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25 Jersey City, NJ Transmasculine, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Androgynous

Transmasculine, Genderqueer, Non-binary, Androgynous

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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 21–30
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My details

Last online
Aug 22
5′ 9″ (1.75m)
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Seeing Someone
Mostly monogamous
Has cats
English (Fluently), German (Fluently), Irish (Poorly), French (Poorly), Dutch (Poorly)
My self-summary
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rather queer, somewhere between genderqueer and trans.
What I’m doing with my life
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Internet stalking rich people. (No, seriously, that's my job.) Was in a doctoral program, decided that maybe academia wasn't the right place for me right now.

When I'm not at work, I'm probably reading, doing crosswords, trying to figure out how to do cryptic crosswords, wasting time online, wandering around Newark or New York, going to the theatre, considering learning viola, thinking about public transit, or mixing/drinking classic cocktails.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
thinking in two languages at once, crossword puzzles, running light boards for musicals, writing bylaws, mailing people I care about books and poems, and knitting while doing other things.
The first things people usually notice about me
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Either that I usually write with a fountain pen or my slight problem when it comes to expensive dress shoes.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I read a lot of nonfiction, mostly stuff you'd find in the low 300s, the 940s, and the 970s. I also enjoy fiction, particularly experimental fiction (stuff with footnotes, multiple narratives, lots of layers, et cetera) and young adult novels. There's a very large soft spot in my heart for classic German children's literature, particularly Michael Ende.

I mostly watch documentaries, but I also enjoy quirky independent comedies, Pixar movies, and foreign film.

I like witty comedies -- 30 Rock, Arrested Development, Parks and Recreation -- as well as shows about really smart people with sub par social skills (Bones, House). I have a secret addiction to invasive TLC reality shows about other people's lives. Joss Whedon is a genius. When I'm in Germany, I watch Tatort on Sunday evenings like it's a religious obligation. I'm a fan of Doctor Who -- the classic and new series.

I listen to a lot of folk, folk-rock, and independent women's music. If I'm not listening to one of those things, I'm probably listening to baroque or classical music. I like singing along to Mozart operas and Händel's Messiah, among other works. I also really enjoy ridiculous European pop music, especially if it was a Eurovision entry.

I like food in general. Particularly Mexican, Italian, Greek, and middle-eastern food. And tasty baked goods. The best bagel I have ever eaten was from a small bakery in the Jewish Quarter in Paris. It had sesame seeds on it.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- my glasses
- academic discourse and analysis
- pajama pants with weird prints
- public transit
- folk music
- fresh vegetables
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
grammar, cultural misappropriation, oppression and liberation, history, cricket, knitting, mix CDs, saving the world, and Ani DiFranco.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
rewriting terrible pop songs to be about sociologists. The most recent was Rebecca Black's "Friday" rewritten about Erving Goffman.

Actually, this is the only one thus far. But I'm plotting a series.

Realistically, though, I'm probably reading, getting frustrated with Irish orthography, playing random songs on my ukulele, or hanging out with friends.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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I could never date someone with bad handwriting.
You should message me if
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- you have suggestions for my sociologist-themed pop music project,
- you want to talk about theory,
- you're looking for a cycling buddy,
- you want to talk about good books,
- you have music, movie, or tv recommendations,
- you want to watch cricket,
- you want to play D&D or other tabletop games with me,
- i can pet your cats (this is not a euphemism),
- you saw two shooting stars last night, so you wished on them -- but they were only satellites.

Oder falls du Lust hast, mit mir deutsch zu reden!