I'm independent, but still appreciate when a door is held open for me. I say please and thank you to all waitstaff, and usually clear the table before they get to it.
I try to only focus on the details that matter, like doing what I say I'm going to do, making sure I'm a kind person, saying what I mean and not necessarily what I think, and staying in touch with people when the weather is shitty. Details that don't matter to me are making sure the floor is swept and the rug is straight, arguments over who is right or wrong, perfect hair or clothes, or keeping up with anyone else.
I am just about as straightforward as they get. You will always know where you stand with me. If you ask me a question I will always either tell the truth or say it's too personal. Even small lies keep me up at night.