I grumbled to my friend Fi that online dating wasn't my cup of
tea*, and she told me about a site in the U.K. where someone else
posts on your behalf. It doesn't exist Stateside, but Fi, being Fi,
went ahead and wrote a post for me anyway. However, it'll be me
that reads any response you may send!
*As a big believer in self-determination, I want to set the record straight that I'm willing to put in the effort required to meet new people... my grumble was that the online dating system is devoid of the element I find most useful, namely a social context (the ability to observe how people interact with others you know!).
This is what Fi says:
I am astounded that my friend is not off the market and blissfully bound in a relationship. So, with her permission, I am looking for a nice, single, straight fellow between the age of 30 and 45.
What she is like: about 5'7 or 8''; slim; strong; athletic; long blonde/brown wavey hair; most comfortable without makeup and in running clothes; born in the country but educated in the city; incredibly intelligent with a curious and inquiring mind; will ask why; will not suffer fools gladly; home grown values and a love of the outdoors; not afraid of getting muddy; adventurous and will try anything once; loves a laugh and being silly; loyal to the core and gentle to her soul.
From her perspective, these are the things she is looking for:
1) Essential qualities:
Someone who is considerate of other people (even strangers); someone she respects (that generally means an ability/willingness to work very hard); a "sharing" person (about all things - talking about the day, ideas about future, problems at work); someone who values her opinion.
2) Nice but not essential qualities:
A chap who likes enjoys a certain amount of challenge/silliness/pain for fun - climbing up mountains, building furniture, storytelling, learning new things (which can be embarassing), etc. Bonus if he's willing to dance or tend a garden.
3) Stuff that means it won't work, ever:
Any addictive habits (gambling, drugs, smoking, video games); mean-ness or spitefulness; someone who doesn't want kids eventually.
End of Fi's post about me.
*As a big believer in self-determination, I want to set the record straight that I'm willing to put in the effort required to meet new people... my grumble was that the online dating system is devoid of the element I find most useful, namely a social context (the ability to observe how people interact with others you know!).
This is what Fi says:
I am astounded that my friend is not off the market and blissfully bound in a relationship. So, with her permission, I am looking for a nice, single, straight fellow between the age of 30 and 45.
What she is like: about 5'7 or 8''; slim; strong; athletic; long blonde/brown wavey hair; most comfortable without makeup and in running clothes; born in the country but educated in the city; incredibly intelligent with a curious and inquiring mind; will ask why; will not suffer fools gladly; home grown values and a love of the outdoors; not afraid of getting muddy; adventurous and will try anything once; loves a laugh and being silly; loyal to the core and gentle to her soul.
From her perspective, these are the things she is looking for:
1) Essential qualities:
Someone who is considerate of other people (even strangers); someone she respects (that generally means an ability/willingness to work very hard); a "sharing" person (about all things - talking about the day, ideas about future, problems at work); someone who values her opinion.
2) Nice but not essential qualities:
A chap who likes enjoys a certain amount of challenge/silliness/pain for fun - climbing up mountains, building furniture, storytelling, learning new things (which can be embarassing), etc. Bonus if he's willing to dance or tend a garden.
3) Stuff that means it won't work, ever:
Any addictive habits (gambling, drugs, smoking, video games); mean-ness or spitefulness; someone who doesn't want kids eventually.
End of Fi's post about me.
