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My self-summary
An OKCupid friend once said: "I like the way you interact. It's less pressure than a lot of people. I didn't need to put on airs. You smile, speak openly, express opinions, share knowledge, and you're...welcoming."

Progressive, forward thinking, liberal, feminist, possibly socialist, pro-equality, scotch/bourbon and third-wave coffee enthisiast. Amateur awesome beard grower, craft beer home brewer, cat-obsessed man.

Just retook the Myers Briggs and came out as an ENFP. Was an ENFJ last time I took it. Extroverted introvert fits kind of nicely.

I really really really hate the suburbs. The idea of living in them makes me wanna barf. Definitely a city person. There will be no white picket fence in my future.

I'm a HUGE Harry Potter fan. I feel this is important to put out there. You will either find it adorably endearing or head shakingly nerdy.

I really like burritos.

I'm kind of clumsy sometimes.

I'm a terrible homemaker.

I'm really bad at remembering song titles, movie titles, actors names, and character names when I'm actually trying to make a point or refer to them in conversation. It's like a chronic brain fart hah.

I've been playing guitar for 10 years. I've written 20-30 songs, and have 20-30 I haven't finished. Yes, I will sing and play them for you :) I used to play open mic nights when I was in college, but haven't in years.

Geeky/nerdy girls apply within.

Also, I think visible tattoos, freckles, septum piercings, and current/future cat ladies are very attractive :-)

Here's a couple of things that will make me sound like an ass:

It seems a lot of people on here like the characterize themselves as "down to earth". Know what that says to me? You're boring.

Apparently a lot of people "like to laugh and have fun". Really? You thought that was an important thing to point out about yourself? You know, I can't remember the last time I met a person who liked to laugh and have fun.

I will judge you by your tattoos.
What I’m doing with my life
I'm a (full-time and freelance) Art Director/Designer. I have my own place in Squirrel Hill. I have a car. An amazing girlfriend, who is also my best friend. Life is pretty darn good!

Started going back to the gym and eating better. Once the weather improves, I'll add riding my Raleigh Port Townsend bicycle. If you want to go riding with me, drop me a note!
I’m really good at
Reading people. Design. Beard growing. Cooking. Organizing. Parallel parking. Kissing. Not doing the dishes (even though I purchased a dishwasher).
The first things people usually notice about me
My beard. Then my glasses. And my tattoos if I'm wearing short sleeves.
Favorite books, movies, shows, music, and food
Authors: J.K. Rowling, Paulo Coelho, Michael Chabon, Tom Robbins, Chuck Palahniuk, Neil Gaiman

Almost Famous, Across the Universe, The Lord of the Rings Trilogy, Indiana Jones Trilogy, Star Wars Saga, Harry Potter, Fight Club, Shawshank Redemption, Catch Me If You Can, Labyrinth, Dark Crystal, Mel Brooks movies, Monty Python, Kill Bill, Pixar films (Finding Nemo, Ratatouille and Up are big favs), Miyazaki films.

Gurren Lagann, Kill la Kill, Magi, Sword Art Online, Attack on Titan, Berzerck, Samurai Champloo, Samurai 7, Noragami, Okami-san and Her Seven Companions, Ghost Hunt, Spice and Wolf

How I Met Your Mother, Breaking Bad, Walking Dead, Big Bang Theory, Parks and Recreations, Bob's Burgers, Futurama, Adventure Time and Regular Show.

Music (in no particular order):
Recent Additions: Old Crow Medicine Show, The Low Anthem, Great Bloomers, Passenger, Hargo, The Winter Sounds

The Beatles, Mumford & Sons, Noah and the Whale, Butch Walker, Simon & Garfunkel, James Taylor, Mason Jennings, City and Colour, Bon Iver, Cat Stevens, Led Zeppelin, Dave Matthews (occasionally), The Decemberists, Derby, Avett Brothers, Enter the Haggis, The Pogues, Flogging Molly, Dropkick Murphies, Fleet Foxes, Frightened Rabbit, Glen Hansard, Josh Ritter, Newton Faulkner, Ryan Montbleau Band, The Bravery, Band of Horses, Pete Bjorn and John, Angus and Julia Stone, Edward Sharpe & The Magnetic Zeros, Cage the Elephant, Matthew and the Atlas, Of Monsters and Men, Skinny Lister, Fun., Grouplove, Imagine Dragons, The Tallest Man on Earth, Two Door Cinema Club, and so on and so forth...
The six things I could never do without
1. My best friend
2. The Beatles
3. Red wine or whisky
4. Intimacy (Emotional and Physical)
5. Internet
6. My iPhone (sad but true)
I spend a lot of time thinking about
Equality, Southern "heritage" and racism in the U.S., white privilege, wishing we were more like the rest of the civilized world when it comes to paid time off and healthcare, the GOP clown car of potential candidates for 2016.
On a typical Friday night I am
There's no good answer here that doesn't sound cliche or trite. I'm perfectly happy going out for drinks or doing dinner and a movie. Also, if I don't have any plans, I'm perfectly content to stay at home.
The most private thing I’m willing to admit
Probably one of the more important things to know about me is that I practice polyamory, also known as consensual non-monogamy. For those who don't know what this means, follow this link: I'm not against monogamy, and believe that for most people, its the best arrangement. Always interested and happy to talk to like-minded folks. However, I do not think that this defines who I am as a person, nor does it encompass all aspects of my life. I'm just a normal guy, with different dating practices.

– I periodically sleep walk.
– I'm afraid of bears, wolves and sharks.
– I like Harry Potter more than the average 12 year old girl.
– I'm also on FetLife.
– DD/lg

P.S. Putting "I'm on OkCupid" in this section is not private. If anyone reads your profile, we already know this. You can do better than that.
You should message me if
I will likely NOT message you first. Not because I don't want to, but rather because I know most people don't have the same approach to dating/relationships as myself. So...

If you are (most of the following):
– a city dweller (East End+++)
– liberal
– educated
– have your own place
– have a career
– well-read and musically well-versed
– nerdy/geeky
– you have tattoos or piercings
– are sexually progressive and open minded (note: this is not an offer, invitation or guarantee for sex)
– actively practice/interested in/curious about polyamory of other types of consensual non-monogamy

You should avoid messaging me if:
– You are from Cleveland/OH (last two gf's were from there; I'm done)
– Conservative
– You're even the slightest bit country
– You're wearing camo orthe Rebel Flag, or are holding a gun in any of your photos
– Religion plays a big part in your life

I had more here before, but it all just sounded negative. Best to focus on what I do want :-)