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cheekily-zen

38 M Cambridge, MA

I’m looking for

  • Girls who like guys
  • Ages 30–40
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Online now!
Orientation
Straight
Ethnicity
White
Height
6′ 0″ (1.83m)
Body Type
Fit
Diet
Mostly anything
Smokes
No
Drinks
Socially
Drugs
Never
Religion
Agnosticism
Sign
Gemini, but it doesn’t matter
Education
Job
Technology
Income
$100,000–$150,000
Relationship Status
Single
Relationship Type
Monogamous
Offspring
Doesn’t have kids, but might want them
Pets
Likes dogs and has cats
Speaks
English

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My self-summary
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One of the most adorable compliments from a new friend - I was told that I hug like the Giving Tree.

The past few years have been exceptional, with five months working in England, exploring the hawker centers of Singapore, fire spinning in Vienna and Poland, a somber visit to the Dachau memorial site, a foggy day on the Great Wall, visiting the gardens of Suzhou, camping in Yellowstone and Glacier, and a weekend at Gerald Durrell's wildlife park on the Channel Island of Jersey.

Partner acrobatics and fire spinning are my current favorite hobbies, with yoga, kayaking, climbing, cooking, baking, photography, and west coast swing as other interests. The November Project is a new and delightfully painful interest, and I'm treating the Harvard Stadium workout as training for Machu Picchu.

My tendency to feed friends, bake far too many cookies, and make soup for sick partners led to a good friend describing me as grandmotherly. I protested, so she clarified that I am also badass and brilliant - but grandmotherly nonetheless.
What I’m doing with my life
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After several years of traveling extensively, with a few plot twists, I am now focusing on building my life in Boston. I recently moved to a smaller software development company that provides me with quite a lot of creative control and plenty of interesting projects.

My goal is to live with kindness, learn to open instead of close in response to adversity, and to simply be present with this experience. To find that balance between tranquility and vitality, contentment without complacency, and to find wisdom while still embracing curiosity and silliness.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Fire spinning has been a passion for the last five years, and I performed in a Boston club two years ago. My goal was to bring grace and gentleness to a staff performance, treating the staff more like a dance partner than a martial prop.

Amusingly, most within the local circus community know me as Cookie. I enjoy baking, and particularly like baking for friends with food sensitivities - they're the ones who deserve a cookie the most. My favorite creation is the pumpkin habanero paincake - which came about thanks to a fortuitous typo by a friend's student.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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The Art of Communicating by Thich Nhat Hanh is one of my favorites. He teaches communication from the perspective of a Zen Buddhist monk, with a focus on simplicity, openness, curiosity, and tender-hearted bravery.

A few favorites: Gerald Durrell; Kurt Vonnegut; Marshal Rosenberg; The Happiness Hypothesis; Surely You're Joking, Mr. Feynman; Dharma Punx; Cryptonomicon; Good Omens; In Defense of Food; Cooking For Geeks; The Moth; TED Talks, 99% Invisible.

Sushi, Tapas, Ethiopian, and Malaysian are among my favorite cuisines. I tend to cook most of my meals at home, a habit that I developed during my 12 years as a vegetarian. I appreciate craft beers (brewed for two years), nice scotches, cold brew coffee, and I have an unreasonable number of teas, along with a yixing tea set just for my pu-erh. And then there's chocolate - 100% ideally, though I will make an exception for the hot chocolate at Burdick's.

My taste in music is somewhat eclectic. I enjoy electro-swing, blues, Beats Antique, Glitch Mob, Massive Attack, Moby, Portishead, EDM, industrial, post-punk, sea shanties, Mumford & Sons, Lumineers, Rodrigo y Gabriella, Tom Waits, old Radio one essential mixes, and a wide variety of other artists.

I appreciate British comedy, especially Eddie Izzard, Dylan Moran, and Mitchell & Webb. A few films and shows: Good Bye, Lenin!; Shortbus; Dr. Horrible's Sing-Along Blog; Amelie; Up; How To Train Your Dragon; Dr Who; Firefly.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
- My goals for the next few years
- What aspects of my life enhance it, and which are simply habits
- Buddhist philosophy and cognitive science
- Where to travel next (Berlin? Machu Picchu?)
- Kindness by Naomi Shihab Nye

On the way home one night I came across an older man sitting in the sidewalk, asking for help getting up, and for someone to call 911. Everyone just walked past him, which isn't something I could understand. I stopped to help him, and kept him company until an officer arrived to bring him back to the shelter.

Born in Ethiopia, moved here in '83, lost his brother in a war, lost his job, lost his apartment, hit by a car, now living in a shelter and drinking a bit much. Joseph's summary - sometimes life is good, sometimes it isn't. All he wanted that night was to be seen as a person, and to get home. I'm glad that I was there, and can think of no better use of my 15 minutes.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
I live a vibrant and rich life, enjoying a fairly wide range of communities and activities. I might be seeing a show at the Oberon or the Loeb, at an amusingly themed party, out to a local club (of the non-bro variety), taking a circus class at Esh, studying on Coursera or Khan Academy, visiting a museum, or off on an adventure.
You should message me if
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I enjoy a wide range of personalities and interests, though ultimately I am looking for someone who is ready for a serious relationship and has the right blend of the cozy and the kinetic, lightness and depth, passion and peace, a playful mind, a spark of curiosity, and a warm compassionate heart.

Are you someone who grows through travel, perks up at the idea of adventure, and finds that love is in the little moments of each day - cooking together, curled up with a book by the fireplace, sharing little moments of kindness?