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myrlings

33 M Seattle, WA

I’m looking for

  • Guys and girls who like bi guys
  • Ages 24–45
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Dec 1, 2013
Orientation
Bisexual
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Thin
Diet
Smokes
No
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Never
Religion
Other, and somewhat serious about it
Sign
Virgo, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from masters program
Job
Income
Less than $20,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t want kids
Pets
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), Welsh (Poorly), Latin (Poorly), Spanish (Okay), Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Sometimes I take a while to respond. Weeks; months. Sometimes I reply right away. If I don't respond right away, it doesn't mean I'm not interested. You could ping me again.

I'm a polyamorous trans guy in a wonderful open relationship with the genderqueer of my dreams (bluntingedges). I'm incredibly shy and somewhat reclusive. I'm broken and I appreciate other broken people, however you define that. If you consider yourself wholly sane, you probably won't have patience with me, nor I with you. I like geeky things, and would love to meet people to come play Rock Band with me. I get anxious and prefer to do things like hang out with people I know playing video games or watching a movie.

I'm also looking for people to make music with. I'm very shy about it, but I've been taking guitar more seriously recently, though I have a long way to go. I have a bass and want to learn to play it better, but I never keep my motivation up because I have few opportunities to play with others. I'm not good enough to look for a band or anything like that - but it could be a fun element to hanging out.

I'm queer more than any other sexual identity descriptor, but I don't mind saying I'm bisexual because it's a stigmatized word and doesn't deserve to be. I tend to be attracted to gender-variant people, especially masculine-spectrum people assigned female at birth.

I am compassionate, intense, and subtle
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I have a part-time job in computational linguistics.

It's funny that I assume this question is about work, when I have so much of a problem with the societal expectations laden in the whole "what do you do?" question. What am I doing? I'm healing, and by healing myself I am healing the world. I'm marking time, because so often treading water is all I can manage. Sometimes I dip under.

I co-run a support group which is incredibly fulfilling, and probably the only reason I have a social life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Understanding, caring, all the typical sensitive guy stuff (I mock myself, but I really do care). And coding. And learning languages.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I think it all depends on context. At school/work/official situations, I'm reclusive and quiet, so I doubt I'm noticed much. I don't know, it's a hard question. The problem isn't that I don't think about it, it's that I think about it too much. Every day in every situation I am analyzing and worrying, thinking about how people will see me. I see the worst, I hope the best, I have no real idea.

Maybe it's partly that I am not afraid to be meta in social situations. I couldn't survive them otherwise. When I'm anxious, I try to talk about it if at all possible. When I like someone, I say so (as long as I'm not in a situation where I fear that would be inappropriate... and school is such a situation.) When I sense that someone's upset or that I've put my foot in my mouth, I say so. It's the only way I survive.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Anything by Ursula K LeGuin, especially The Dispossessed and her translation of the Tao Te Ching. The Narnia Chronicles, despite the palpable religious allegory and racism. A lot of sci-fi/fantasy, especially if it gets away from traditional notions of good and evil. Rosencrantz and Guildenstern Are Dead (I've seen it over a dozen times), by Tom Stoppard. (Both the play and the movie.) Primer. The Black Keys, The White Stripes, The Pack A.D., The Cliks, Amy Ray, Indigo Girls, Pearl Jam. The Office, Arrested Development.

I like things that challenge me or relax me. In movies, I tend to be a fan of the surreal. I appreciate subtlety more than anything else. In my netflix queue I have a strict rotation between different sides of myself. I like conspiracies, but only if they carry some message applicable in the real world. I don't like made-up political intrigue that doesn't challenge any existing system or situation. I re-read Ursula K LeGuin's books on average once a year - same with L.M. Montgomery, but that's just junk food reading. I didn't list many of my favorite movies because the list is just too long.

I am a picky eater and can cook almost nothing. I live on sunflower seeds and toast and pizza when I can afford it. I like most desserts and love to go out to breakfast.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my internal system
a support network
a place to hide
a significant other
high-speed internet
the Tao Te Ching

I don't know, I have trouble with this list for some reason. I have too many or too few things to say.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
language, trauma, people, relationships, balance.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
at home doing nothing special.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm a transgender guy. Strangely, I feel less open about that than about being a survivor/broken/crazy/however you want to call it. Though I'm not very private about either one. In general, I'm probably the most transparent person I know. At school I don't let people know I'm trans, but I wouldn't be upset if someone found out. I know that I should perhaps guard my secrets better as I move to a more professional level, but I just don't have the stomach for it.
You should message me if
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You are broken and dreamy and hopefully a little geeky. You don't mind grownups acting like children. And you're not looking for anything monogamous - maybe you want a fuckbuddy, or just a buddy. I am less experienced at making friends than making lovers, but I think I crave friendship more.

Also, I'd want to be able to hang out in a group, with someone else I know. I have social anxiety and that makes it easier.

Don't message me if you say things like "get over it." I am suspicious of functional people's capacity to tolerate my ups and downs without getting impatient or resentful, but I wouldn't mind being proved wrong.