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34 M Spokane, WA

My Details

Last Online
Apr 8
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Body Type
Atheism, and laughing about it
Graduated from Ph.D program
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Doesn’t want kids
English (Fluently), Ancient Greek (Poorly)

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My self-summary
PLEASE NOTE: At the moment, I'm just looking for good friends. I'm not opposed to more later on, but right now I'm on a hiatus from dating.

I am an academic studying rhetoric, the "art of character" (or, at least, persuasion). I am most interested in theories about how drama and evidence work. I am cynical and sarcastic, I'm not subtle, and I have a sharp wit, but it might be turning cheesier as I age.

I love new experiences and new ideas, but my blunt orientation can make it difficult for new people to get to know me. I most admire passion in others because passionate people seem to have the most to share. I love travel, and I love the outdoors (but don't get to venture out there that often).

VERY IMPORTANT: by arguing, I mean that I love the free exchange of ideas, especially as warranted claims, especially when they clash with each other, especially as a devil's advocate. I think the match questions sometimes make me appear rude when I say I like to argue. When people do not want to argue with me, I listen and stop.

I am philosophical, argumentative, and snarky.
What I’m doing with my life
Getting as many degrees as possible, accumulating all the knowledge I can, and writing as an upsetting contrarian. I see injustice tearing through the human condition, and I want to fight all of it, all at once.

I am a teacher--and damn good at it--but I'm in the academy for the research and writing. Students are fun, and their enthusiasm is a necessity for me, but my life's ambition is to start an argument for the ages (that's the "holy grail," anyway).

In the future, I hope to be living in a metropolitan area with walking access to arts and entertainment as well as employment at a college or university; I love nature as much as a city's culture, so I'd like a city with some proximity to mountains. But all of that is long-term thinking.

POLITICS: I am an aggressive left-winger (but not pro-violence in most cases). The Democrats are often too conservative for me. That said, I mostly approve of Obama's job performance: I expected him to be as conservative as he is, I expected digging us out of Bush's hole would be tough, and I should have expected conservatives to block his attempts to help anyone (I guess I wasn't cynical enough).

RELIGION: I am an atheist and I love to argue about it. But let's understand up front that I am interested in the arguments: I'm not trying to convert you and I don't want you to try to convert me.

FAMILY-ISH STUFF: I oppose the institution of marriage (but think marital rights must be given equally--so gay marriage is a must). I (probably) don't want (young) children. I think I'm looking for a partner-in-crime type, not a family.
I’m really good at
Making conversation; speech is my first love. I'm an arguer: I want to dig into the reasons for something. Good interpretations are games for me.

Making ice cream; I prefer only to make flavors no one could buy at any local vendor. But I'd really like to learn the recipe for B&R's "theater popcorn."

Learning: I have degrees in rhetoric, politics, gender studies, and philosophy, and I am close to another in ancient Greek classicism. I hope to continue expanding into other fields of knowledge, including some practical ones (electrical engineering, architecture).

Teaching: I find that trying to help others learn is a great way to deepen one's own learning, so I throw myself into instruction. The collective ideas and experience of a class of students will always go beyond even the wisest professor.
The first things people usually notice about me
My hearing is terrible. I often must ask people to repeat themselves.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Books: non-fiction (I prefer whatever knowledge I can put to immediate use) and Gore Vidal. I am especially interested in the work of Foucault, Heidegger, and Arendt.

Film: a mix of the thoughtful and the popcorny. "The Usual Suspects" is an excellent example of the kind of balance I prefer: clever and fun.

TV: I do not watch it regularly and I feel my life is better for it. I do have a soft spot for House.

Music: not Country, and not "Christian." Lots of newer Folk, lots of older Alternative, anything Butch Vig was behind. Classic Rock isn't bad either.

Food: Italian!
The six things I could never do without
1. Laconic humor
2. argumentative friends
3. impact turns
4. my hat
5. internet commentary
6. Michel Foucault
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Politics, aesthetics, meaning, and rhetoric. Usually all at the same time.

Teaching and writing are my career, so I think a lot about style. I'd really like to learn more about changing the voice of my writing, how to adapt that voice in different ways.

After growing up as a stoic left-brainer, I've drifted toward criticism of reason in favor of emotional, intuitive, aesthetic, and spontaneous orientations. I still have a reason-argumentative worldview, but I increasingly see reason as merely the order imposed on chaos and not just occasional rationalizing.
On a typical Friday night I am
Thinking the same thing Brain is thinking.

Or I'm out with friends (but not at bars--they are too loud for me to hear), playing a boardgame (Trivial Pursuit or Axis & Allies, not Risk) or video game (Mass Effect, not WOW), or just loafing at home reading. I also like to travel, but only by land. Trains are wonderful.

I might also be spectating at a debate tournament--if you aren't into debate, don't be surprised if I ask you to give it a look.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Though loving of travel, I am terrified of flight.
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 28–38
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating
You should message me if
*You can have a deep conversation,
*but still show wit, show character, and have fun.
*Or if you want to have a brutal argument--I live for those. If you are looking for a challenge, here I am.

ALSO: Feminists only. Supporters of queer rights only. If you don't already understand the idea of basic fairness, I don't see that I will be able to get through to you. If you think racism is dead, I'm willing to argue with you about it, but I almost certainly won't respect you.

*like Ayn Rand (but I'll get over it if you went through that "stage" for a few months),
*sympathize with the "Republican" Party,
*think critics of critics are suppressing freedom of speech (they aren't: smart people call this "debating").