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47 New York, NY Man


I’m looking for

  • Men
  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex

My Details

Last Online
Yesterday – 11:21pm
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, and somewhat serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
For me, technology is a 19th century experience (riding the train, using the phone, playing vinyl records on a turntable), so going online for dating is a shock like discovering the world is NOT flat. I'd much prefer cards of introduction. Anyway here goes, a list of nouns, adjectives and verbs which give an impression of me: intelligent, queer, Wonder Women, cute, 80's music, Roland Barthes, museums, banter, paintings by Marsden Hartley, photos by George Platt Lynes and Diane Arbus, family, sailors, trashy TV, holding hands, Maker's Mark, tchotchkes, collecting, Emile Zola, silly, flea markets, witty, AB FAB (old but still brilliant), east village, creative, artifice (not artificial), showing affection, Green Irish Tweed, The Golden Girls (I'm a Blanche-Dorothy hybrid), big black shoes, sometimes difficult, your sexy calves (male not bovine), shy, taking a nap, parentheses, giving a boy flowers, sex with someone who turns me on physically as well as mentally and emotionally, a cup of coffee at 3:30pm...boys who are not afraid of love and commitment and like a bear without all the silly "bear stuff'.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
I used to be a part-time Mary Poppins for my goddaughter which was the best 3 1/2 years of my life. I still see her every week. I have an antique personal shopping service where I source antiques to buy and sell. And I work for an antiques appraiser as a research assistant while I am studying at NYU to become a certified antique appraiser specializing in silver and ceramics and possibly continental furniture. I also have a blog where I write about art, film, photography, desire, nostalgia, antiques...but I have not been able to devote as much time to it lately as I would like. If you want to know what makes me tick, read my blog or check out my blog "Antique Desire" on my business
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Learning and research, laughing, design, style, seriously good at kissing, entertaining (I set a mean, fabulous and beautiful table) and since I'm overeducated lots of interesting but archaic facts about random things...Chinese Export porcelain or French late 18th century furniture anyone?
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My eyes, my sense of humor, my witty banter
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Music: Scissors Sisters, The Gossip, The Smiths, New Order, Stevie Nicks, Miss Grace Jones, The Killers, Pet Shop Boys, Mx Justin V. Bond, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Franz Ferdinand, Massive Attack, Portishead, Cocteau Twins, The Psychedelic Furs, lately: Robyn, John Grant, Chvrches, Junior Boys, Hot Chip, Matt & Kim...
Books: Barthes' Camera Lucida, Huysmans' Against the Grain, Zola's Au Bonheur des Dames, Ishiguro's The Remains of the Day, books on 18th and 19th century silver, porcelain and pottery and Georgian furniture
Movies: Far from Heaven, Safe, Blade Runner, Household Saints, Willy Wonka (Gene Wilder) Blue, The Omega Man, epics like Cleopatra and Ben-Hur, Touch of Evil, The Lion in Winter, Requiem for a Dream, Brief Encounter, The Birds
TV: Cash in the Attic, Mad Men, The Comeback, The Closer, trashy TV, home shopping, The Golden Girls, I Love Lucy, Battlestar Galactica, Keeping Up Appearances, recently- Hannibal, Girls, Looking, Elementary, Gotham, How to Get Away with Murder, The Leftovers and yes the Real Housewives though I am slowly losing patience with the whole enterprise.
Food: Indian, Italian, Chinese
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
my friends & family especially my goddaughter
antiques especially antique silver
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
The future and the past. I can be terribly nostalgic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Usually hanging out after a long week, but also like to meet friends for a drink or dinner or a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have a past and I can be nostalgic...and I'm a bear though I don't go in for all that bear culture stuff; I never like to be part of the herd.
You should message me if
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If you are a good guy who is cute, sexy, smart, and is ultimately looking for the long haul. You have unpacked your baggage, catalogued it, discarded some items, refurbished others and ended up with a smaller bag then when you started. I'm still working on mine as well; but just being aware of one's luggage and striving for a smaller bag are the important things.

Also, you don't need to impress me with what you do, who you know or what you wear (well a jumpsuit would be a stretch), just hold my attention with your intelligence, honesty, compassion and sexuality.

Also message me if you enjoy witty banter...