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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 38–58
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating

My details

Last online
Yesterday – 5:25pm
5′ 8″ (1.73m)
Body Type
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from university
Doesn’t have kids
Likes dogs and likes cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
"The problem with quotations on the Internet is their accuracy cannot be verified." - Abraham Lincoln


Welcome to my absurdly long but reportedly amusing profile! Many have said it's worth reading for the entertainment value alone. (Or, you could skip all this and just look at my photos.* This approach seems to work for most of the men here. :-) )

Basically, I'm a hopeless romantic and I genuinely love to hold hands and cuddle. While my brain may be wired for logic, I have the soul of a comedian and a heart of mush.

I'm always looking for a challenge, such as rollerblading, quantum mechanics, home improvement, relativity, opening childproof containers or removing the stuff I buy from "security packaging" without using a chain saw.

I was once described as "... half nerd, half 'badass,' but the kindest man [she] ever knew." These contradictory qualities do describe me rather well, but may also make me a bit difficult to "figure out" from just a profile. I'm not difficult to get to know, just a bit different from most, but in very positive ways, I'm told. If you're tired of "ordinary" guys, I may just be for you.

Mostly, while I'm responsible and committed, I think life should involve as much happiness as possible. I'm looking for someone to be happy with me, preferably for the long run.


*Sadly, according to OKC, almost everyone only looks at the photos:


Things I like to do:
Shopping for antiques and collectibles (and restoring them), flea markets, tag sales, etc., inline skating (I used to speed skate competitively), billiards, any of dozens of hobbies and crafts, visiting museums, exhibits, fairs, historic sites, amusement parks, nature and finding new and unusual places.

Sometimes just watching a movie, going for a walk or even occasionally doing almost nothing at all with the right person can be best of all! I'll mention cuddling and holding hands again as no one seems to believe it (not that you'll need a crowbar to pry me off of you, it's just that I hear so many complaints about men who don't bother to touch their partner except when ... well, I'm sure you get the point).

I'm sure there are also many things you like to do that I'm interested in (or would be) as well. The above list is hardly conclusive!

Odds & ends:
I appear much, much more formal and logical "on paper" than in person.
While I value my logical side, I could not live without frequent doses of humor and the amusingly inane! I do value and often use subtle and "sophisticated" humor, but if you think I'm above laughing until I have tears in my eyes from a well placed whoopee cushion, you're very mistaken! My profile gives not a hint of how outright goofy I can be at times!

I'm best defined as spiritual but not religious. I was raised Christian but don't formally practice any faith. I'm open as to your choice.

I don't smoke cigars, but do smoke a pipe on very rare occasions, especially when rereading or watching Sherlock Holmes. :-) (Jeremy Brett was the best Holmes ever, by the way!)

I love animals. I'm more a dog person, but all pets are fine. In my youth, I worked in a few pet stores and spent some time on a farm, so there's almost no animal I mind being around or caring for. I was even a beekeeper some time ago. Most likely, whatever they are, your pets will be welcome in my home and yard.

The name "namati" comes from when I was violin maker a long time ago. Sadly, carpel tunnel syndrome ended that career a few years after it started, but I still use the name as it's almost always available. My real name is Ken. Yours need not be Barbara. :-)

Since I've been asked a few times, my Myers Briggs personality type is INFJ.

My "EQ" or "Empathy Quotient" is 70 (on average, which is very high).

I've been a member since September 2010, but met a wonderful woman here and took over two years off. Alas, some issues from past abuse resurfaced and left her feeling unable to continue in any relationship at all. This did, though, prove to me that meeting a wonderful person is possible here!
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Looking for YOU! Other than this, I've worked for about the past sixteen years as an IT specialist (Network Admin/MIS and general computer geek). This was until a serious injury kept me from doing much of this for over a year.

I'm now thinking about changing careers. I loved teaching and have returned to this as a private tutor, at least for now.

Surprisingly, at least to me, I'm considering something that's more "new age" and basically the antithesis of my former training and work. I never considered anything like this before....

I've also been thinking about voice acting (You may have heard me on WNBC AM in the days of Don Imus and Howard Stern (yes, I knew them, but not well)) and have considered working and/or volunteering with animals for some time.

I'm an aspiring author (to which my profile attests!) and have had a few things published. I'm now getting back into writing again, both fiction and nonfiction.

I've also done photography as a sideline and a hobby, on and off, for many years.

During college, I worked as a construction carpenter. I've been trained as a furniture and cabinet maker, was a professional violin maker, taught chess in the public schools and became an EMT, but have only done this a volunteer. In short, I've worked with my hands and my mind and done well with both.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
... writing excessively long profiles! :-)

I can build and fix almost anything from computers to cars, electronics to steam engines and much more.

I'm also a good substitute for an encyclopedia and can hold a conversation on virtually anything. I'm just as happy discussing the ridiculous as the profound.

I'm good at teaching, both formally and informally, without being at all condescending or acting like a know-it-all.

I'm good at Trivial Pursuit, Monopoly, Backgammon and Chess (I teach chess, among other things). I suck at Scrabble, but would be happy to lose to you. (I've been playing a lot of Words with Friends lately and should now be better at Scrabble!)

I'm really, really good at remembering to put the seat down and, with some hesitation, will ask for directions.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
... are my colossal hands. :-)

Also, I look about as tall as I listed my height as here - I really am about 5' 8" (5' 7.5", to be more exact). Unlike most men, I didn't use a special "dating site" ruler that adds a few inches. (Men also use a ruler like this to measure something else.... :-) )

To be serious, according to OKC* and others, the majority of men "exaggerate" their height on dating sites by about two inches. They then show up on a date and hope you somehow won't notice! If you're 5' 6" (as was my last girlfriend) or less and wearing at least somewhat "sensible" shoes, I will almost certainly be taller than you, if not by much.

You'll probably also notice that my eyes are dark blue, not brown like they look in most of my pictures (I'm not sure why this is) and I have a bit of gray hair and some skin blemishes that don't show up well in photographs.

Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
If you're having trouble sleeping, the following may be helpful.

Books: In general, I read a lot. I read boring stuff like textbooks, general nonfiction and 'how to' books. I also read more exciting things like speculative fiction, adventures, mysteries and computer manuals (what fun! :-) ).

I've read many of the classics (if only the "Reader's Digest" version, such as A Tale of a City, The Two Musketeers, Romeo, Sixth Night, Of Mice, The Grape of Wrath, etc.) and some of the more popular titles.

I've now read all 40 Discworld books by Terry Pratchett. They are great fun! I've read them while waiting for someone to write or respond to me here.... :-) The turtle moves!

The last book I read was on memory improvement. I don't recall the title.

Movies: (Some favorites) The African Queen, Star Wars, Raiders of the Lost Ark, The Ghost and Mrs. Muir, The Sting, Willy Wonka and the Chocolate Factory, The Addams Family, Time Bandits, The Goonies, The Gods Must be Crazy, March of the Wooden Soldiers and anything by Mel Brooks (Yes, a strange mix).*

Music: That I was a musical instrument maker should indicate music is important to me. There's something I like in almost every genre and my CD collection will intrigue almost anyone. I tend to keep Classical on in the background when I'm not really listening. If it ain't baroque.... On the other side of this, I have a custom "kilowatt class" car stereo that's the envy of the neighborhood kids.

I can play the guitar and violin and can produce something resembling music with a harmonica, recorder and tin whistle.

"It doesn't matter what I say, so long as I sing with inflection...."

Food: Yes! I am not at all fussy and will try almost anything. I don't care for bland, low everything stuff. Italian, Mexican, Chinese and sushi are favorites.

I can cook a few things rather well (my chili has had good reviews) and I like to make bread (especially sourdough).


*I'd include The Wizard of Oz, but I'm trying to meet women, not men! :-)


"Imagination is more important than knowledge." - Albert Einstein

"I remember when a quarter used to cost a nickel." - S.B. Squarepants

"Our prime purpose in this life is to help others. And if you can't help them, at least don't hurt them." - The 14th Dalai Lama
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
* Hope
* Laughter
* Something to read
* A project to work on
* A caffeinated beverage
* Optimism (required to use this site! :-) )
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
That just like Wile E. Coyote, I scored "Super Genius" on my IQ test here! I've never felt so honored! Off to the ACME store.... :-)

Why I made my profile so long when I know short, generic profiles are proven to be the most successful. (This is really true. Short profiles that say little of meaning get the most dates. This says much about about people and dating.)

If anyone really eats some of the stuff I see in the "exotic food" section at the supermarket. I'm not at all fussy, but really....

Why women who write or respond to me rarely click "like," while those who do rarely write or respond if I write. It seems to work backwards. Still, I'm encouraged to write if "liked" and discouraged if not "liked" in return. (Yes, this is a hint.)

Why so, so many people think "alot" is a real word.

If anyone has ever read my entire profile.* :-)

Why I spend a lot of time thinking about any of the above!


*28, as of August 2015, said they have. Thanks!
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
... updating my already long-winded profile and trying to figure out how to include more stuff AND make it shorter. No luck so far.... :-)
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I'll give three:

That like any "real man," I still watch cartoons on occasion and am overly fond of my Jeep Cherokee.

I like to go for walks in and take tours of historic, interesting or beautifully maintained cemeteries. (I can even give an informal tour of Kensico in Valhalla. There are many famous people there, incredible monuments, Tiffany stained glass and more.)

I've spent more time fixing my snow blower than I've ever saved by using it, but I don't care - I hate shoveling. (I would, however, like to find someone just crazy enough to build a snowman with me.)
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
This should be fun! Not communicating is not fun and makes all this a complete waste of time.

If you're a kind, basically happy person who knows what empathy is from personal experience, not just the definition of the word, I'd love to hear from you!

If you're a fan of Terry Pratchett, just start writing! :-) The turtle moves!

Update: As of July 2015, I'm involved with defending myself from what's basically fraud (them not paying me and even trying extortion). Although I still have time, I have little spare money and not so much energy. I'm still happy to write and talk, but meeting may be difficult for a while (unless you're very close by and/or don't mind dating someone on a microscopic budget :-) ).

As of August, it looks like the end is near! Hopefully, my nemesis will soon be out of my life. I'm still not writing to anyone first, but I always respond.