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38 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

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  • Ages 24–38
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body type
Strictly vegetarian
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t have kids, but wants them
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
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You'll be my Emmylou and you'll be my June; I'll be your Gram and your Johnny, too.
What I’m doing with my life
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I'm a professor at a fine small liberal arts college somewhere in the greater NYC area.

Beyond that, I'm reading books, writing a book, painting things (canvases, walls, the town), playing soccer, biking, running, hiking, skiing, going out for some live music, carousing, gallivanting, wondering how my place gets so messy with just one person living in it, analyzing, conversing, musing and daydreaming.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I'm really good at a lot of random physical, athletic and intellectual activities. Maybe you want to talk Kieslowski or Christa Wolf or Adam Phillips, or talk about - better yet, go see live - some good music? Or you want to run a half-marathon, do a century bike ride or hike across Vermont? Hell, let's try a couple of those at the same time - I'm game if you are.
I'm merely quite good at various others, such as pretending to understand Lacan and my standing bow pose, but I'm working on those.

If I'm on this thing, as I am just once in a blue moon, I'm likely to be slightly beered up and singing along to favorite songs on Youtube/Spotify late at night - but I can't promise to be really good at that.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My thick suburban Connecticut brogue.
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I had something up here about the silliness of this section, which seems to be more about showing off one's breadth or hipness (or the breadth of ones' hipness) than anything else. It's like everyone just wants everyone else to know they've read Murakami.

I haven't read Murakami, but I'm owning it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Like many others here, I want to say something like "there's nothing I couldn't do without." That would emphasize my free-spirited non-materialistic nature, right?
I'd be totally deluding myself if I said that. I like lots of things and would be loathe to give them up. At the same time, I'm not really that covetous or fetishistic. Let's just go to the next question...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Things I want to write or am writing.

When I'm going to get to live abroad (in Europe, probably) again.

If not that, then which ski town I'm going to transplant myself to.

How so many women here mention how unimpressed they are by guys who put shirtless selfies, shots of their abs, etc. up on their profiles. To which I ask - actual adult men are still doing that? I can't be bothered to go looking, so someone please tell me - is it really that widespread a thing? I shouldn't be quite so dumbstruck if it is, but I guess I still am.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
It varies widely.
Sometimes I'm in my living room, working on some odd little abstract painting while listening to Townes.
At other times, I'm in my living room, working on some odd little abstract painting while listening to Eno.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Whatever faults and flaws I may have (and I do), at least I can say that I'm not a Yelp commenter - so that's a good sign that I'm not a truly terrible human being. Because those people are the worst, right?

I also don't lawyer, work in finance, call myself a foodie, "work hard, play hard" or take pictures of myself with big cats, so while I'm really racking up those valuable Not A Total Douche-Rocket points, it's probably all for naught since I don't actually live within the five boroughs right now.
But close. Close-ish. Close-ish in the big picture. You know, in the cosmic big picture, the moon is like, right across the street!
I feel like I'm not really helping myself at this point.
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