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I’m looking for

  • Women
  • Ages 32–60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating

My details

Last online
Jul 27
5′ 11″ (1.80m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Agnosticism, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from space camp
Rather not say
Mostly non-monogamous
Has a kid, and might want more
Has dogs and has cats
English (Fluently), German (Poorly)
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
Oh no, I know a dirty word: Hello, hello, hello...
I hate repetition. I'll say it again; I hate hate hate repetition.
Bay Area native, born in Burlingame, grew up in a small town in cow country; my grandparents lived in Millbrae, so we came down here often. I admire the people who packed up everything and drove to SF from Maine sight unseen; for me it was an hour's drive.
I love to read, as the book section attests. I like to build things, and have a hobby that involves making things out of paper. I do origami. I like to watch, and on occasion perform karaoke. I live in a part of San Francisco you've probably never heard of.
When I was younger, I was flying to Frankfurt and got diverted to Munich; I don't sleep on planes, so I was so exhausted, I fell asleep in a train station pay toilet propped up against my backpack.
My ideal gift is a shrubbery; Promise not to say "nee!".
Geek, please; a nerd or dork not am I...
I hate repetition. I'll say it again; I hate hate hate repetition. Wait...
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
NOT living it! Really; I've completely stopped doing anything, arrested entropy. Now I am eternal!
Taking care of my daughter.
I have a huge "to read" stack that keeps me busy, and a strange hobby that I won't try to explain here.
I've also have an interesting volunteer position as a mechanic/teacher at the San Francisco Bike Kitchen. Nice all-volunteer non-profit. I've been a mechanic in the past, and using my knowledge to help people learn to fix their bike is rewarding.
Update: I am now an ahn-tra-pin-noor, I guess... I own a bike shop. Guess I'm legit again...
All this has really reawakened my love of bikes as artworks, and I feel I would be happy making a living at this, so I enrolled at CCSF to retake a welding class to brush up, and started looking into what framebuilders are in the area. After learning for a while, I see this leading to my own business.
I'd also like to do something with motorcycles; they make me happy.
I also make videos on how to meet people
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Being very modest; I won a contest once.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
That I be smart and spell reel gud. Sorry. Its just so hard not to give smart-ass answers to some of these questions. Here, I'll try again: My freakish third nipple. Doh!
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Procrastination, Why You Do It, What to Do About It. Jane
B. Burke PhD and Lenora M. Yuen PhD. Well, actually, I haven't
read it yet. Been meaning to. I'll start it tomorrow,
I promise.
The Word For World Is Forest,Ursula K. LeGuin The way she makes you inhabit the over-the-top-macho villain's head is both enlightening and unsettling.
A Handmaid's Tale, Margaret Atwood If the GOP had it's way...
Star Maker, Olaf Stapledon; If you have ever looked up at a starry sky and wondered what it is all for, please, please, please, read this book. Bundled with it in the Dover edition is his Last And First Men, a future history of the human race, from the First Men(Us), to the Seventeenth Men, living on Neptune with both they and the planet adapted, billions of years in the future, and facing the certain destruction of mankind. Told as if a member of the 17th Men was reaching back through time to tell one of us the story.
Wicked, Gregory Maguire; The Wizard
of Oz from the Wicked Witch's perspective; if you believe
that history is written by the victors in their favor, this
is for you.
Immortality, Milan Kundera; amazing.
Snow Crash, Neal Stephenson; great Swiftian extrapolation.
Anything by Tim O'Brien
Idoru, William Gibson
Fear and Loathing In Las Vegas, Hunter S. Ok, Ok, Must stop, must stop. I like to read, can you tell? I get the shakes every time I walk in a book store. But one last quote before I quit(last great book YOU read: this profile):
"I look in the paper for a good comic strip to bring Ruth. All of them today would only hurt her feelings. Try this sometime: read the comics as though time were awfully short. You will be hard pressed to find anything funny. You will understand irony. You will put down the paper and look at the way the sun happens to be lighting the sky, and you will be thinking one word: please." Elizabeth Berg , Talk Before Sleep(About a woman whose friend is dying of cancer).
Currently reading: Black Elk Speaks, Jungian-Senoi Dreamwork Manual,Strephon Kaplan Williams.Speaker for the DeadOrson Scott Card
First edit in a LONG time: When my daughter was born, my dad sent me a copy of The Hobbit, the 50th Anniversary edition, hardbound faux gold leaf with the slip cover, inscribed "For Stella, when she is old enough, Grampa Ron". Well after years of playing with that neat gold book, she was recently old enough. It became our bedtime story, a bit of a chapter each night. She was sad when it ended, so can you imagine her excitement when I told her there were THREE more books? We just started The Two Towers, and she is giddy because it is now apparent that Gollum will be joining the story again. Her thing right now is to jump down from trees and other things onto all fours, and say in her best Smeagol voice (which is actually pretty good IMHO) "What has it got, in it's nasty little pocketses?" :) I'm so happy to be reading again, and in these circumstances...

Wings of Desire,Fight Club, Brazil, Blade Runner,Shawshank Redemption.Se7en, Usual Suspects

As for television, I did like Six Feet Under, the bits of Battlestar Galactica I've caught have been good, considering the cheesy 70's show it's based on, but if I have the time, I'd rather read, or see a movie.
On the ole iTunes playlist(Ster-e-o? What dat?): 120 Minutes,
Vol. 1&2, ACDC, Aerosmith, Aimee Mann, Aphex Twin,
Apocalyptica, Aretha, Beastie Boys, Beatles, Beck, Big
Boi, Bill Hicks, Billie Holiday, Bing, Bjork, Black Crowes,
Black Eyed Peas, Blondie, Blur, Bob Dylan, Bob Marley(Damn
iTunes; can't it recognize a last name to alphabetize?),
J.Cash, Cat Stevens, Cheap Trick, Christina Aguilera,
The Clash, Debussy, Concrete Blonde, Creedence, Crowded
House, The Cure, Cypress Hill, Danzig, Bowie, David Gray,
Dead Kennedies, Deborah Harry, Depeche Mode, (stay tuned
for more....)
PJ Harvey, Nirvana, and Tom Waits stand out as never doing wrong by me...
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Electromagnetic waves refracted by an organic crystalline lens onto my retina. Doh!
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
My purpose. Peak Oil. The Singularity, Gaia. How someone who can bump her chin on my knee can make such a big mess so quickly. Appearances vs. reality.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
With my daughter. I'm not a big fan of crowded venues, so I tend to go out on off nights and times.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I loathe hunters. And not just because they kill animals for no other reason than to stroke their ego. Because really, they're a bunch of wusses. I perused a hunting supply catalog recently, and cripes, you'd think their adversary was the creature from Alien. Infrared-triggered digital night vision cameras to track feeding patterns while in the comfort of your own home. Artificial sex hormones to attract prey. High velocity hollow points for single shot take downs. It's Bambi, for crissake. And that bear would probably only attack you if you were stupid enough to mess with her cub. You want sport? Try this: Sharpen a good sized stick. Strip down naked, go into the forest, and take on something with claws, tusks, or fangs. When the odds are 50/50, THAT'S sport. And if you win, don't just take the head and a few choice cuts. There's a reason the Native Americans hate us.

Also, I just discovered I have a form of Tourette's, triggered by idiots driving too fast in the rain and slamming into my car on the freeway. I'm told no one else curses when that happens.
You should message me if
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First and foremost: you want to go for a bike ride. I am very much looking for riding companions. I have just hit 60lbs. off my worst weight, completely from riding again, and I want to keep the momentum going through the dark times of winter.
You aren't weirded out by the third nipple thing. Doh!
Just recently I had a dialogue here that really helped gel it for me. It essentially went like this:
Me:So you know, I feel in the past I've made the mistake of latching on to one person far too soon, and this go I've decided I want to make a decision in a more balanced way. I am not a player, I just want to be sure when the time comes.
Them:I think I understand. I'm not exactly worried about relationship choices right now. I know what you are describing though, from both ends. Human connection is desired but difficult in the modern world.
Me:Yes, finding "The One" would be wonderful, but I also know I've thought I found them many times before. Perhaps a little perspective is in order? Human connection is a necessity, but often bundled with much baggage and caveats; it would be wonderful to have a shared experience(or is it to much to ask for a series?) that is not concerned with tomorrow, or ten years hence. I really want to have fun and play, be naughty without being sleazy, get away to a different reality for a short while. Too much to ask, for one of the multitude of competing men here?

I am serious about relationships, I am also open to the many forms they may take. Things I was sure about in my 20's seem laughable now; it will be interesting to look back again in 20 years...
And now I have to go change my Facebook status to "It's Complicated" BRB...