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39 M Ann Arbor, MI

My Details

Last Online
Today – 3:01am
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly vegetarian
Not at all
Buddhism, and very serious about it
Taurus, but it doesn’t matter
Graduated from university
Relationship Status
Open relationship
Relationship Type
Strictly non-monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, and doesn’t want any
Has cats
English, Japanese (Poorly)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I'm a friendly software professional who's a practicing Zen Buddhist. I'm interested in how the world works, and trying to make it a better place through my interactions with others.

I typically feel uncomfortably egotistical when talking a lot about myself, so please forgive any brevity in my profile. I'm happy to talk about pretty much anything, so feel free to write if you want to know more! That said, I also tend to add details to my question answers.. Go ahead and look in there if you want more details. Even better if you challenge me on one of my answers!

Also.. I love the fact that every time I answer a couple more questions or add a little more to my profile, I get a handful of visitors with very low match percentages. OKC does interesting things to drive ad revenue, I think..

Finally, I'd call myself some flavor of poly. I have an awesome Friend, and we date when she's around and are generally involved in each other's lives, but otherwise I live by myself.

In other news, my profile pictures currently look bipolar. Smile, serious, smile, serious.. smile. Well, as long as it starts and ends with a smile, then it's all good, right?
What I’m doing with my life
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Working, meditating, improving my health and my mind. Using the past to inform my present actions in order to form a great future.

I started a new job back in May, and I'm really enjoying it. It's my first time as a full time software developer, and it's working on educational software, which I enjoy from an ethical standpoint!

Also, I just started doing cross fit this year. Although I've done plenty of weight lifting in the past, nothing could have prepared me it! Thankfully, it's an enormously encouraging environment, and I'm really glad I joined up! I promise I won't go on and on about it, though. :)

Once a month or so, I volunteer at the Huron Valley Women's Correctional Facility, leading the Buddhist services. It's one of the most rewarding experiences I've had in my life.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Paying attention to the world around me, getting other people to talk and laugh, sleeping. I'm sort of a rock star at that last one.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I can't say that anyone has ever really told me the answer to this.. so I don't think I'm really able to answer it! I guess that most people would notice that I'm a big guy. I'm working on losing weight, but that has nothing to do with broad shoulders, a big chest, and huge legs. That's my German and Finnish genetics, I guess.. More than once I've had random people politely greet me with something like, "How's it going, big guy?"

So.. that I suppose.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Hm, books.. I don't have favorites, so much as ones I'm currently reading, I guess.. I want to get back to Hallucinations by Oliver Sacks some day. Currently reading The Singularity is Near by Ray Kurzweil, recently listened to Zen and the Art of Motorcycle Maintenance by Robert Pirsig in my car. Currently listening to How the Hippies Saved Physics. Jury is still out. Our library system in Ann Arbor kicks ass, and I'd love to get suggestions for books on CD. It feels like cheating, in a way, but whatever.. at least I'm making better use of my commute now! I enjoy reading about the brain, science, philosophy, and speculative fiction. I feel embarrassingly under-read..

Movies, there's always Fight Club. Moonrise Kingdom. Tree of Life. I'm pretty open to anything which isn't a dumb comedy. I'm sure I'll fill in more later, and I'm also open to suggestions. I love Baraka and Samsara, though I wouldn't call them date movies. Well, actually.. there might be something special about any two people who can sit through either of those movies together without being uncomfortable.

Shows.. Oh, I can give some these days. Archer, Breaking Bad, The Walking Dead. Radiolab, which you can sort of call a show? Anything in the Ghost in the Shell universe. Lie To Me. I don't have cable or anything, but you really don't need to these days, anyhow..

Music.. Tool. Warren Zevon. Shpongle. Hybrid. Underworld. The Orb. Pendulum. I find myself listening to more electronic music than anything, and I'm not ashamed to admit to enjoying nuggets of dubstep as a guilty pleasure. This is all when I'm working, exercising, or cooking and cleaning. I'll listen to just about anything, though - Classical, rock, blues, hiphop, jazz, experimental blips and boops.. Electronic is my standby music of choice, but I'll gladly be exposed to anything. There's a notable difference, in my mind, between "having music on" and "listening to music", for what that's worth.

For food, I'm almost totally vegetarian. Once or twice a month, I'll eat fish.. usually sushi. Otherwise, my favorite general styles are southwest American and Indian. I make chili often in the fall through spring. I don't eat meat because I don't need to, but have nothing against anyone who chooses a different approach.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
The basics of survival don't count.. And most people would be shocked at what they could do without. If you ever feel like you're suffering because you're missing something, consider how fortunate you are just to be aware of that suffering. Nothing is ever missing, we just often feel like it is.

How about six things I COULD do without? Willful and ignorant bigotry, mindless and conspicuous consumption, hatred and malice, hegemony, inequality, ego.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to better streamline my life in order to fit in the things I both want to and need to do.

The current state of technology, and the arc it's following. Also, what a fantastic time to be alive, due to that technology. And, I suppose, how can we use technology to augment us, rather than enslave us.

What it all means, how it all fits together, and whether we can even answer that with the limited biological capabilities of our species.. And how to be OK with that limitation.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Probably looking forward to sleeping in. Want to do something?
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'm trying to figure out what direction to point my life, and haven't yet come up with a good answer to that.
I’m looking for
  • Everybody
  • Ages 30–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends, short-term dating
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.'re interested in being friends before jumping into Dating. Or maybe if you'd like clarification on one of my answers. Or perhaps if you have an idea for what direction I could point my life, after reading my profile! :)