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46 M New York, NY

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
6′ 3″ (1.91m)
Body Type
Agnosticism, but not too serious about it
Leo, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from masters program
Art / Music / Writing
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Likes dogs and dislikes cats
English (Fluently), French (Okay)

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My self-summary
For me, technology is a 19th century experience (riding the train, using the phone, playing vinyl records on a turntable), so going online for dating is a shock like discovering the world is NOT flat. I'd much prefer cards of introduction. Anyway here goes, a list of nouns, adjectives and verbs which give an impression of me: intelligent, queer, Wonder Women, cute, 80's music, Roland Barthes, museums, banter, paintings by Marsden Hartley, photos by George Platt Lynes and Diane Arbus, family, sailors, trashy TV, holding hands, Maker's Mark, tchotchkes, collecting, Emile Zola, silly, flea markets, witty, AB FAB (old but still brilliant), east village, creative, artifice (not artificial), showing affection, Green Irish Tweed, The Golden Girls (I'm a Blanche-Dorothy hybrid), big black shoes, sometimes difficult, your sexy calves (male not bovine), shy, taking a nap, parentheses, giving a boy flowers, sex with someone who turns me on physically as well as mentally and emotionally, a cup of coffee at 3:30pm...boys who are not afraid of love and commitment and like a bear without all the silly "bear stuff'.
What I’m doing with my life
I used to be a part-time Mary Poppins for my goddaughter which was the best 3 1/2 years of my life. I still see her every week. I have an antique personal shopping service where I source antiques to buy and sell. And I work for an antiques appraiser as a research assistant while I am studying at NYU to become a certified antique appraiser specializing in silver and ceramics and possibly continental furniture. I also have a blog where I write about art, film, photography, desire, nostalgia, antiques...but I have not been able to devote as much time to it lately as I would like. If you want to know what makes me tick, read my blog or check out my blog "Antique Desire" on my business website
I’m really good at
Learning and research, laughing, design, style, seriously good at kissing, entertaining (I set a mean, fabulous and beautiful table) and since I'm overeducated lots of interesting but archaic facts about random things...Chinese Export porcelain anyone?
The first things people usually notice about me
My eyes, my sense of humor, my witty banter
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Music: Scissors Sisters, The Gossip, The Smiths, New Order, Stevie Nicks, Miss Grace Jones, The Killers, Pet Shop Boys, Mx Justin V. Bond, Siouxsie and the Banshees, Franz Ferdinand, Massive Attack, Portishead, Cocteau Twins, The Psychedelic Furs..,
Books: Barthes' Camera Lucida, Huysmans' Against the Grain, Zola's Au Bonheur des Dames, Ishiguro's The Remains of the Day, books on 18th and 19th century silver, porcelain and pottery and Georgian furniture
Movies: Far from Heaven, Safe, Blade Runner, Household Saints, Blue, The Omega Man, epics like Cleopatra and Ben-Hur, Touch of Evil, The Lion in Winter, Requiem for a Dream, Brief Encounter, The Birds
TV: Cash in the Attic, Mad Men, The Comeback (sadly gone), The Closer, trashy TV, home shopping, The Golden Girls, I Love Lucy, Battlestar Galactica, Keeping Up Appearances, recently- Hannibal, Girls, Looking and Elementary and yes the Real Housewives though I am slowly losing patience with the whole enterprise.
Food: Indian, Italian, Chinese
The six things I could never do without
my friends & family especially my goddaughter
antiques especially antique silver
I spend a lot of time thinking about
The future and the past. I can be terribly nostalgic.
On a typical Friday night I am
Usually hanging out exhausted from a long week, but also like to meet friends for a drink or dinner or a movie.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I have a past and I can be nostalgic...and I'm a bear though I don't go in for all that bear culture stuff; I never like to be part of the herd.
I’m looking for
  • Gay guys only
  • Ages 30–50
  • Located anywhere
  • Who are single
  • For new friends, long-term dating, casual sex
You should message me if
If you are a good guy who is cute, sexy, smart, and is ultimately looking for the long haul. You have unpacked your baggage, catalogued it, discarded some items, refurbished others and ended up with a smaller bag then when you started. I'm still working on mine as well; but just being aware of one's luggage and striving for a smaller bag are the important things.

Also, you don't need to impress me with what you do, who you know or what you wear (well a jumpsuit would be a stretch), just hold my attention with your intelligence, honesty, compassion and sexuality.

Also message me if you enjoy witty banter...