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cheekily-zen

38 M Cambridge, MA

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Job
Technology
Income
Rather not say
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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Of all the compliments I have received, my favorite is that I hug like the Giving Tree.

The past few years have been exceptional, with five months working in England, exploring the hawker centers of Singapore, fire spinning in Vienna and Poland, a somber visit to the Dachau memorial site, a foggy day on the Great Wall, visiting the stunning gardens of Suzhou, camping in Yellowstone and Glacier, and a weekend at Gerald Durrell's wildlife park - he's a favorite.

Partner acrobatics and fire spinning are my current favorite hobbies, with yoga, kayaking, climbing, cooking, baking, and photography as other interests.

My tendency to feed friends, bake far too many cookies, and make soup for sick partners led to a good friend describing me as grandmotherly. I protested, so she clarified that I am also badass and brilliant - but grandmotherly nonetheless. I'm okay with this.
What I’m doing with my life
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After several years of traveling extensively, I am now focusing on building my life in Boston. I recently moved to a smaller software development company that provides me with quite a lot of creative control and plenty of interesting projects.

The November Project is a new and delightfully painful interest, and I'm treating the Harvard Stadium workout as training for Machu Picchu.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
I performed in a Boston club two years ago, and will be choreographing another piece soon. My goal was to bring grace and gentleness to a staff performance, treating the staff more like a dance partner than a martial prop.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Art of Communicating by Thich Nhat Hanh is one of my favorites. He teaches communication from the perspective of a Zen Buddhist monk, with a focus on simplicity, openness, compassion, curiosity, and tender-hearted bravery.

A few favorites: Gerald Durrell; Kurt Vonnegut; Marshal Rosenberg; The Happiness Hypothesis; Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman; Dharma Punx; Cryptonomicon; Good Omens; In Defense of Food; Cooking For Geeks; The Brief Wondrous Life of Oscar Wao; The Moth; TED Talks, 99% Invisible.

Sushi, Tapas, Ethiopian, and Malaysian are among my favorite cuisines. I tend to cook most of my meals at home, a habit that I developed during my 12 years as a vegetarian. And then there's chocolate - 100% ideally, though I will make an exception for the hot chocolate at Burdick's.

My taste in music is somewhat eclectic. I enjoy electro-swing, blues, Beats Antique, Glitch Mob, Massive Attack, Moby, Portishead, sea shanties, Mumford & Sons, Lumineers, Rodrigo y Gabriella, Tom Waits, old Radio one essential mixes, and a wide variety of other artists.

I appreciate British comedy, especially Eddie Izzard, Dylan Moran, and Mitchell & Webb. A few films and shows: Good Bye, Lenin!; Shortbus; Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog; Amelie; Up; How To Train Your Dragon; Dr Who; Firefly.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- My goals for the next few years
- What aspects of my life enhance it, and which are simply habits
- Buddhist philosophy and cognitive science
- Communication
- Where to travel next (Machu Picchu?)
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Seeing a show at the Oberon or A.R.T, at an amusingly themed party, out to a local club (of the non-bro variety), studying on Coursera or Khan Academy, visiting a museum, or off on an adventure.

This note from my doctor summarizes one such evening, and pleases me immensely:
"Mr. _____ is seen today on a walk-in basis for evaluation and treatment secondary to a scapholunate injury that he sustained in November of last year. He reports that he was repeatedly hitting zombies with a Nerf hatchet and exacerbated an existing old injury"
I’m looking for
  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating
You should message me if
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I enjoy a wide range of personalities and interests, though ultimately I am looking for someone who is ready for a serious relationship and has the right blend of the cozy and the kinetic, lightness and depth, passion and peace, a playful mind, a spark of curiosity, and a warm compassionate heart.

Are you someone who grows through travel, perks up at the idea of adventure, and finds that love is in the little moments of each day - cooking together, curled up with a book by the fireplace, sharing little moments of kindness?