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35 Spokane, WA Man


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  • Ages 30–42
  • Near me
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My details

Last online
Sep 2
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism, and very serious about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Doesn’t want kids
Likes dogs
English (Fluently), Ancient Greek (Poorly)
My self-summary
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I think... I've gone about this the wrong way. I've used this space to say who I am, and maybe I should be trying to *show* who I am by telling what I like to do for fun.

In declining order of importance:
1.) Talk: I live for discussing, researching and learning, and testing my understandings of the world. You must enjoy discussing alternatives, but it is a big plus if you like arguing civilly (or with artistic sarcasm).
2.) Reading--I prefer non-fiction (so that I'm always learning something), but I respect art (and we can discuss that). This one is also a requirement.
3.) Wit, sarcasm, a sense of humor, and general cleverness. This one is a requirement, too. If you can insult me and make me laugh at your cleverness, we're gonna get along great.
4.) Games of most all kinds: board, video, cards. About the only game I don't like is a word game. Now that I think about it, I do NOT play D&D, either.
5.) Travel by land: I'm looking for someone to share my adventures with. I hope you are looking for that, too.
6.) The outdoors? I love them if there are no insects. (I don't kill insects, so I need to stay away from them).

*Now* let's look at who I am:

I am an academic studying rhetoric, the "art of character" (or, at least, persuasion). I am here in Spokane to write parts of two books and I am teaching a few classes as a college adjunct. I am most interested in theories about how drama and evidence work. I am cynical and sarcastic, I'm not subtle, and I have a sharp wit, but it might be turning cheesier as I age.

If you are looking for a challenge, here I am. I am not laid back. Why would anyone want to live that way? I love new experiences and new ideas, but my blunt orientation can make it difficult for new people to get to know me. I most admire passion in others because passionate people seem to have the most to share. I love travel, and I love the outdoors (but don't get to venture out there that often).

VERY IMPORTANT: I love arguing: that means that I love the free exchange of ideas, especially as warranted claims, especially when they clash with each other, especially as a devil's advocate. I think the match questions sometimes make me appear rude when I say I like to argue. When people do not want to argue with me, I listen and stop.

I am philosophical, argumentative, and snarky.
What I’m doing with my life
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Getting as many degrees as possible, accumulating all the knowledge I can, and writing as an upsetting contrarian. I see injustice tearing through the human condition, and I want to fight all of it, all at once.

I am a teacher--and damn good at it--but I'm in the academy for the research and writing. Students are fun, and their enthusiasm is a necessity for me, but my life's ambition is to start an argument for the ages (that's the "holy grail," anyway).

In the future, I hope to be living in a metropolitan area with walking access to arts and entertainment as well as employment at a college or university; I love nature as much as a city's culture, so I'd like a city with some proximity to mountains. But all of that is long-term thinking.

POLITICS: I am an aggressive left-winger (but not pro-violence in most cases). The Democrats are often too conservative for me. That said, I mostly approve of Obama's job performance: I expected him to be as conservative as he is, I expected digging us out of Bush's hole would be tough, and I should have expected conservatives to block his attempts to help anyone (I guess I wasn't cynical enough).

RELIGION: I am an atheist, but I've lost interest in arguing about it. I'm sure that sounds strange--but the arguments never change, no one is ever persuaded, that game just isn't fun anymore.

FAMILY-ISH STUFF: I oppose the institution of marriage (but think marital rights must be given equally--so gay marriage is a must). I (probably) don't want (young) children. I think I'm looking for a partner-in-crime type, not a family. As I get older, I understand that I need to be more open to this.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Making conversation; speech is my first love. I'm an arguer: I want to dig into the reasons for something. Good interpretations are games for me.

Making ice cream; I prefer only to make flavors no one could buy at any local vendor. But I'd really like to learn the recipe for B&R's "theater popcorn."

Learning: I have degrees in rhetoric, politics, gender studies, and philosophy, and I am close to another in ancient Greek classicism. I hope to continue expanding into other fields of knowledge, including some practical ones (electrical engineering, architecture).

Teaching: I find that trying to help others learn is a great way to deepen one's own learning, so I throw myself into instruction. The collective ideas and experience of a class of students will always go beyond even the wisest professor.
The first things people usually notice about me
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My hearing is terrible. I often must ask people to repeat themselves.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
Books: non-fiction (I prefer whatever knowledge I can put to immediate use) and Gore Vidal. I am especially interested in the work of Foucault, Heidegger, and Arendt.

Film: a mix of the thoughtful and the popcorny. "The Usual Suspects" is an excellent example of the kind of balance I prefer: clever and fun.

TV: I loved "You're the Worst"--if you see that relationship and think "I want something like that!" then you and I will get along nicely.

Music: not Country, and not "Christian." Lots of newer Folk, lots of older Alternative, anything Butch Vig was behind. Classic Rock isn't bad either.

Food: Italian!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
1. Laconic humor
2. Argumentative friends and impact turns
3. A good library
4. My hat
5. Internet commentary
6. Michel Foucault

My experience with this section is that people take it too seriously. Any given question is an opportunity to show off your character. So what do you show when you answer the question literally? Not bad character, not necessarily... But doesn't it let an opportunity pass you by?
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Politics, aesthetics, meaning, and rhetoric. Usually all at the same time.

Teaching and writing are my career, so I think a lot about style. I'd really like to learn more about changing the voice of my writing, how to adapt that voice in different ways.

After growing up as a stoic left-brainer, I've drifted toward criticism of reason in favor of emotional, intuitive, aesthetic, and spontaneous orientations. I still have a reason-argumentative worldview, but I increasingly see reason as merely the order imposed on chaos and not just occasional rationalizing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Thinking the same thing Brain is thinking.

Or I'm out with friends (but not at bars--they are too loud for me to hear), playing a boardgame (Trivial Pursuit or Axis & Allies, not Risk) or a video game (Mass Effect, not WOW), or just loafing at home reading. I also like to travel, but only by land. Trains are wonderful.

I might also be spectating at a debate tournament--if you aren't into debate, don't be surprised if I ask you to give it a look.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I love to travel, but I am terrified of flight.
You should message me if
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*You can have a deep conversation,
*but still show wit, show character, and have fun.
*Or if you want to have a brutal argument--I live for those.
*I expect you to be a challenging person, to keep me on my toes in thought, in games, in art, and to appreciate my reciprocation. You don't have to be aggressively coming at me all of the time--but you do have to be capable of it any time.

ALSO: Feminists only. Supporters of queer rights only. If you don't already understand the idea of basic fairness, I don't see that I will be able to get through to you. If you think racism is dead, I'm willing to argue with you about it, but I almost certainly won't respect you.

*like Ayn Rand (but I'll get over it if you went through that "stage" for a few months),
*sympathize with the "Republican" Party,
*think critics of critics are suppressing freedom of speech (they aren't: smart people call this "debating").