are in the magical process of creating. In the past, I have experienced incredible periods of growth and beauty as I spent time among those in the creative flow. I am ready to be in that space once again...

I have 3 kids, ages 22, 19, and 6, who are essential in my life. I identify as an attachment-style mom, and an unschooler, so I spend most of my time in the company of my youngest child, and as much of my time as I can in the company of all three kids. They are the best friends I could ever hope for. I am a full-time mama, and I love it!

If knowing my chronological age is of paramount importance to you, before you take the time to know me as a being, then I don't have time for you. This is why my age is listed as over 100. Experience and maturity are relative qualities, and have little to do with how many years one has passed on this planet. I am open to knowing and loving beings of any age, and I expect this same openness from those with whom I spend time.

Having birthed 3 kids already, I am not interested in reproducing again during this lifetime. Those individuals who are looking for a woman with whom to make babies should look elsewhere, because this woman's womb has done its duty, and will not be carrying or releasing any more offspring! This being said, I could certainly see myself raising more children, and have often thought of adoption as a good idea.

Sex is a really big deal to me, and I broke up with my first long-term partner, in part, because it was merely a physical thing for him. My most recent mate was a more loving and connected sexual partner, which was wonderful, but the two of us were not well-matched, libido-wise, and I always felt unfulfilled by the low frequency of our lovemaking. I would be thrilled to have a lover who would gladly make love with me daily or every other day. I could even be satisfied with 2 or 3 times a week, but I know from experience that only 3 or 4 sexual encounters a month is not enough for me!

I have had plenty of (technically!) good sex in my life, and can appreciate it, but the being I seek will make an art out of cherishing me, body, mind, and spirit, at every opportunity, and gladly accept my worship of him/her, in reciprocal fashion. It is fair to say that sexuality is a dominant part of my spirituality, and I seek another who feels the same. I believe my true path in this life is a Tantric one, and I choose to manifest a new partner who will walk this sacred way with me in joy and wholeness ...

I have been quite fortunate in my life to have many wonderful friends, and have found that some of them were interested in being my lovers, when I only felt drawn toward friendship with them. I think it is important to note that so-called "chemistry" definitely plays a big part in determining the people to whom I feel attracted.

Please be forewarned, if we begin to converse, and especially if we seem to be hitting it off, that physical attraction is an essential part of the mix. If I feel there is something interesting going on between myself and someone I meet online, I will soon want to meet in person in order to find out if the interest extends into the physical realm...

While I do not like to think of myself as shallow, and overly concerned with the physical, I would be lying if I said looks make no difference to me. I tend to be attracted to tall, thin men (I have yet to be attracted to non-males in this lifetime, but I do not rule out that possibility for exploration.) who are youthful in appearance. I often like those with a bit of an androgynous look about them, and have even wondered at times if I might be compatible with a trans-sexual, or inter-sexed individual, though I have never had an opportunity to find out.

My latest partner was my physical ideal, being over six feet tall, and weighing about 150 lbs. He also had very little body hair, was ever-so-slightly effeminate, and was naturally quite tan. Proportionately, he could have passed for a "Lord of the Rings" elf! I can find people of any coloration attractive, but practically speaking, those who do not wilt in full sunlight would be better suited to my lifestyle, which frequently finds me in tropical locales, roughing it.

Another factor which comes into play in the matter of attraction is less easily defined than one's measurements or stats, but is perhaps even more crucial. It is a unique combination of personal smell, voice, posture, facial expressions, style of communication, gestures, and so many other things which come together in just the right way to thrill me, and to entice me into intimacy. Many people whom I have admired in other ways have simply not had what it takes to turn me on. I think it is important not to settle for a love relationship with someone who is better suited to be only a friend. I am holding out for one that feels just right for me!

I prefer not to keep company with any dogmatic folks, because life is just too short and precious to waste it like that. I am also not impressed by domineering males or macho men. If you describe or think of yourself as "conservative," "average," or "a regular Joe," or if conformity is one of your lifestyle choices, we will not have much of interest to talk about.

Some of my statements may come across as harsh, but I have wasted more time than I like so far, fending off advances from many of the wrong sorts of suitors! I prefer not to waste my own time, or anyone else's, trying to make matches which are unsuitable. I think it is best to be brutally honest and clear about what I don't want, right from the get-go. I hope everyone out there will do the same...

I am a believer and practitioner of the Law of Attraction, and I know that I will be most compatible with others who base their lives on this knowledge of how the universe works. If this sounds like you, please do not hesitate to get in touch!

I was living in Belize from November, 2012 to October of 2013, and am now living in Mexico, where I have settled, for the time being, in a little tourist town called Sayulita, about an hour from Puerto Vallarta. It would be wonderful to meet some folks who live nearby, or who are willing to travel here to spend time. If my profile resonates with you, feel free to seek me out as a potential friend, lover, or mate. I send these words out with the intention of finding members of my growing tribe... So mote it be!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I love to take tests on OKCupid, and just scored ENFJ on one.
;-)

I have recently taught myself how to weave various useful, fun, and decorative items out of the ubiquitous fronds of the coconut palm, and am currently developing this enjoyable pastime into a way of supporting myself financially. Check out my brand new ETSY store, to see my photos, if you're curious about this nearly lost art.

https://www.etsy.com/your/shops/CocoClockWork/story

Before coming to Sayulita, I camped on the beach at tiny, Playa Mayto, a couple of hours drive south of here, and volunteered at a sea turtle rescue camp, which was an absolute blast! I recently learned there are opportunities to rescue turtles here, too, and I plan to take part in those efforts.

My song-writing days seem to have been a flash in the pan, but you never know what the future will bring. For a listen to what I was doing a few years ago, go here:
http://www.myspace.com/spiralsylphband
I will also welcome the day when my writing will no longer be limited to e-mails and the occasional blog entry...

I am a dumpster-diver, and reclaimer, and feel quite satisfied when I can put something free to good use, and opt out of the capitalist system. I always actively seek ways of living for free, and intend one day to live completely free from the need for money.

I used to adore going out on my bike, alone, or with my kids, and riding for many miles, seeking beauty and adventure in the dark. We are a family of night owls who love to connect with others who are awake and full of energy in the darkness. Night cycling is not safe or appropriate here, and I miss it. I am planning to get back into surfing, though, so I guess that kind of makes up for the loss of cycling nightly. I am also just now embarking upon the challenges of parkour and circus training, which is terribly exciting!

I intend to find local opportunities to do yoga (I am particularly intrigued by acro yoga these days!), bellydance, meditation, women's circles, full-moon circles, intenders' circles, empowerment circles, ecstatic dance gatherings, tantric study groups, and other rich experiences I haven't yet thought of, right away!

I seek, eventually to form an off-grid, sustainable, self-sufficient, consensus-based intentional community, somewhere in the tropics. To that end, I try to check out all the Rainbow Family Gatherings, primitive skills events, unschooling events, and intentional communities I can, to meet interesting people, and learn new and pertinent things. My kids (one or all!) often accompany me on all my journeys, and I'd love to find just the right folks to come along with us to share in the adventure...
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I am really good at enjoying life, and finding ways to learn from everything that happens. I am also a loyal and supportive friend, and I take pride in being there for those I care about. Mostly a dabbler in a lot of different stuff, I am probably best at raising happy, healthy kids.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
People usually notice my unconventional ways, and my sense of adventure, as well as my dynamic energy! I am also a practitioner of radical honesty, and enjoy evoking honesty in kind from those I meet. Mutual self-disclosure is awesome!!!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books (just a few that come to mind!)- Ishmael, My Ishmael, The Story of B, Beyond Providence, and The Man Who Grew Young, by Daniel Quinn. How Children Learn, How Children Fail, Instead of Education, and Teach Your Own, by John Holt. Everything by Stephen King, especially The Stand and the Dark Tower series! A Winter's Tale, A Dove of the East, A Soldier of the Great War, Memoir from Antproof Case, Freddy and Fredericka, and A City in Winter by Mark Helprin. Atlas Shrugged and The Fountainhead by Ayn Rand. The Golden Compass series by Philip Pullman. The Earth's Children series by Jean M. Auel. The Botany of Desire, by Michael Pollan, and Conscious Loving, by Gay and Kathlyn Hendricks. I love to read all the books I can find on Law of Attraction, especially the Abraham/Hicks books.

Movies include- Dead Again, Contact, What Dreams May Come, The Butterfly Effect, The Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind, The Lost Boys, City of Lost Children, Princess Mononoke, Back to the Future, Magnolia, Barbarella, Life is Beautiful, Amelie, Frequency, Grand Canyon, Flatliners, A Clockwork Orange, Poltergeist 1 & 2, Magic, A.I., The Sixth Sense, Cocoon, Time Bandits, Bicentennial Man, Four Rooms, The Shining, Donnie Darko, The Breakfast Club, Harold and Maude, Brewster McCloud, Electric Dreams, Waking Life, Jacob's Ladder, Pleasantville, Labyrinth, Legend, The Last Unicorn, Cat's Eye, Friends, The Little Girl Who Lives Down the Lane, The Princess Bride, Altered States, Brainstorm, The Blue Lagoon, 12th Night, Monty Python's Life of Brian, The Meaning of Life, And Now for Something Completely Different, The Holy Grail, Jonathan Livingston Seagull, Dune, Lord of the Rings, The Nightmare Before Christmas, Brazil, About Time, and all the Harry Potter movies.

Television- I don't really watch television, having not owned one in better than 15 years, but my kids sometimes download stuff that I enjoy. Some examples are Adventure Time, Star Trek the Next Generation, The X-Files, Metalocalypse, Black Adder, Arrested Development, Mr. Show, Important Things, Dexter, Lost, Weeds, Lie to Me, Sherlock, The Simpsons, & Robot Chicken.

Music- Pink Floyd, The Decemberists, Iron and Wine, Neutral Milk Hotel, Radiohead, Pinback, Coldplay, Tool, The Shins, The Morning Benders, Martha Wainwright, Regina Spektor, St. Vincent, Deerhunter, Sunny Day Real Estate, The Fire Theft, A Perfect Circle, Coil, The Mars Volta, New Order, Joy Division, Ben Folds, Rufus Wainwright, Joe Jackson, Jethro Tull, The Doors, Led Zeppelin, Travis, Portishead, Moby, Yo La Tengo, My Bloody Valentine, David Bowie, Brian Protheroe, Ennio Morricone, Paul Simon, Joni Mitchell, Blue Oyster Cult, Seal, Siouxsie and the Banshees, The Creatures, Chris and Cosey, The Revolting Cocks, Skinny Puppy, Peter Murphy, Al Stewart, Bread, The Moody Blues, Morrissey, The Smiths, Bjork, They Might Be Giants, Punkinhead, Blue Boy Orliss and the Stompers, Billy Goat, Ministry, Edward Sharpe and the Magnetic Zeros, The Crash Test Dummies, Frank Zappa, Beck, Elton John, The Damned, Kimya Dawson and so many more!

Foods- Raw food, Thai, Indian, Lebanese, Pakistani, sushi, Ethiopian, Chinese, Greek, Sri Lankan, seafood, chocolate!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
love, sex, music, freedom, the magical art of manifestation, and warm, tropical waters
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
I think a lot about what life is for, and how I can make the most of the time and opportunities I have. I daydream of how delicious my life will be when I am living in a divine union. I am a firm believer in the law of attraction, and generally remember to think happy, positive thoughts, in order to manifest outcomes which are in keeping with the feelings they engender in me. :-)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
There is no such thing as a typical Friday night for me, since I have no school or work schedule to regulate my life. I tend to stay up late, though, doing whatever pleases me. Of late, I have spent way too much time online, seeking out resources in my new stomping grounds. I would much prefer to be out and about, seeking those things which fascinate me, however, and I won't wait for a Friday to make that happen.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I am a crazy fool, and pleased about it.
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
You should message me if what I have said here resonates with you, and you think we might enjoy getting to know one another...

Also, if you have scored high on my compatibility test (http://www.okcupid.com/tests/the-should-i-seek-sylph-test) or have any questions or comments about it, feel free to get in touch!