I came with a theory a long time ago... every guy is a player its just a matter of the game. Most of the guys that women think of as players are basketball players. They try to use their moves to get down and put the ball in the hole as often as possible. Some are football... they work down the field trying to overcome agressive defense to split the uprights. One friend of mine when I told him this theory said he was a gofish player. He would find what they were collecting and be that. I am a chess player. I try to start out slow work for position and I hope to end up in mate... most people don't realize the board is set and I end up polishing a bishop waiting
Most people say they are looking for chemistry, I was never good at chemistry... besides, its better to have physics. Mutual attraction between bodies that strengthens as they draw near, friction, heat, light. Gazing at the stars and watching the planets. Physics.