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nb74

40 M Ottawa, Ontario, CA

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 18–50
  • Near me
  • For new friends

My Details

Last Online
Oct 29
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Average
Diet
Strictly anything
Smokes
Sometimes
Drinks
Often
Drugs
Sometimes
Religion
Other, and laughing about it
Sign
Libra, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Graduated from university
Job
Politics / Government
Income
$70,000–$80,000
Relationship Status
Seeing Someone
Relationship Type
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English (Fluently), French (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
I may not be made of awesome, but I have awesomeness implants.

UPDATE!!! I have a small, amazing baby-person with my girlfriend/wife, so I'm in "friends-only" turf until further notice.

To be honest, I don't take this or any other dating forum seriously, so let's keep our expectations low and spirits silly, shall we?

I am a fairly well-rounded individual. I love cooking, skiing, philosophy, literature, politics. I take pride in treating women with respect and compassion, while not being spineless (or prudish); I enjoy a spirited discussion of gender issues and sexual issues; that I enjoy these sorts of discussions isn't a focal point of my personality. I consider myself a Renaissance man of sorts in that I can take an interest in just about anything without defining myself by it. I also can shake my arse pretty well.

Fervently anti-racist. Trying to become anti-anything-ist, really. Everyone has a right to be respected, as long as they don't do anything to lose it. That being said, I haven't had a whole lot of exposure to all the different life choices/styles/gender IDs/etc., so bear with me if I come across as an ignorant a-hole sometimes and any knowledge you can pass on would be super at helping to fix that!

Basically, I hate haters. If you get your jollies from pointing and laughing at people, move along. Lord knows we all get the urge to facepalm because of people sometimes, but not to the point of it being a hobby.

I enjoy all the sensual pleasures life has to offer, especially good food and drink. But I also have some sense and take care of myself by keeping fairly active and eating well. I think I'm pretty well-balanced.

I do have a bit of a cynical side, but I generally like everyone at first. I'd summarize it as: The world is often a craphole, but the people in it are usually pretty cool (or maybe it's the reverse). I'm a bit of softie, but I'll never act like it.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
NEW DAD!!!!!

Working for the feds in media monitoring (went from reading the news once in a while to constantly), developing an expertise in co-habitation and seeing where life takes me. Taking time to hit the slopes in winter, the bike path in summer, and going for walks (I tend to walk or bike everywhere I go).

I have great friends and a favourite watering hole (cheers to the Dominion Tavern!). I also see my family fairly regularly. Pretty much my life is complete as I see it... except for that ever-elusive unicorn.

When I'm chilling on my own, I'm usually reading, playing my guitar (poorly), writing or out on my bike. Well, that or watching Food Network or playing PS3, but ignore those, they're not nearly as enticing passtimes.

I'm working my way up the career path, but not sure where to yet. At least I have my "government stooge" pension regardless...

I'm also trying to cultivate connections, knowledge, techniques, etc. for a theoretical move into operating some sort of food service business and would love to pick the brain of anyone out there whose involved in such an enterprise.

Trying to figure out where I want to take a trip in the next year, it keeps changing. Life's pretty busy and there's so much to see and do just in Ottawa and Montreal!

Wishlist destinations: Tanzania/Kenya, Chile/Peru, Lebanon, Brazil, Italy, Greece, Ireland... and many, many more! We'll see what comes along. Updated: Charlottetown in October to watch my better half run a half marathon.

I'm an organizer for the Blue Skies music festival (bonus points if you know what it is). Also volunteer at the Ottawa Fringe Festival because it's fun!

I'm thinking of taking up the trumpet. Eventually?
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
- cooking (specifically smoking meat and fish)
- skiing
- listening and conversing about interesting matters (and I have few taboos, so there isn't much I won't discuss)
- making a fool of myself
- being an uncle
- being up for anything
- trying new things that don't involve high places (i.e. no bungie jumping!)
- adapting to whatever life throws at me
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My quirky sense of humour? My shoulders? My hair? The foot that seems to be permanently wedged in my gullet? I dunno, ask them! I've been told my eyes are pretty (they're green).
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I enjoy comics, sci-fi, fantasy and wrestling. What can I say? I'm a sexy geek.

Books: Headhunter, Piano Man's Daughter - Timothy Findlay; Lamb - Christopher Moore; LOTR - Tolkien; Imajica - Clive Barker; Slaughterhouse-Five - Kurt Vonnegut; Catch-22 - Joseph Heller; Ulysses - James Joyce (just for actually having gotten through the impenetrable bastard!); World According to Garp, A Prayer For Owen Meaney - John Irving; Harry Potter series - JK Rowling; A Cook's Tour - Anthony Bourdain

Lately I've been trying to read pretty much EVERY comic book anthology the pubic library has to offer. I can't really say I have a favourite series or superhero, but I'm pretty Thanos is my favourite villain.

Movies/TV: Battlestar Galactica (remake), Star Wars, Monsters Inc. (and most Pixar stuff, but that one especially) , FUBAR, Spinal Tap, Shaun of the Dead, The Marvel movie juggernaut

Music: a few favourite bands/artists (not just for their music, but also for their presence): Motorhead, Fishbone, Ramones, Tragically Hip, Mastodon, Anthrax, Fiftymen, Prince, Underworld - there are many others.

Food: EVERYTHING! Particularily fond of seafood, Thai and Mediterranean cuisines. I am something of a beer connaisseur, but my palette for wine is developing as well.

As for cooking, I have a few specialities. I make a mean chicken burrito. I can gourmet up pork with a maple-cognac sauce I invented. And I make my own spice blends and Thai curry pastes (when I'm not feeling lazy). I smoke a mean rack of ribs and smoked tilapia is a personal fave! Probably my greatest feat is my vanilla-cured home-smoked bacon. I've also managed to almost nail Montreal-style smoked meat *insert chuffed expression here*.

I also write a cooking blog at www.dudecook.blogspot.com (yes, my self-promotion is shameless, but I figure plugging something in which I take pride isn't too horrible, right?).
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
- a bicycle
- books
- heavy metal
- skiing
- friends
- beer (Tankhouse Ale? Damn straight!)

Bonus: space for outdoor cooking

Six things I could totally do without:

- tight pants on men
- possessiveness towards people
- UFC/MMA (I like my violence fake, hence wrestling)
- conservatism (although some traditions are ennobling)
- shallowness (the adage "fake it till you make it" fills me with rage)
- Nickelback
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Everything! Notably, the nature of the universe, metaphysics, interpersonal relations (especially intergender), travelling, how the people I care for are doing. I also spend a lot of time trying to organize plots for books that I will (maybe) eventually write and wishing I lived in Memphis.

Why nobody wants to "keep it real" anymore. I sometimes miss the 90s... sigh... I've been having real trouble figuring out if people's causes are genuine or for appearances. It sucks, but it's true.

Why so few people have wised up to the fact that it isn't how they look or dress that makes them "edgy" or part of the "sub-culture", it's how they think. Freakdom is all in the mind! Which is, I guess, why I can hang out with burnouts, burlesque girls and crust punks while still appearing like a nice boy you could take home to Mom.

Why I'm not smart enough to come up with a viable political-economic alternative to capitalist democracy.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Either at home hoping my daughter's asleep, out with friends or working.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I still cry at sappy stuff.

I like Coldplay. Yup, I said it; I have an occasional weakness for cheesy anthemic pop/rock. And yet, I'm Metal to the core. Walking contradiction? I guess...

I don't have a 'side' in the Star Wars vs. Star Trek debate.

I hate getting my hair cut, which is the only reason it's ever shaggy or long.

I have a distinctly kinky side, but I don't "live it out loud".

The ubiquity of tattoos annoys me, but I still think they're hot. But the more I see, the less hot they are. UPDATE: Now that I have one of my own, I am all the more baffled at the sheer volume of tattooed skin out there. That stuff hurts!!!
You should message me if
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you want to kill time chatting on email (and not IM)... I'm looking for email convos, occasional friendly hangouts and the like.

you value substance over style and would rather have fun than look good.

you value honesty and like to avoid drama (and are good at helping others avoid it too).

you're fairly secure in who you are and not trying to gain others' approval. If you ever seriously call yourself a "hot mess", maybe you need to examine that before trying to find love, because I find a lot of people have chosen to accept that they're completely effed up instead of fighting to be well-balanced. This is something I can't respect.

you realize 37, 45 or 23 are often just numbers (in relation to age)

you've been to Burning Man, because apparently I match up best with Burners. I've only been twice, though and will likely not be going back until they fix their ticket issues and my daughter's old enough to handle it.

you can live without getting your way. Not because anyone else is going to get it at your expense, but because you have the maturity to know that it's simply a fact of life to not always get what you want.

you want a friend who's a boy.

I'm always up for making new friends, even virtual ones. I assure you that just because I'm polyamorous in spirit, I am not seeking to get into your pants. Right now, that's simply not going to happen because I'm not going to betray the woman I love, and she isn't ready for me to play outside the house.