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37 M New York, NY

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Last Online
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5′ 10″ (1.78m)
Body Type
Strictly vegetarian
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), Italian (Poorly), Spanish (Poorly), German (Poorly)

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My self-summary
The future is unwritten.
The OKC profile, on the other hand, is sporadically rewritten.

A summary? It's probably best to say I'm like an Altman film; adored in the 1970s (and to be fair, at its best then, too.) Then largely left alone - apart from revivals of interest - in the decades that followed. Marked by lots of loose, overlapping talk and dark comedy. Much improvisation and sly subversion. Often seems to be going nowhere, but actually going somewhere after all.
What I’m doing with my life
"Teaching college" is the short answer. I'm a professor at a fine small liberal arts institution somewhere in the greater NYC area.

Beyond that, I'm reading books, writing a book, occasionally painting things (canvases, walls, the town), playing soccer, biking, running, hiking, skiing, going to catch some live music, carousing, gallivanting, wondering how my place gets so messy with just one person living in it, analyzing, conversing, musing and daydreaming.
I’m really good at
I'm really good at a lot of random physical/athletic and intellectual activities. Maybe you want to talk Kieslowski or Christa Wolf or underrated 90s Britpop? Or you want to run a half-marathon, do a century bike ride or hike across Vermont? Hell, let's try a couple of those at the same time - I'm game if you are.
I'm merely quite good at various others, such as pretending to understand Lacan and my standing bow pose, but I'm working on those.
The first things people usually notice about me
My thick suburban Connecticut accent.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
I had something up here about the silliness of this section, which seems to be more about showing off one's breadth or hipness (or the breadth of ones' hipness) than anything else. Maybe sometime soon I'll play the game anyway, and write out a few things that have been in my world/on my playlists lately (it's absurd to dump a couple hundred names and titles out. Who's really going to read that?) But until (if) I get around to it, just ask.
The six things I could never do without
Like many others here, I want to say something like "there's nothing I couldn't do without." That would emphasize my free-spirited non-materialistic nature, right?
I'd be totally deluding myself if I said that. I like lots of things and would be loathe to give them up. At the same time, I'm not really that covetous or fetishistic. Let's just go to the next question...
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Things I want to write or am writing.

When I'm going to get to live abroad (in Europe, probably) again.

How so many women here mention how unimpressed they are by guys who put shirtless selfies, shots of their abs, etc. up on their profiles. To which I ask - actual adult men are still really doing that? I can't be bothered to go looking, so someone please tell me - is it really that widespread a thing? I shouldn't be quite so dumbstruck if it is, but I guess I still am.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
This doesn't really seem like the place for deep personal revelations. So how about a shallow personal revelation?
I don't live in Brooklyn. Or Manhattan. Or Hoboken. Or anywhere the subway lines reach, for that matter.
I live in the Hudson Valley, where you probably come on nice summer weekends for art and hiking. I have idyllic surroundings. A good quality of life. A manageable commute to work (which I couldn't have from the city). And a dating pool that would crush the romantic morale of medieval Trappist monks or 1900s Alaskan gold miners. Hence, me being here.

So if you're not interested in meeting anyone more than two subway stops away, that might be an issue. Totally understand. Yet wouldn't that be a shame? You might the one to upend my whole life (or vice versa.) You'd have to be f'ing amazing to make that happen, and I'm not banking on it happening here, but what the hell.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 24–36
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
- You're warm-hearted, open-minded, deep and light in somewhat equal measure, and any of this silliness clicked with you.

- You like a little banter. I'm very banterable.

- You're the tipsy-karaoke-"Lazy Line Painter Jane"-duet partner I've been looking for all my life. Hell, I'm game for any Belle & Sebastian you've got - but when's the last time you saw, say, "Photo Jenny" on the list at your local bar? If you have, get at me.
Alternatively, you wanna be Emmylou to my Gram on this. If we can make that work, there's nothing we can't do.