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  • Ages 18-99
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Last online
Today – 12:38am
Straight, Heteroflexible
5' 9" (1.75m)
Body Type
Average build
Not at all
Agnosticism and laughing about it
Space camp
Doesn’t have kids
My self-summary
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Creative nerdy type who oughta know better. Awkwardly charming, or so I've been told; I'm often either the weirdest, most outspoken person in the room or the most reserved and observational, depending on context.
What I’m doing with my life
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Contemplating the next big move but doing more than ok for the time being. Writing boring software for interesting companies. Really I should be writing interesting software for myself. Considering getting back into video/film and photography, even if only for cathartic reasons.
I’m really good at
Go on, brag a little (or a lot). We won’t judge.
Seeing the bigger picture. Getting lost in (and occasionally failing) the details. Explaining things. Stuff.
The first things people usually notice about me
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From what I gather, something unexpected yet aesthetically pleasing about my appearance: "your eyelashes are impossibly long", "you are pretty yet handsome", "you are [or are not] {insert random ethnicity here}", "your tattoos are weird...tell me all about them." I'd say sometimes these statements are off-putting but it depends on with whom I'm speaking.

After that, the way I speak, the volume at which I speak, or just my tendency to ramble about things only I and people like myself care for.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
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I mostly read non-fiction. While I'm in love with perusing book stores, the fiction section tends to scare me; A badly written non-fiction book can still serve it's purpose, but a fiction book's always a gamble that you agree with some asshole that he or she's a good writer. It's like - when you first start adulting - and you have to eat some of those meals that you f*cked up during preparation need to eat to live.

Instead of listing a bunch of books to try to impress you, I'll give you this: a world-class tap-dancer (seen Happy Feet 2?) once took a look at my bookshelf and said "whosever book collection this is will probably be assassinated one day." My shelf consists of books about political activism, the conceptualization and building of complex social and/or technical systems, art catalogues, serial killers, self-help, and nazis, soo...I knew exactly what he meant despite coyly inquiring.

Still though, I am eerily obsessed with Dune :) Waaay better than Starwars. Pop-culture got it all wrong.

Heavily into metal, reverently into hip-hop, casually into almost any other genre you can think of (in the past two weeks I've spun bossa nova, bluegrass, and jazz).

Also pretty into cinema (film school was the shit) and have a soft spot for terribly nuanced narrative structure and a unique, appealing visual aesthetic. Big closet anime fan here.

If you do nothing else with your life, watch The Americans - a show about deep cover Russian spies in America, loosely based on real events. Go now, do it - it's f*cking brilliant!
The six things I could never do without
Think outside the box. Sometimes the little things can say a lot.
Dextrous fingers & hands,
Tools with which to tinker,
People to bounce ideas off of,
Content that moves one emotionally,
Gorgeous scenery,
Passport & an exit plan to a villainous volcano lair. I see you Elon Musk.
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Global warming, lunch, or your next vacation… it’s all fair game.
Software development. Film & narrative archetype. Hip Hop. Metal. siphonophores(.org). The uplifting future vs a solemn singularity. Whether broken social systems are beyond repair. The interior decoration of my newfound villain's lair. Branding, letterhead, and a general theme for said lair. Self-fulfilling prophecies.
On a typical Friday night I am
Netflix and takeout, or getting your party on — how do you let loose?
In the city w/ friends, watching live music, making live music, or discussing code


At a party somewhere, probably in Brooklyn, trolling hipsters


In Jersey w/ the best friends, taking over the world.

Occasionally successful at pulling off the "friend circle merge" of all three.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
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Closet athlete; There's rarely been a time I haven't done some kind of regular, physical activity despite coming off as (and sometimes just being?) a stuffy indoors type. I don't believe in superstitions per se but am far more superstitious than one might expect. Ethical pervert.
You should message me if
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You are versatile; You can nerd out about things with me yet appreciate (and preferably take part in) the creative. I can take you anywhere and you'd know how to act. You're a woman who knows what she wants (or knows that she doesn't know) but you won't mince words or feelings to avoid confrontation or hedge your bets.