I've been everything from a nice gay housewife to an awesome single person to one-third of an open genderqueer poly triad and what might happen next is a complete mystery, but I always like making new friends. In any case, I'll probably bake you cookies if you're into that sort of thing.
I am kindhearted, bookish, and intentional
Otherwise: riding my bike, wishing I could go hiking, reading a wide variety of books, making to-do (or occasionally not-to-do) lists and then doing (or not doing) some of the things on them. Cooking. A lot.
I love books, lots of books, about everything from the history of city planning to Nabokov to how animals survive the winter to "Mrs. Dalloway" to the history of roses to books about contemporary China to whatever. Kate Bornstein changed my whole worldview. I have ten bookshelves in my living room. Seriously. If you want a better idea of how I've been spending a fairly significant amount time, you can check out my Goodreads profile.
I also enjoy movies, a lot actually, but I have a hard time watching them by myself. Movie night? I'm all over that.
I tend to watch TV one show at a time all the way through, so my experience is limited but a tiny bit obsessive. I'm a big fan of Arrested Development, Joss Whedon, and sometimes when I'm really tired I end up watching old episodes of "Friends". Update: Twin Peaks ate some large chunks of my life recently. Probably literally.
Lately I've been listening to Queen and Beck's Midnite Vultures and Le Tigre all shuffled together, which I find to be the perfect combination of awesomeness, feminism, and funky raunchiness. Also, bands with cellos rock my world.
I like sushi, but I'm tired of jokes about eating fish. (Rimshot.) Still, food--which, for me, includes almost everything except meat (although I have nothing against carnivores, especially conscientious ones)--is pretty awesome. I love food so much that I once wrote a cookbook zine and made a ton of copies at kinkos and gave it to all of my friends.
2) Engaging one-on-one conversations
3) Good transportation (my bicycle, my feet, the bus, etc.)
4) My viola, a.k.a. that whole 'being a musician' thing.
5) Natural places with few to no people in them (even if I can't experience them very often, I need them to exist)
6) Sensual experiences that remind me what my body is for, from sex to good food to hiking
In deed: I have artsy naked photographs of myself in Arizona (with a cowboy hat) and in Alaska (there's a caribou in the background!), and there was also a recent indoor book-themed photo set inspired by Chicago's lack of good outside places to get naked for any significant period of time, especially when it's winter. (The books I posed with: Pat Califia's "Public Sex", Judith Halberstam's "Female Masculinity" and Italo Calvino's anthology of Italian folktales.) It's something of a tradition with my closest friends. We haven't yet been caught.
Also, very very technically speaking, Fleetwood Mac once opened for me.
In general: almost certainly more than you'd expect. It's sort of a thing for me, I guess.
I'm pretty willing to let interactions find their own level, whatever that might be, friendship or other. I'm sort of busy sort of often but if you're inclined, feel free to write me a message.
For the record, I have absolutely no problem with poly people, monogamous people, kinky people, vanilla people, variously gendered/identified people (trans, genderqueer, bigendered, gay, straight, bi, none of the above, more than one of the above, etc.), or most anybody who isn't a jerk. In fact, a lot of those things are things I include--in a positive way--when I say "talking about people's sex lives late into the night" (although sex is not, of course, gender), and at least a few of those words are things I could personally lay claim to, depending on which day you catch me on. Really, if you can make me bat an eye, I'll be surprised.