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54 M Portland, OR

I’m looking for

  • Women who like men
  • Ages 40–52
  • Near me
  • Who are single
  • For long-term dating

My Details

Last Online
Today – 12:11pm
5′ 7″ (1.70m)
Body Type
Mostly anything
Not at all
Christianity, and laughing about it
Scorpio, and it’s fun to think about
Graduated from law school
Relationship Status
Relationship Type
Strictly monogamous
Has a kid, but doesn’t want more
English (Fluently)

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My self-summary
Write a little about yourself. Just a paragraph will do.
This is not a sales brochure, it’s more like a limited warranty.

In mid-2012, when I first joined OKC, I approached the writing of this narrative section as an inventory of who I was at the time. I’d been through some big changes before mid-2012, so it was a good time to summarize. It was a really good exercise and helped me to gel. Time for an update.

The gist is, through adversity, things have gotten even better.

I am looking for a woman who is, or is trying to be, the same kind of person I’m trying to be: A genuinely loving person who wants love in return. Someone who, in all parts of her life, tries to serve people.
What I’m doing with my life
Don’t overthink this one; tell us what you’re doing day-to-day.
Getting back on track. Not doing things I don’t like to do when I don’t have to do them.

I’d been in solo law practice for four years, was very happy, when I decided I wanted to see if I could work for another human being, so I humbled myself and became another lawyer’s associate. Turns out, I can work for another human being, but I still don’t like to. But I was working twice as hard and making the same amount of money as a solo. I became miserable. My spiritual practice declined and I was close to not liking myself. So last month I returned to solo practice. Instant happiness.

During this brief miserable period, with the help of a skilled psychotherapist, I became aware of a couple things about myself. These were very deep things, things I wasn’t conscious of, yet were making me behave in ways I could not explain. Once I discovered these things, I saw my life differently and stopped behaving badly. A certain burden was lifted.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Not panicking.
Spelling, vocabulary, and grammar. That is, writing.
Listening with understanding and empathy.
Sex, when it’s with a woman who has entwined her spirit with mine.
Chivalry, politeness, and formality.
Being delighted: If I like you, I will compliment you freely.
The first things people usually notice about me
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
Wow, what a mustache.
He should shave it.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Help your potential matches find common interests.
I like the unusual.

BOOKS: Infinite Jest (twice!), The Road (utterly compelling), The Complete Stories (of Flannery O'Connor). Last five books read: "Steps," by Jerzy Kosinki; "Purity of Heart Is To Will One Thing," by Soren Kierkegaard; "How To Argue and Win Every Time," by Gerry Spence; "Both Flesh and Not," by David Foster Wallace; "My Struggle: Book 2," by Karl Ove Knausgaard. Currently reading "The Painted Bird," by Jerzy Kocinski. I read what others and The New Yorker suggest. I read some magazines, like Runners World, Men's Health, Rolling Stone, Details, The New Yorker.

MOVIES: Two I could watch over and over: Pulp Fiction, Glengarry Glen Ross. I'd like to watch more movies, but (a) I'm really into TV series and (b) I need a knowledgeable guide.

TV: I've seen most of the epic series, like Breaking Bad, The Wire, The Sopranos, Deadwood. Currently: Game of Thrones, The Walking Dead, The Newsroom, The Good Wife, Girls (really delighted by that one); The Leftovers, The Strain, There is a lot of great TV out there right now; things have really changed since I had the "Kill Your TV" bumper sticker. I watch an hour a day, working through a series with OnDemand. I'll take suggestions.

MUSIC: I'll speak in terms of Pandora "radios": Grimes, Crystal Castles, LCD Soundsystem, Sonic Youth, The Black Angels, Yoga (hey), Hot Chip, My Bloody Valentine, Funki Porcini, Radiohead, Nirvana.

FOOD: Sushi, dhal, Killer Burger in NE Portland, BBQ, beans and rice, kim chi, Jelly Bellys, Greek yogurt, Bollywood Theatre is such a trip every time, Reverend's BBQ. Some meals are memorable: stuffed veal at The Poor Italian in Seattle, bone-in ribeye at The Ringside.
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
My son.
Something to think about.
An iPhone, it seems.
A Mini Cooper.
Water. I really love drinking water.
I'll think of another.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
How to think better and behave better. I know I spend at least five hours a week doing that.
My posture.
How to solve a problem that’s come up.
How I can be just a little bit more honest next time.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
Weeks 1 and 3: Decompressing by reading or watching TV and certainly not working.
Weeks 2 and 4: Connecting with my 7-year-old son, putting him to bed, then decompressing by reading or watching TV and etc.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
I’m an empty essay… fill me out!
I have really ugly, misshapen feet. I look at myself in the mirror and say, "How can you even stand with feet like that?"
You should message me if
Offer a few tips to help matches win you over.
If you think you have something to write that will spark my interest. Some unusual question or issue to discuss.