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I’m looking for

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  • Ages 29-60
  • Near me
  • For new friends, long-term dating, short-term dating, casual sex

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Last online
Today – 3:19am
Native American
Open relationship
5' 10" (1.78m)
Body Type
A little extra
Post grad
Has kid(s) and doesn’t want more
Has cats
My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
While always aware of
Horizon wary alligators
Must stay aware of those
Faithful few.
Staying focused yet aware of
Those kindling spirits near and far

Long story short, I am polyamorous. I've successfully navigated this discovery with my beautiful wife/partner (grownupgina) of 25 years. I am looking for other peeps to share my life with. Life is good!

Chris Ryan's Ted talk as well as his book are something all of us should be paying attention to:
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Have work for the last 15+ years in the field of sexual violence (mostly perpetrators). Have loved the work and my colleagues/teammates who have been just as twisted as I am. Have recently (October 2013) made a shift to higher paying gig. Continuing to work with at risk folks but no longer sexual violence.

Supporting and loving my artist, novel writing, wife. Raising my two awesome teens.

Have built things in past (guitars mostly) and am wanting to expand that experience to furniture, more guitars, and at least a boat or two (a couple dinghy's and eventually a liveaboard). Currently working on building a workbench.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Listening, observing, questioning, walking, thinking, reflecting.

For nearly 2 years have been rid of the 4 wheeled monster and commute daily to am getting better at riding bike and making personal choices to lower my carbon footprint.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
My beautiful long black hair...
If I'm wearing my kilt then they notice that first and then my beautiful long black hair...and then how thick the beautiful long black hair is...and if your a woman then how jealous you are of my beautiful long black hair...then, "can I feel your hair..."
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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Any book by:
Jo Nesbo, Clive Barker, Stephen King, Tolkien, Christopher Moore, T.Thorne Coyle, Richard Schwartz, Christopher Ryan (Sex at Dawn), Chuck P., Ripley Patton, Anne Rice, to name a few.

Currently reading:
Antonion Damasio (Looking for Spinoza) and Jonathan Raban (Coasting); I'm often reading research articles various aspects of the work that I do.

Any movie by:
Joss Whedon, Jim Jarmusch, Werner Herzog, David Lynch, Stanley Kubrich, Guillermo del Toro, Coen Brothers, Wachowski's (right on Lana!), Quenten T., Rain Wilson, Stephen Soderbergh, Spike Jones, Neil Blomkamp, Michael Mann...
Lately have really enjoyed Another Earth, Sound of My Voice, Contagion, Hesher (

Tool (, am right this moment discovering OM (
Metallica, Megadeth, Mozart, Miles Davis, David Friesen, Faith No More, Sepultura,Soulfly, Mike Patton, Peeping Tom
NIN ( Tchaikovsky, Beethoven, Bach, Anthrax, Trey Gunn, Portishead, Robert Fripp, Van Halen, Living Colour, Mendelssohn, Weather Report, Rodrigo y Gabriella, System of a Down, Fantamos, Mr Bungle, did I say Mike Patton?...,Primus,
Rammstein, Black Sabbath, Pantera, name a few.

Pizza, tiramisu, fresh fruit, chocolate, asparagus

Buildings designed by:
Frank Gehry, Zaha-Hadid, Santiago Calatrava, Frank Lloyd-Wright for starters...
Boats designed by:
Gardner, McNaughton, Benford, Kasten, Wharram,
"Jonques de Plaisance," Brewer, Hensaval, Welsford, Roberts...
and the Westsail 32 to 38 which is based on the Ingrid design (only boat that survived/thrived in the Perfect Storm...not the movie...that actual storm)
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Exploring process
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Boats, buildings, change, math (getting stuck), mystery (WTF moments), my own stupidity (I often default to preoccupied attachment style...I'm always working on it), my internal process (parts shit), that's just in the last minute or so of sitting here...
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Taking a walk...chilling with the family...
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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In answer to the query "what's under the kilt?"
A. A catered invitation only kinkfest.
B. One of those anti-aircraft gatling guns carried on warships
C. An average sized, of alright girth when erect and potentially
teeny tiny when it's cold outside...cock
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